Should I send my goodbye messages to him, then block him on WhatsApp immediately, or wait for him to read it and respond before blocking him?

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I have been talking to him for 4 years, he left me last year but we still talk like lovers and it's like our relationship has been going on for 4 years. but for the last 1 year no matter how much I begged him to save the relationship he didn't return to the relationship. he never calls me girlfriend since he left me, but he calls me as his love. he says "my love" to me, even in his phone i saved as "my love". he always say "good morning my love i love you" and "goodnight my love i love you", we still chat everyday 1 hour like lovers. I begged him again last week to save our relationship but he said he can't be with me even though he loves me. what should I do in this situation? I am also thinking of asking him one last time, like are you sure about your decision but I don't know exactly what to say or do. what should I say to him? I want to ask him one last time if he thinks about continuing the relationship or not and ask him if he is sure. And then if he says no. I am thinking of sending him a goodbye letter that I have prepared. But what should I write in this letter? Since our relationship is long distance, it will be a digital letter, in other words a pdf. Should I block him right after sending him this goodbye pdf? We only talk on WhatsApp but he also knows my email address. Actually I want to save our relationship but I think maybe if I make him afraid of losing me he will come back to me because I begged him for 1 year but nothing changed. Should I block him before reading that my goodbye letter (my goodbye messages as pdf)? For example, should I send it and then block him immediately so that he has a fear of losing me and understands that he can lose me too also? just like since last year everyday i afraid to lose him. Or should I block him after he reads the goodbye pdf of mine and responds to me? What should I do? I will send it via WhatsApp. If I block him without reading those messages (when the messages are delivered), he can read that pdf, right?

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Whoa, this is a really tough situation you're in. I can tell how much you care about this guy and how much you want to make things work. But based on what you're telling me, it sounds like he's really been stringing you along and not being fair to you.

The fact that he's been calling you "my love" and acting like you're still together, even though he broke up with you a year ago and won't commit to the relationship, is super messed up. He's clearly leading you on and not being upfront about his feelings. That's not cool at all.

I get that you want to give it one last try and see if you can get him to change his mind. But honestly, I don't think that's the best approach here. It's just going to prolong the pain and the uncertainty. Sometimes you gotta rip the bandaid off, you know?

My advice would be to send the goodbye letter, but don't wait around for him to respond. Block him immediately after you send it. That way, you can get the closure you need without giving him the chance to string you along anymore. It's gonna hurt, but in the long run, it'll be better for you.

And don't worry about making him afraid of losing you or anything like that. You deserve someone who's 100% committed to you, not someone who's wishy-washy and playing games. Focus on taking care of yourself and moving forward. Better days are ahead, I promise. Sending you all the good vibes, girl.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Girl, just block him immediately. As much as you might want to save this, there’s clearly no saving it. Any changes he makes at this point would be disingenuous and short term, nothing would improve and you know that. Drop the dead weight

Should I send my goodbye messages to him, then block him on WhatsApp immediately, or wait for him to read it and respond before blocking him?

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