My boyfriend told another girl he loves her?

[Anonymous]

alright, so I love my boyfriend to death. I'd do anything for him. and maybe I sound like a little cry baby for worrying about this. but I do. so, we talk talked for a while before dating of course, we got close and got to know each other. I knew all about him. I knew about his last heart break. it was terrible and hated the girl so much at the time, she hurt a guy that didn't deserve it. But I was also so jealous of her (she's really pretty,) and the situation I was in didn't make it worse. so we started dating right? well about two days into the relationship he told her he still loved her. then he says he loves her to death and that she may not only be his "friend" forever. they continued to talk normally for the next two/ three months until I said that it bothered me. he heated her a little after she called me a slut, but the thing is now I feel like I wasn't good enough. we try to put this behind us but we're going on 5 months and I know that isn't long but I love him. I'm only fifteen while he's seventeen but this doesn't feel like puppy love. and for anyone who knows me, the know I'm such a depressed and insecure person. I have never had a high self esteem and this has made it plummet. I'm getting odd vibes. he loves me and I know that but it's hard to forget and I need advice. when I try to talk to him about it he cries. he loves me more than he did her and I know that because we lasted longer, but damn. it's bothering me so much. advice?

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+1 y

he spoils me too death and he appreciates me as much as I appreciate him but it's confusing and hard at times. I don't want something like this to ruin us.

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+1 y

I know a lot of people are saying to leave him but that's just the thing, I can't. I don't want to do that. we got together long after they broke up but still yet. she was the one who was constantly messaging him and he did message back. I just don't know how to put it behind me when it's so important to me.

[Paris13]

You both are never going to put the past behind you if you don't Try and help the situation at hand with this man. I feel, too, you probably are his Rebound, however, if you show him you are this "Depressed and insecure person," you will find yourself losing him to even another and Not just the one Whom-----May not only be his "friend" forever.
It's afresh break up between the both of them and he hasn't begun to lick his war wounds just yet. He probably will have feelings for her to maybe even last a life time because she most likely was his First love and that is a hard thing to compete with.
You have known from the beginning of this lost but not quite forgotten beguine that he had feelings for her and you knew what you may be in for. So if you don';t want o add more salt to the wound, hang in there, show him just how much your undying love is and hope for the best with your relationship.
If you want to fight fire here, dear, stay strong, try to leave the past behind with what had happened with them before and just remember, you have him now.
Good luck. xx

[Asker]

he hates her now.
he hated her after she called me a whore multiple times. I just don't know how to recover. I don't want this to ruin a pontentially great relationship.

[Paris13]

So continue to build and nurture and nurse your relationship and tell him no matter what, if he wants to be in a relationship with you, keep her in the back of his mind and no more to be said... no more contact either.. you both may have something special so don't let a rotten egg get in the way, lick your own wounds and get past it, sweetie. xx

[Asker]

thanks so much

[Paris13]

Oh, so welcome, sweetie. xx

[SpicedPumpkin]

You aren't a crybaby at all. And no don't feel like you weren't good enough. It's HIS responsibility as your boyfriend to make you his priority and not say things like that to other girls! I'm sorry this happened to you. I would have a hard time trusting him after that.

It can be very hard to forget about things that have happened in the past. I have the same problem. All you can do is talk about it and decide what's best for you, and if you do want to stay with him just see if you can try to forget it with time. 5 months is still fairly fresh, it might take more time to let yourself heal from that.

[Asker]

thanks for your advice.
I want to try and forget, definitely. I don't wanna ruin a potentially great relationship. at least I can remember this, she had his past but I have his future. 💘
thanks.

[SpicedPumpkin]

No problem, I hope things work out well for you! Good luck! :)

[saraah93]

Honestly, I didn't even bother to read the details of your answers, I read the question and I know what to advise: Dump him. Now.
Or else, you will have to stay underconfident and sad about yourself all your life. No girl deserves for her boyfriend to say he loves someone else.

[dmb102196]

This is heavy you do need to watch a little I know because most people think I'm one of the nicest guys but about 7 months ago I left my girlfriend at the time for a girl I just met I felt horrible about it I knew I was being a jerk and I told my ex girlfriend that I was so sorry I was literally crying about it she said she hated me and I told her how I deserved her hate then she said she forgave me and that she wanted to get back together but I didn't want to hurt her again so I told her that I couldn't and that was it I lost her the girl I left her for is now my girlfriend and I love her but I'm worried I'll do the something again. So just watch him a little. Let him be friends with this girl but you need to make sure you hold on to him. Just make sure you give him some room tho

[Asker]

he hates her now.
he hated her after she called me a whore multiple times. I just don't know how to recover. I don't want this to ruin a pontentially great relationship. he doesn't want room.
he doesn't even want to be her friend.

[dmb102196]

Oh well in that case don't worry God is always at work for the good of those who love him

[Asker]

thanks so much for your advice!

[RationalLioness]

I think it's odd that you're still calling him your boyfriend. Once he says that--unless if they are amazing friends--we're over.

[Klaatu51]

was he drunk when he told her?

[Asker]

no. completely sober.

[Klaatu51]

guess he's not loyal at u :)

[Asker]

I mean it was two days in and he hasn't done it since. it's human nature to make mistakes. he hates her now.
he hated her after she called me a whore multiple times. I just don't know how to recover. I don't want this to ruin a pontentially great relationship. at least I have a future with him and she had a past I guess.

[iloveher26]

You need to leave him... He still loves her...

[Asker]

he hates her now.
he hated her after she called me a whore multiple times. I just don't know how to recover. I don't want this to ruin a pontentially great relationship.

[iloveher26]

It's his choice... He should be with only with one girl... You or her...

[Asker]

we've talked about it and he regrets that so much. he said he didn't mean it, but that still cuts deep. it's unforgettable. but it's one of those things I have to work past in order for this thing to work, ya know?

[Anonymous]

How do you know he said he loved her?

[Anonymous]

Just leave him.

[ClariceOwen23]

Yeah just leav him

[Asker]

nah.