My girlfriend misses her ex A LOT and he is was better than me. What should I do?

[tugazorean]

We are dating since February and we started getting closer on October 2014. They met each other in December (2013) and started dating in the summer. She broke up with him in September because she lost interest, but she still loved him. She loved him, but she wasn't in love with him anymore. He got so fucked up that he absolutelly stopped talking to her and even looking at her. She loves me and she is IN LOVE with me, a lot, but she misses him so much that she can't stand. She cries like 5 nights a week because of him. I asked her why did she miss him and she told ''I miss him. And I miss listening to him. And what he used to say to me. And how much he used to show how in love he was with me.''. Besides, he was kind of her type of guy, he was basically a bad boy that acted good with her. Well I'm not. I don't make her feel that way, I want to but I don't know how. She is really depressed (she had lots of other life issues) and mostly because of him. What should I do? I know she still loves him and that she loves me. The difference is that she is in love with me and not with him.

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SHE HAS LOTS OF SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND TENDENCIES.
I can't dump her, and I honestly don't want to do that, I love her.

[XRabbitHeartX]

I'm sorry to say but no she doesn't love you. She loves her ex. No girl who is over her ex will act the way she does and if she truly loves you she wouldn't be crying over some other guy. You don't see me crying over past lovers when I'm with someone new... that's not normal. You should break up with her and move on. Till the day she is ready to be fully 100% committed to you and truly in a position to love you and just you, she won't be worth it. I think you can do a lot better.

[tugazorean]

I can't dump her ( check the update ). It's mostly because he was a great friend to her, not as a lover, but yeah she likes to be and feel loved because she can't love herself.

[XRabbitHeartX]

So you are willing to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you? I understand she may be this and that but at some point you'll have to move on...

[tugazorean]

How do you know she doesn't love me? I feel loved when we are together

[XRabbitHeartX]

"she misses him so much that she can't stand"
"She cries like 5 nights a week because of him."
"''I miss him. And I miss listening to him. And what he used to say to me. And how much he used to show how in love he was with me.''. "

This is all the proof you need to understand she loves her ex and still has feelings for him quite bad. This is not normal behavior inside a relationship. In fact it's abnormal to be with someone who still cries over their ex boyfriend or girlfriend. No one does that besides her apparently...

[ImmaCatchYou]

Well, there's really no point in dating her if she misses him. She probably used you as a rebound...
And just from reading the words she said to you, that would have torn me apart if I were you O_O I know you said she loves you and all but from her actions it doesn't really seem like it... correct me if I'm wrong. I don't think she's over him at allll and you deserve to be happy with your relationship and not worry about this situation! :-/

[tugazorean]

( check the update ) I don't think so, I was already in love with her in December and she waited until she loved me. Well it did torn me apart. I am happy with her, it's just that this situation is worrying me a lot.

[ImmaCatchYou]

since she's very suicidal I'd get her some help... when did she become suicidal? Also, i dont think there's much you can do to be like the guy she misses

[pips11]

maybe she just misses parts of their relationship, but if she's with you she should be thinking of you. I know I miss my ex sometimes, but I am single and it's only when I am alone I sometimes think of him, yet if I was with a new guy I wouldn't and she should stop thinking of him and be more into you

[tugazorean]

I guess

[pips11]

SHE HAS LOTS OF SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND TENDENCIES.
I can't dump her, and I honestly don't want to do that, I love her.. don't be black mailed into loving someone

[Domingo]

let her go bro. No way in hell should your girl love you and another guy. If she really was IN LOVE with you, then her ex would not be an issue for her. This is a crucial age for you to learn how to recognize when to hold on and when to let go. Her actions are telling you that her heart is not 100% with you. No person should be with someone who is half hearted

[tugazorean]

Shouldn't I wait until she forgets him? ( check the update )

[aficionado]

Dump her asap, and find someone else who doesn't compare you to her ex or misses him.

[tugazorean]

I can't ( check the update )

[TonyRyan]

Time to move on, guy. This won't end well for you, its ridiculous.

[tugazorean]

Check the update, please.

[TonyRyan]

You're an idiot. Move on. She DOESN'T LOVE YOU. Staying with someone just because of suicidal tendencies is like staying together just for the kids. It's not healthy for anyone involved.

[tugazorean]

It's not only because of that. I don't want to leave her