I feel like a loser compared to my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of a serious guy who values school and all of that crap. But when i hear my girlfriend talking about how she used to have wild parties and how she cheats on every test and all of that rebelling stuff. I really feel like a loser.. I love her a lot and she says i'm not a loser, but I am compared to her. What should i do?

[YoureNotSpecial]

Work on that self esteem, Everybody's different, some have good grades, some of less good grades, doesn't make one smarter than the other. Some goes to parties, some not as much, doesn't make you more of a loser. The problem is only you thinking you're a loser

[Asker]

But seriously though, she really is much tougher than me. That really makes me insecure. Ofc it's in my head and all, but i'm just so not used to having girlfriend like that. Any tips on that?

[YoureNotSpecial]

I was the same the first time I've had a girlfriend, I'm afraid i didn't managed to "toughen up" in time, but I've learn a lot from it. Just be yourself and try to have fun while it last. The best tip I can give you is just adopting the mindset that *you are enough* , you've got a girl that wants to be with you, that says something.

[Asker]

But what if she thinks you're enough, but in the ends she'l realise you're not enough. How can i adapt to that mindset if i'm doubting if it truly is that way. by the way, thank you for your replies, really means a lot to me

[YoureNotSpecial]

You have to do something for her to think you're not enough. For example, one of these things could be keep on telling her that you're not deserving of her. lot of stories includes guys being total ass to their girlfriends and still stay in the relationship because the girl is "madly in love with them anyway". you seem like someone that cares, just try to care more about your girlfriend being happy, and less about if you're deserving to make her happy. I enjoy responding to these questions ;)

[Asker]

That makes sense. A girl wants happiness, doesn't matter if the guy is tougher or not. She just wants happiness out of her relationship. But what if after a few years the honeymoon phase will be over and she actually wants to start doing those stuff i don't like doing. will it influence a lot that we're different?

[YoureNotSpecial]

You will probably change, grow up in the next couple years, you'll learn to enjoy parties, go out, do crazy stuff. You're not special, enjoy the following years without worrying to much about the future.