Retroactive jealousy?

Anonymous
My boyfriend has it. And it SUCKS! It's not like other guys who I've read about. He's not apologetic about it. He doesn't think it's wrong or irrational. He doesn't think he's the one with the problem. He's judgmental and cruel with me - no apologies. He says it's my fault for not thinking and not having self respect in the past, and that I should've thought about the consequences better. He's kind of a hypocrite, but he says it's different. We have similar pasts, with differences though. But he wasn't in love with every single one of the girls he hooked up with. Oh, but they knew each other for a long time, not like the guys I kissed who I had just met at the bar. I was a virgin. He wasn't.

I never get jealous of his past. It doesn't even feel like he's jealous of mine, either. He's so judgmental and cruel that it doesn't feel like jealousy. I try reassuring him a lot. Telling him he's the best. I'm so loving, AND FAITHFUL! And nope, nothing. In his head, he's always right, I'm always wrong.

I didn't volunteer this information. He asked. And whenever he asks, I oblige and answer. It doesn't just stop there. He gets angry. He judges me. He gets cruel. He's not like other men who learn a hard truth, and get a bit sad, but that's it. No, he's cruel and judgmental, and thinks that whatever it is I did wrong before I was with him, gives him a right to name call me or do whatever the hell he wants. And it's not a one time deal: he asks the same questions over and over, goes through the same details and situations over and over!

I know the obvious answer would be to walk away, but I love him a lot. I know that some men have successfully overcome it. Why can't he?
Retroactive jealousy?
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