Am I a bad girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Today was one of those days where I just felt lazy and didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t have to work and I didn’t have online classes so it was just a chill and sort of lazy day for me today plus I have a long weekend ahead of me because I have a lot of important things to do and get done. Now usually I stay a few days and nights at my boyfriends house. I will even go to work from his house most times but today was different. I just wasn’t up for doing more than showering and being lazy today. I just felt tired and my boyfriend spent the entire day trying to convince me to come over but I even apologized and said sorry but I’m just not up for doing anything but I made sure to text him and FaceTime him all day and we even played a few games over iMessage to make up for me not coming over but night time approaches and he’s still pressuring me over FaceTime. Even after I said we could just fall the sleep on the phone together. I also told him that I would for sure come see him Friday because on top of me not being up for leaving the house today another reason was that I have something important to do with my sister in the morning and Friday morning I’m scheduled to take my passport picture and going over his house tonight would get in the way of that because he hates for me to stay less than a day at his house. I usually stay for a week. I explained all of this to him but it still wasn’t enough for him. He starts saying in so little words that I’m unappreciative and that I should appreciate that he loves and cares for me so much/enough that he wants to with me and wants me to be in his bed next to him tonight not another girl Etc as if that’s not something he shouldn’t be doing anyway. I still didn’t go over to his house. I’m home right now in my bed but he made me feel bad for choosing to stay in although I rarely choose staying in over going over his house and staying a couple nights/days.

[Jahizamy]

Based on that story, no you're not a bad girlfriend.

It was just one of those days for you. You explained it to him and you stood by your feelings.

Sounds to me that he's shaming you and trying to insight some jealousy by bring up potential other girls he could be with right now. Typical emotionally abusive behavior.

That's a major red flag you need to be aware of. The reason why you feel bad and are second guessing yourself is because his tactic was effective. Now the next time you don't feel in the mood and he asks you, you're going to right on over because you don't want to be shamed and him to feel disappointed.

You're not in this relationship for him, he should have been more understanding.

[Jahizamy]

What I meant is you're not in the relationship to service him, it's a 50/50.

[harvest]

You did nothing wrong. He's being unreasonable. And he's probably just horny 😅
First blowjob you give him and he'll forget about this whole thing. You don't have to apologize for having stuff to do. You're not obligated to come to his house.
Don't worry. This will blow over soon :)

[exitseven]

You are not a bad girlfriend. I's not like you went to a bar without him. You just needed some alone time just like everyone else does. Relationships by their very nature are messy and awkward at times when two people try to get their individual lives to synchronize. You were sweet to keep in touch with him. He needs to get a life I think.

[Anonymous]

Is this a relationship? Anyway my girlfriend is just like your boyfriend but even worser... Ever since I worked as a consultant manager. She calls me all the time, she comes in my house invited. She is angry even when I hug my own sister. She attacks any woman I meet.
Of late she has come to my house but I don't think...

[jspl90]

dude... she ain't good for you just break up or if you really are happy with her and dont want to break up go for counseling

[Josh4206]

No you're not. Its good to have a day like that every once and a while.

[RHK36]

You sound like a good girlfriend, he sounds like a needy manipulating ass.

[MoshingExec]

You're either young, dumb, or obtuse.

[anylolone]

Nope, he's being a bitch.

[Luckycharms12]

If wants see you so badly he should come to you