It's been a year since my guy best friend stopped talking to me

[Anonymous]

Last year we were always together and we did almost everything together but although I considered him my best friend I think he had stronger feelings for me. Once we almost hooked up but after that everything was just like before. But this year he stopped talking to me and he just says hi when he sees me, whenever he feels like saying, and also he's started hooking up with all those sluts at school. So what do you think has happened? also, has anything similar ever happened to you?

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i forgot to mention that since he's stopped talking to me I've started liking him but although I think that he knows it he does not respond. do I mean nothing to him anymore after 6 years of being very close friends?

[simplybeautiful09]

hey the same thing kind of happened to me, except we were best friends all the way up the our senior year. We went to prom together and everything. People really thought we were together because we was so close with one another. I kept wishing that we could have maybe taken our relationship to the next level but he never seemed to talk about it and I gave all kind of hints. I did everything but say will you go out with me. anyways...we went our separate ways in college. he went to rice and I went to UT. he use to call me, text me abour college stuff, but now its nothing. When we would come home for breaks...u think he'd want to hang, but I never heard anything from him. Don't get me wrong, its not like I'm waiting for him to miss me first because I even texted him that we should hang and he was like yea definitely, but like I thought...he claimed to be too busy. Of course when we run into each other its a hey and how are u...okay bye. lol. it use to hurt but now it doesn't because I've pretty much moved on now. I come home and see friends that miss me and want to see me. I don't really know what happened with my guy friend...i guess we just grew apart and he's doing his own thing and now I'm doing my own thing. of course I still got love for him, but you gotta move on sometime.

[Anonymous]

Sort of the same situation I have with a guy friend, but wee were mainly phone friends. anyway I hadnt spoken to him in a year as well, so I gave in and called him, and now he calls me about once a week. I think you should do the same. Call and be casual, don't ask him why he hasn't called, just say, Hey hows it going? and see what happens.

[raven333]

I was in the same position, we still haven't made up and it's been over 3 years. He randomly texts me, but I don't know what it means. But, I understood it as plain and simple is that he's trying to get over you. And regarding the sluts, they're just a distraction to him.

[workman22]

Most guys have their pride. They will disband from anything that has the potential to become them and their pride.

Chances are, once he realized that his love was unrequited, he decided to take the only route that he knew so as to not leave you with a bad memory of him.

He probably recognizes that you have a thing for him, and he probably has a thing for you. Openness and Honesty is always the best policy, so send him a text message saying that you miss your friend, and that you'd like to catch up. Once you get him to agree to sit down and chat over a cup of coffee, tell him how you really feel about him.

[toulouse]

I do not agree with this, but lots of guys & girls say its true....That girls should never say they like a guy cause it looks desperate

why do guys say it is a turn off for a girl to tell them at least a bit of how she feels?

how can people be honest if one of them can;'t handle hearing anything ?

[funman]

I liked this girl for four years and we hung out almost every night and I always gave her clues about how much I liked her and she never acted interested. I never knew why she didn't because I always made her laugh we were always together, I thought we were a good match. Anyways I went to college, she went to college and we were not very far away from each other so we would hang out on the weekends and stuff like that. Over time I stopped liking her like that and it's kinda hard to talk to her now. I'm not sure why but it is. I don't know if that is your friend but I thought I would share that with you.

[gtex1991]

thats life, when people go to college they focus on what's near them. and the older you get the less contact you going to have with people and friends in general. I know people who haven't in a decade. also people have daily issues, you can't expect them to call you all the time

[chiefnavarro]

well he probalby realy likes you. he probaly know that if he gets with you it would be a serious relationship. he's probably scared of commitment right now. he likes sex. he can't be around you because he wants to f**k the s**t out of you. but he doesn't want to be in a relationship.

[toulouse]

I think that is an excellent answer-not necessarily about that guy -tho EXTREMELY common- I think

like if a guy is at an age or place where he just wants tons of sex, & like 'fuc*' sex too -that comes into conflict that someone he actually really respects.

He does not want to use a person he cares about... I know some guys SAY that because it siunds over then just saying I'm not into you, but I think it happens for real too.

Do you think it is really impossible for him to stay friends with her?

[chiefnavarro]

I don't think its impossible they just have to be better at this sh*t then I am

[stalinhornsby]

He has moved on and need to be included in another woman's life that wants him for sex. It is that simple. He no doudt still has feelings for you.

[toulouse]

How can you still have feelings for someone & move on?

I do not get it!! I can not just forget about someone I like - I might not talk to them, but inside I know what I think & that if I had a chance I would try to do something about it

iI truly do not believe people can still have feelings for some 1-not true feelings- forget them.

If they did they would not ALLOW themselves to move on

i am not simply referring to this case - generally too

Its either a game or they do not care any more

[stalinhornsby]

You're right about that. He flat left you for someone else. I was reflecting on my life and when I was younger when later in life he may have regrets for what he did but by then you will be married and/or have children. He certainly may think of looking you up in the future, but that is a maybe that by then you won't even consider.

[adorkablebby]

bruised ego.