My boyfriend is not communicating with me?

[Anonymous]

I keep telling my boyfriend that I want us to communicate more and he finds nothing wrong with it & blow off my feelings and everytime we get on the phone he wants to hangup on me when we're having discussions. I feel alone in my relationship because, I feel like I'm making much more of a effort to communicate with him and I'm tired of getting rejected by him. I can tell him my concerns about our communication and he won't take me serious and how I feel. He always hangs up on me and I keep telling him I don't like but it's the same thing everytime and it's hurting me and I keep telling him that.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

He is being self consumed with him self my cousins
like that but he needs to listen to what you say after all
he wants you to hear what he needs to say or something
on his mind yes might have to give this guy the boot unless
he's going to do his part as well if not than there's no use.

[Asker]

I always listen to everything he says and fulfill his needs but when I want to talk about how I feel about how we never have deep conversations or talk he hangs up on me. I feel like a sex toy because we always have sex but I keep telling him how I feel and how I want more communication between us and he just blows it off and it hurts me a lot.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

So many men hate me cause i put women before myself
but your right he should be willing to listen and for him to use
you as a sex toy is no good something needs to wake him up
some men don't know how lucky they have it to have a girl
whose seriously into them i never had it that lucky like him.

[Asker]

I don't understand why men would hate you for that. I believe that, that is a good thing that you do because, it shows you care for that person in your life. I feel like we have so much sex and that's it. I always tell him I want to communicate more like deeply be able to connect on a different level. I tell him I'm unhappy with our communication and I want us to communicate and he said "maybe you should be single since you're unhappy" & I cried because, it hurt me that he would even say that because, I want to be with him and I feel like he doesn't even care that much.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes he shouldn't be so selfish like he is that's for sure
i never had sex in my life i know it's hard to believe but
it was my choice cause i don't want give myself just to
any woman whose not going to like me or love me
he really has gull to come out and tell you maybe you
should be single no way he should appreciate the good
girlfriend you have been with him gosh men would give
their right hand to have a nice girl hell i sure would.

[Asker]

Wow! That's amazing and it's fine. Safe guarding your heart is the most important thing. I talked to him lastnight about how I feel and he said that he thinks I only care about myself and he completely hung up on me in the middle of me talking and he said he's done with me. I was so hurt this morning, I haven't been sleep and I've been crying all morning because, I keep explaining to him I love him so much and he just hung up on me and said he's done so I blocked him from my phone. I tried calling him so many times but he ignored me and it hurt my feelings. I left him voicemails and everything just to see why he hung up and how he felt so now I blocked him from my phone, he keeps hanging up on me on the phone.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Your so nice to this guy but yet he has to treat you like that not fair at all
i hope someday you can put this with him behind you cause you deserve
better :-)

[Asker]

You feel that I should breakup with him?

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You do whatever your heart tells you, he should be treating you better
how he's treating you now is not too good.

[Asker]

I feel that I'm tired of crying at night

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thank You for Mho:)
I hope things get better for you :)

[Anonymous]

Maybe tell him what you mean by communication. If it's anything like your post, seems like you're using him as a human snot rag and he gets sick of it.

[Asker]

What? I tell him all the time and I explain to him in detail.

[Opinion Owner]

Fine. Try me. Define what you mean by communication.

[Asker]

-Talking to each other back and forth and having a open discussion about different topics involving different opinions and perspectives on things.
-What goals you want in life
-How's your day going, how you're feeling and telling each other things openly with a open mind and a postive outlook.
-Uplifting each other if we had a bad day, anything were we can confide in each other and share our daily ups and downs with no judgement.

[Opinion Owner]

Subtext: you want him to emote with you. Get in touch with your feelings.

Most guys hate that, AND aren't good with it. Some guys will put up with it, others won't. Here's the thing: if you're emotions are usually negative, and you're always trying to tell him about your stress, and problems, what he/she said and made you feel, he's going to feel like a human snot rag--like I already said.

How often are you expressing uplifting, positive emotions? How often are you trying to get him to emote? You might just be overwhelming him to the point that it's easier to tune you out rather than deal with you.

[Asker]

I'm positive everyday and I don't tell him anything that's negative, only postive. I just talk to him regular and that seems to be a problem for him, I'm always nice to him and there to hear what he has to say all the time. He's not a snot rag so with all due respect I would rather you not say that.

[LousyLoudMusic]

just leave him, and even if he decide to take you serious, it probably only stay that in a short period of time until he becomes an asshat again.

[Asker]

That sounds exactly how it would be completely because, I keep crying everytime and telling him how I feel and it's been a year and a couple months and I keep telling him about our communication and he keeps saying I'm rushing and I'm not I'm just talking to him about my concerns

[MaddieSouthpurple]

break up maybe that'll be a wake up call..

[Asker]

I haven't talked to him all day and blocked him from my phone because, he's not understanding.

[MaddieSouthpurple]

Huh.. maybe just move on. Thats probably best..

[Asker]

We haven't talked all day and I'm tired of it and you're right.

[MaddieSouthpurple]

good luck with him..