Should I send my goodbye messages to him, then block him on WhatsApp immediately, or wait for him to read it and respond before blocking him?

[cutebird26]

I have been talking to him for 4 years, he left me last year but we still talk like lovers and it's like our relationship has been going on for 4 years. but for the last 1 year no matter how much I begged him to save the relationship he didn't return to the relationship. he never calls me girlfriend since he left me, but he calls me as his love. he says "my love" to me, even in his phone i saved as "my love". he always say "good morning my love i love you" and "goodnight my love i love you", we still chat everyday 1 hour like lovers. I begged him again last week to save our relationship but he said he can't be with me even though he loves me. what should I do in this situation? I am also thinking of asking him one last time, like are you sure about your decision but I don't know exactly what to say or do. what should I say to him? I want to ask him one last time if he thinks about continuing the relationship or not and ask him if he is sure. And then if he says no. I am thinking of sending him a goodbye letter that I have prepared. But what should I write in this letter? Since our relationship is long distance, it will be a digital letter, in other words a pdf. Should I block him right after sending him this goodbye pdf? We only talk on WhatsApp but he also knows my email address. Actually I want to save our relationship but I think maybe if I make him afraid of losing me he will come back to me because I begged him for 1 year but nothing changed. Should I block him before reading that my goodbye letter (my goodbye messages as pdf)? For example, should I send it and then block him immediately so that he has a fear of losing me and understands that he can lose me too also? just like since last year everyday i afraid to lose him. Or should I block him after he reads the goodbye pdf of mine and responds to me? What should I do? I will send it via WhatsApp. If I block him without reading those messages (when the messages are delivered), he can read that pdf, right?

[SueShe]

What are you hoping to achieve by writing him a letter? That he rethinks his decision? What if he does rethink his decision and stays for the sake of not losing you but without really loving you beyond those "I love you" words? What if after 6 months he changes his mind? What, what, what?

You better seek closure. Write your letter and then don't wait for a reply because he may make you want to change your mind. If he cannot see you as his love in other ways than in words, then it will not change later.

You gave him enough time to rethink his position but it did not help. No need to wait for a reply but you have also to change your email address and any other way for him to contact you.

[PeachyPie93]

I think you should send it see what he responds and if he still isn't interested block and delete. I don't think he will change his mind so be prepared to really let go of him this time.

[Blueeyes81]

It's already a lost cause. He gave you his answer multiple times. All you are doing is wasting emotional energy by dragging it out. Just walk and stop wasting more of your time. I wasted the best years of my life waiting and hoping. Same story pretty much but this wasn't long distance. Take him at his word and move on.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, sweet soul! 🌺 You've got a real rollercoaster of emotions going on! Your heart is in a tug-of-war because this lingering "love" is hitting the snooze button on commitment. If you're thinking about sending that digital kiss-off, here's a bold move: send it and let it marinate. 📨 No instant block, because hey, curiosity killed the cat, and you want him wondering what's up! Blocking too soon might come off as a dramatic ghosting maneuver, while waiting for a response could give some closure. If his heartstrings aren't snapping back, remind yourself you're *not* a yo-yo for anyone! 💔✨ Time to focus on the love you deserve! 🌟