she cut it bc she wanted to. if it bothers you break up.
what will yup do if you marry someone and their hair thins as they age. some women lose a lot of thickness and have to leave their hair short. will you divorce,. bcc if so you should;d let her know before you mARRY.
I dont like facial hair and it grosses me out I don't know if id break up. id like to think i wouldn't but who knows. i prefer long hair so i understand your feelings to a point but i dont think id break up if he cut his hair.
i dont think yo should stay bc ' hair grows back'. you can't rely on that bc she may not want it to grow back. its her call.
your anger is not justified. her hair bel;songs to her not you. if it others you to where you dont want her then be an adult. take responsibility for your feelings and break up. but feeling like she tricked you by being her is not acceptable.
people change and sometimes we can change with them sometimes we grow apart. you can't expect who you date to be the same. and you can't expect to change them as you want. they are a different person,.
but sounds like you're growing away from her and looked for an excise. probably should break up.
good luck.
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I may not fully understand the entire situation, but I had an ex who hates short hair as well. He didn't like me wearing it anyway but curly. If I wore it straight or even pulled it up off my neck, he freaked. He also disagreed with me getting my eyebrows waxed. I never once told him anything he did that bothered me. I figured we all have quirks.
I broke up with him and then chopped my hair off. Okay, not all the way, but it was shorter than my shoulders. I still looked girly. It felt good! Almost like I was set free.
Point of the story? I felt like he was trying to control me.. Even on the smallest things. He didn't want me to dye my hair, so I didn't, but I don't get why he got so worked up when I try to look pretty for him.
If she was just being a complete butthead about what you said, ask her why she did it deliberately. I would for sure let her know why I was upset. I would like to know why she felt like it was a good idea to get it done. Maybe she communicated with female friends and went with their input.
I don't like beards or long hair but if a guy I was with did that I wouldn't just lose my attraction to him and it wouldn't change my feelings for him in any way at all. Hell he could get fat but if I love him I love him still.
That said, if he got fat I would encourage him to get in shape. If he grew out his hair/got a beard and I thought it was horrible on him I would tell him I liked him better without it, but if he liked himself more with it/felt better I would let it go and get usedto it since its his body and it isn't hurting anyone.
I dated a girl who did this once, and I had broken up with her shortly after. Though are relationship was already rocky at that point, and she may have even been trying to agitate me, she actually did a complete crew cut though and was a bit of a nut.
I believe attraction is an important part of a relationship so really you can only weigh your options of how much it bothers you. I know I hate the look of girls with short hair, or at least I can't be attracted to it so it's a bit of a deal breaker. It's difficult if you're already in a relationship and you do like their other qualities, but there's not really anything you can do about it, either chose to accept it, or leave. it's not like she can get it back to how it was, and if she cut it short once, she's likely to do it again.
So sorry dude. I agree with all you said. It sucks big time this happend. Not sure what to tell you to do. Hopefully the lack of sex in the near future will inspire her to grow her hair back because if you're anything like me the desire for sex with her is probaly pretty much gone right?
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I totally get where you're coming from. This is pretty much like me saying to my boyfriend 'look, I really do not like/am not attracted to guys with a buzz cut/mohekan and a ridiculous Santa beard, so, please refrain from getting your hair/beard styled like that? Thanks' I also find short hair on girls hideous. She could be the most feminine girl in the world, but even at that, short hair does not look good. I'm traditional in the sense that I don't like short hair on girls and long hair on guys.
Either way, don't listen to what some of these girls are saying on here. You raised your concern to your girlfriend and she ignored it and didn't respect your thoughts. I don't blame you not being attracted to girls with short hair. Men are wired to find females with long flowing hair attractive, and that's that. She should have considered your opinion before doing this.Has she eaten any pussy lately? Fingered a girl? No?
I'd say she's not a lesbian. I spend 80% of my time bald as the day I was born and I still like men.
Relax. She likes the haircut and hair grows back.Is your attraction to her really gone now? Like, seriously? It all hinged on her hair style?
I think you're entitled to your opinion, and that it's okay for you to tell her west you think. But you've gotta accept that it's her body and her choice.Did you catch her fucking a woman after getting this new hair cut? Was she three fingers in with her new lesbian lover? Did she say," Man, I sure wish you had a vagina!" to you? If not, then she doesn't have a lesbian hair cut, she has a hair cut. You can dislike her new hair cut, but it's pretty fucked up that you see her completely differently now. You must have wanted to bury your dick in her hair if that's really the case. Also, she doesn't have to tell you when she's changing something, it's not really your business. If you really hate it that bad, tell her. And also tell her that she has to give you a formal notice before she changes anything at all so that she can dump your bitch ass.
A few years ago I cut my hair short. Just above my shoulders. My mother died of cancer, and I wanted to donate my hair to a charity who makes wigs for people dealing with cancer. I didn't ask my then boyfriend at the time. I just did it. He was shock, but still found me very beautiful. ( plus with a year it was almost back down near my waist again). My point is, I don't think it is the hair that is the problem, but the girl!. The hair is just an excuse, a way out, to break up with her. Time to take the exit ramp!.
Depends on how they changed their look and to what level they did so. If she went out and got a bunch of tattoos, I would honestly lose my attraction for her. Especially if she got them on her face.
In your case though, it's not a big deal. It's hair, it'll grow back.So she knows you hate it and did it anyway? Was she really ready for a change, tired of taking care of her long hair, or trying to piss you off? She probably wasn't trying to piss you off. She's probably just wanting to try a new trend. Be encouraged that a lot of women with short haircuts end up pretty much just missing their long hair and working on growing it out again like me:) Leave her alone about it. She may regret it and want to grow it out?
As weird as this sounds, break it off a bit... Not like break up with her, but create a little bit of distance, just enough that she realizes something is wrong. When she confronts you on it then politely bring it up by saying something like "You were absolutely gorgeous with your old hair, what made you decide on changing it?" A compliment yet a hint at that you are not a fan of what her hair looks like not. If things go smoothly she will talk about her feelings and your feelings on the matter and will probably agree to not cut it again, I mean she can't glue it back on you know. Hope this helps.
You have issues. When my mom cut her hair short, my dad told her she looked beautiful. If your girlfriends hairstyle changes how you feel about her, I doubt you even care about her or like her at all. by the way, you think women with short hair look like men?:
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They don't look like guys to me...If your relationship is already rockey then maybe it's a sign... but if it's just her hair that's a turn off, then don't break up over something that can grow back.
I love beards. And when my boyfriend shaves I get so sad. But it grows back, and then I'm happy :)I agree with you, pixie cuts are fucking awful, but don't dump her for it! if you really like her, you can wait till it grows back
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It's her damn hair. She can get it cut however she wants to. That said, if you're not attracted, you're not attracted, but she doesn't have to consult YOU to go get a damn haircut.
What is this, the 1920s?
Here's something that you can do: wait for the hair to grow back.You have serious issues. How she wants to wear her hair is her choice!!! If you aren't attracted to her anymore then she is better off without your sorry ass!
I know how you feel. All you can do is break up with her and find another girlfriend. Like for me, I’d break up with her if I was you and find another girl. Like for me if I was dating a girl and got a pixie cut or shaved her head, I’d break up with her in a second. I don’t want a girl/woman that looks like a fucking dude.
lol tell her you're going to gain 30 pounds of blubber and it will be so cute.
in all seriousness, tell her it really lowers how attractive you find her and ask her to agree to keep her hair long from now on.It's just hair. She'll change it 10,000 times. I suggest you get a buzz cut and grow a beard. . . . then try to be as understanding as she is.
It would suck but I would dump that girl so bad she wouldn't know what hit her
I'd tell her that her dazzling good looks are gone.
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