I'm not sure if it's because of acutal skin colour or moreso because of cultural/religious conflicts, but yeah, my parents were not too keen on me dating an Asian guy. Were never direct about it, but the side comments about how it should bother me that we would not be able to get married in the church if it came to that, certain Asian traditions/behaviours in regards to Asian coworkers of there's, etc..
It bothers me a lot when they do that because I'm really happy with him and honestly, I love how I get to experience a different culture than my own. I know it bothers my boyfriedn and he has mentioned that he feels a bit outcast by them but I assure him that's just how they are. Old school, outlandish values and beliefs.
Don't avoid meeting them. Meet them and look at them as just friends versus your boyfriend's family. Charm them, let them see that their son is happy with you regardless of differences in skin colour, and show them that their beliefs are not fully true.
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Some care some don't. He'll know if it's ok to introduce you yet or at all. I've known some that hated it but came round in yhe end, some that hated it and fell out forever and some that just don't care as long as she's a decent girl. Personally, I just ask white and Asian boys what their family is like and jokingly ask about if they'll be disappointed he's dating a black girl, then they feel like they can tell me more without me being too offended.
In my family, it's religious, rather than racial, differences that lead to objections. I say "to heck with silly prejudices -my man, my choice".
If this is something that's really bothering you, you need to talk with your boyfriend about it. You might just want to meet his folks and see how it goes.
I currently have a crush on an Asian girl. If she was my girlfriend, and i introduced her to my family, my mom wouldn't care, my dad would make some pervy joke about "Oh you dig them Asian chicks? You must have yellow fever" or something like that 😑. But my grandparents are the racist ones. They would all probably be against it, but i don't think they would say anything.
If i introdyced a black girl though... my whole family would object to it... Except for my dad (he happens to have a thing for black girls), so he would probably come up with some other pervy joke.
My family is weird...
Thats one thing i did think about a lot.
My family is very, Whats the word... 'Patriotic Brits'? I. e very racist. And, I think Black chicks are more attractive then White chicks. So, That would be a problem xD.
I think if i ever did have a Girlfriend who was of Darker skin, I Probably wouldn't tell me family. I wouldn't want her to feel upset like that.
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My family would care, well at least my dad. Ever since I was little he told me if I ever came home with a black or Asian guy or a guy with tattoos, piercings or dyed hair I would get spanked and kicked out of the house. So pretty much they would disown me. I don't care what they think though, if I love the guy then I will stay with him no mater what they say or do.
I don't think that my family would care, but if they did then that would be on them. I feel like you should just casually explain to him that you're a little worried about meeting his family because of the color thing. You never know, he may be feeling the same way.
My parents didn't even approve of my same skin color wife. I thought 'fuck up'. I didn't ever regret. They lost me then.
My parents said they dont discriminate. I know they've both dated outside their race. However, this past year, I liked this Arabic guy. My mom was like "No leave that alone. there's no telling what kind of things you'd be getting into." I knew what she meant, and I found it offensive. I was shocked and felt that was pretty discriminatory.
good lawd... i will continue to pray that maybe one day we will drive away from a tainted past that judged people based on their skin colour.
My family wouldn't care. But out of courtesy I'd give them a warning so they're not caught off guard when they meet the chick
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Just kidding my mom actually prefers if I date outside my racefortunately not... otherwise i'd disown em
Nah my parents wouldn't care.
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