My boyfriend gets a lot of female attention?

[Anonymous]

First of all let me start with saying I am not a jealous person and yes, I do trust him. There is an issue of female attention. My boyfriend is very attractive, and very charming, so he gets a lot of female attention. I trust him completely, but it still bothers me to think that he still gets phone calls from ex-girlfriends and old female friends who want to meet him to "catch up". Also on social media, a lot of girls comment on how "hot" they think he is. I know he doesn't strike up conversations with girls first, However i have no idea if he tells them that he has a girlfriend. I am NOT telling him that i am jealous, so thats no option. I think a big part of this is the fact that i have always been really insecure about myself. He always tells me how beautiful, gorgeous and perfect he thinks I am though. But when all of this happens I can't help but wonder why he doesn't date any other girl. I don't see what he likes about me and so im scared he'd leave me. (He has done NOTHING to make me feel that way)

Sorry for this mega story, just though i'd lay it all out there cuz desperate times call for desperate measures. Please give me good advice xx
(17, F)

[AleDeEurope]

Exactly, why doesn't he date another girl? I mean, he can get any girl he can, girls want him... but he still stays with you, and you know why? Because HE wants YOU.
It doesn't matter if there are 1 million girls that want him, cause the only thing that matters is what HE wants, and none of those million girls is who he wants, cause he wants you.

You are the reason why he's not with another girl. You're the reason why he doesn't start conversations with other girls. You're the reason why he's taken. He wants you and no one else.

I understand why you feel insecure, I think everyone would feel somewhat insecure in that situation, but you gotta think that it's his life, he's the only one that can make decisions in his life, it doesn't matter how many women throw themselves at him, cause if he keeps deciding you're his girl, all those other girls mean absolutely nothing to him.

[carlitoswayy]

Lol so naive, dont get offended.

Listen,

If you trust him, then really mean it.

Why he doesn't wanna date other girls, maybe is because he values you and cares about you deeply.

You have a right to be jealous but just trust, if he is a little player, well hun, then u might be getting played.

You sound like your a good young girl, try to focus your energy on positive things other than who comments on your boyfriends pictures..

Everyone comments, you cannot control who wants to be friends with him either,

I know i would ignore girls if i have a girlfriend. Thats called respect.

so if he really means all that sweet talk he says to you, he won't cheat, but if he doesn't, you will bust him soon or later

[GlenCoCo]

I was in a similar position as you, and probably still am, the best thing is not to think about it too much and stress over the situation, focus on the main point that you and him are together , if it helps speak to him about it.