Is this bad? I feel like a bad girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him very much.
But I think this one guy is good looking. Maybe its a tiny crush, I don't know. I just feel bad because I feel my attention should be for my boyfriend 100%.
Is this a normal feeling? I have no desire to be with this other guy at all. I just think he is good looking.

[Ziconic]

That's not a problem I don't think. When you're in a relationship, and you love the person, it's still okay to look. Just not touch. I don't think there's anything wrong with looking around, whenever your heart knows what it wants. What your heart wants can be different than your eyes. This new guy is something new, something fresh. But you said you don't have any desire to be with him, so I think you're fine!

Don't sweat it. Some people would probably get jealous and say that's not okay. But those people have trust issues and you don't want to be in a relationship with those people, it won't last if they continue to distrust you.

BUT, if for some reason you decide that you have real feelings for someone else other than your boyfriend, and are 100% sure there's something there. Then it might be time to break up, because if you just stay with someone because you don't want to hurt them even tho you are unhappy and want someone else, that's just using them. And that's worse than being dumped. But I don't think that will happen to you. I think you just saw a guy, and thought he was hot. It's normal!

[Ziconic]

Thanks for MHO! :D

[Hades77]

Trust me, it's fine. There's nothing wrong to being attracted to another man. It's just you being you, you know? I think a lot of girls are attractive, even when I am in a relationship, but the thing is, I'm not trying to get at them or anything. You chose to be with your boyfriend because you have feelings for him that you might not have for your mini crush.

[Anonymous]

You're not doing anything with this guy, nor are you about to. It's natural to find other guys attractive despite being taken. It's not like you can switch that off. What matters most is your actions.

[lordeisqueen]

Yeah. You can still find people attractive while you're in a relationship. Just don't act on it.

[Asker]

thank you so much! he lives on the other side of the country now anyway, so nothing would happen anyway haha.

[Anonymous]

Good looking? Geesh. Don't worry about it. We should be able to admit other people are attractive without feeling bad.
You're in a relationship, you're not expected to lose your cognitive functions.

There's no real point telling him or paying this any real thought. I have found plenty of girls good looking whilst in a relationship, never cheated or wanted to cheat because of it.
I also never wanted any of them more than my partner.

To summarize: You're fine. Don't worry about it.