My friend with benefits told me she misses her ex boyfriend, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Her ex has a girlfriend now. Clearly she has unresolved issues, and she sometimes wants to talk about guys she has been with... I am uncomfortable with it and told her that before. I am in a dilemma if I should cut it off. What do you think?

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+1 y

She didn't saty it in a way to end things up with me, she just said it as a "by the way" thing.

[Guy13]

You shouldn't be wrapped up in this friends with benefits but now that you are do NOT "catch feelings" now. Dead meat don't have feelings although sometimes fresh roadkill does twitch. So, she's going back to the Ex.

[SnowedIn]

Your call. She's an friends with benefits. Doesn't really matter if she misses someone or what.

The important point is that she doesn't seem to care that you told her you're uncomfortable with it (although you don't specify if you're uncomfortable with her talking about it or uncomfortable with her missing the ex -- that distinction matters).

I guess I'd tell her one more time. And if you're still uncomfortable about it, then end it. It's friends with benefits.

[KittyKat90210]

I don't know that you should end it because she misses her ex. You said you're friends with benefits, not boyfriend and girlfriend

[Anonymous]

You’ve set your boundaries and she still crossed them. What you do about it depends on how much you value yourself.

[Asker]

Good point

[coachTanthony]

Just say sorry to hear that and move onto another subject. You cannot become her bestie if you want this friends with benefits to continue. That is for her and her girlfriends to cry about.

[Mayo503]

It all depends on how you feel….
If it just friends with benefits what can you say about it… because that’s all it is …. Benefits
So your feed up about hearing about it off her
You should tell her about how you feel about it
But it’s up to you ….
Good luck

[Keishio]

Clues in the name 'friends with benefits'. You're still supposed to be friends.

[Anonymous]

But you are her friend. That’s the friend part. Being there for each other. Duh