She's slept with 6 guys. Should I leave her?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating a girl for about 6 weeks now. She's really beautiful, super cool and we have a lot in common. We like the same movies, we have the same sense of humour and she's really interesting. She's almost perfect :). However, she told me that she's been with 6 other guys. Personally, I've been with 13 girls but for a girl to have been with that many guys, it says she doesn't take sex seriously. I'm pretty grossed out that she would do that and I'm thinking of leaving her. It's not the worst thing in the world but there are plenty of other girls who haven't slept around like that and I think I might be better to go find one. Should I leave?

Leave her

Stay with her

Not sure

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+1 y

Women are complaining that I'm being a hypocrite... I'm a guy who's been with a lot of girls who wants to date a girl who's been with a maximum of 2. It's no different than a short girl wanting to date a tall guy -- I guess they're all hypocrites.

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+1 y

Thanks for the comments. I think I'm going to leave. I think it's best for both of us. :)

[Ruby_W]

I'm probably not going to say anything new but honestly it's hard not to get offended when you read this. And let me tell you it's not the same as a short girl wanting a tall boy because that's a physical preference and in a relationship it's important to be attracted to the other person (plus in most cases that's preference but not a deal breaker). also people have no say in how tall they are, so you saying that short girls are not allowed to be attracted to tall guys just because of their genes?
And let me explain that the reason people are calling you a hypocrite. You're accusing a girl who, in all other aspects you consider perfect, of not taking sex seriously and being gross because she slept with 6 guys which is really not that many, especially considering you have slept with 13. it's not only hypocritical but also sexist since you're saying "that for a girl" sleeping with 6 guys is bad but not for a guy.
honestly if you're not sure whether to keep dating her show her this post and she'll choose for you cause no woman on her right mind would be with with someone who says this.

[Asker]

"And let me tell you it's not the same as a short girl wanting a tall boy because that's a physical preference and in a relationship it's important to be attracted to the other person"

Yes, and I'm not attracted to women who sleep around. It's repulsive... What don't you understand about that?

"also people have no say in how tall they are"

Exactly. That's the point. You have much more control over how many people you sleep with than how tall you are, that's why it's much more fair to judge people on their actions rather than arbitrary circumstances of birth like height.

"she slept with 6 guys which is really not that many"

Six is far too many for her to still be attractive to me, realistically.

"also sexist since you're saying "that for a girl""

FWIW I wouldn't be attracted to a guy that has slept with six girls either.

[Asker]

"honestly if you're not sure whether to keep dating her show her this post and she'll choose for you cause no woman on her right mind would be with with someone who says this"

I've already told her that I was disgusted after I found out. She wants our relationship to continue but I told her that I will let her know whether I decide to continue our relationship or not on Monday

[Ruby_W]

I'm calling you out on your bullshit because you said that for a women to sleep with 6 guys (which compared to other it's not that much) is repulsive but you have slept with 13 and you consider that okay.
It's hypocritical compared to short girls liking tall boys because short girls don't have a say on how tall they are but you do have a say in how many girls you sleep with so if sleeping around is so repulsive it should be for both of you not just one.
And one thing is physical attraction (like finding a person of a certain height attractive) and another is character attraction and it is wrong to judge someone and call them repulsive for something that you don't stand by yourself.
And I didn't say that you had to tell her you found that 6 is too many. I want her to read exactly what you said and then all of the comments you got. If she still wants to be in a relationship after that don't ever let her go because finding someone with so little self respect is hard.

[Ruby_W]

also if like so many people have used their time to call you out and tell you you are wrong and completely hypocritical then maybe you should listen

[MissMurphy]

... That is such on-the-nose stereotypical hypocrisy I find it hard to believe this isn't trolling, or at least a bait question looking to provoke a specific response.

If for real, I feel bad for both of you. Your hangups about sexuality seem to be preventing you from being happy with someone who's company you otherwise enjoy. If it infringes on your ability to respect her, then yeah, you should leave. I don't agree with the foundation of your opinion, but that won't stop you from feeling that way. In a perfect world you'd accept a more open minded worldview and all that, but it's not a perfect world. If chastity is that important to you, I suppose I wish you luck finding someone you get along with who's been saving herself but won't kill your sex life, since you seem to like sex, just not women who also do. And I wish her luck finding someone who will like and respect her as she is, as I see no reason she doesn't deserve that.

[lostgirl_searching]

Yes you should leave her, so she won't be with a someone that's a hypocrite. What she did is nothing compared to you having sex with 13 women. Never assume. Those guys probably lied to her so she can have sex with them.
Coming from a virgin. When I was single some of the guys try to say things so I can have sex with them and will then break up with me or stop talking to me because I won't have sex with them.

[ShaunaM95]

You slept with twice as many as her and you have the nerve to say she doesn't take sex seriously? Do her a favour and leave her. She doesn't need to be with a hypocrite like you, I'm sure she can find much better.

[Asker]

That's what I'm thinking of doing..

[Pyrofox]

And if she brings up your 13 other girls? I mean if anyones in a pickle its you especially if she finds out you have that many past girls you have taken to bed. Rather than her getting grilled for maybe not being loyal. For once the tables might be turned around.

If I were in your situation I'd stick with her and find A DIFFERENT reason to break up with her if you need to. Or you might end up just ruining your own reputation if she digs up dirt on you. The last thing you need is an ex questioning if you were cheating on her the entire time you were dating her.

[Pyrofox]

I mean how awkward would it be if any of the 13 girls also played along with the current one if she claims you cheated on her and they all start crowing you cheated on them. OwO *stares blankly* I mean you can literally kiss your future dating good bye if that happens. As you will get labled just about ever negative title a guy can get when it comes to being straight.

[Pyrofox]

The idea of dating a girl who's only had 1 or 2 partners is likely a lie or your going to end up with some girl who has some psychological issue or self imagry issue relating to self esteem. As well that doesn't reduce by any means the chances of them having STD's rather it could mean they do have them. As part of the reason women stop having sex is cause they have STD's and dont want to spread it.

With all the negative connotations of being a virgin I'm still surprised by how many guys and women try to look for people who are as close to a virgin as possible. As there's always the possibility the person is just making up the numbers.

I mean yea there's a cut off point for where its weird to have over a certain number of sexual partners but. With women I've found its sometimes better to go with the more experienced ones.

[Orph__]

Leave her because she deserves someone who won't judge her with double standards

[Orph__]

You're seriously deluded mate. Comparing a persons number of sexual partners is absolutely nothing like having a preference to height.
You said that this poor woman you are seeing is "almost perfect", and gave the reason she isn't as the fact she has slept with 6 guys, which isn't a big number at all. Let her go ya shallow prick, and give her the space to find someone who will cherish her while you get over your alternate reality

[BrittBratt2416]

You're being a hypocrite. You slept with 13 women, and she's only been with 6. Your number is higher than hers. That's like a woman who's been with 30 dudes rejecting you cause you been with 13, how is that fair? Personally I would leave the both of you cause I don't want to date promiscuous people.

[BrittBratt2416]

Be honest you want to leave cause you're not serious about her or just want to be with other women

[Curious625]

Apply the same logic to yourself; it's even more gross that you've been with 13, more than double 6. She's still willing to be with you so what's the problem? Plus you've increased the body count of 13 women, that will onto new relationships. Should they too not be able to move on with a man because you've been with them first (along with the others they've most likely had)?

[Rainie_]

You've slept with over double the amount she has... You can't judge if a person takes sex seriously or not by their body count. Could be getting with a virgin who doesn't take sex seriously at all.

Leave her, she doesn't need such hypocricy.

[BeHappyCloud]

If I was a guy, I would not leave her since the only thing that seems to be obstructing this relationship is your double standard. If she's willing to commit and make it a long term thing, and you are the one who left, don't regret it in the future. Man, I wish there was a word specifically created for the the guy version of "sluts". - _ -

[Aizou]

Stay with her, if her 6 is gross, then you're more than twice as gross no? You can be gross together! If she's perfect in all the other ways, she perfect for you, who also don't really take sex seriously. :)

[Piluex]

I don't get it, you know a girl you like and have a lot in common with, and you're considering leave her because she's sleept with 6 guys before you? That isn't ever that big of a number, and you've been with 13 girls before her so... what's the fucking problem? Are you an idiot?

[Piluex]

After reading some of your responses, it becomes clesr that you're indeed, a fucking moron, if you leave her, I hope she finds someone way better than you, wich isn't that difficult seeing how much of a hypocrite moron you are.

[WaterRat]

Oh no. Are you the manlet?
Yeah you should leave the country. Rn. Back to troll land. I hear the women there never get laid for good reason.

[Asker]

What's "the manlet"?
I'm not trolling, I'm just asking a question...

[WaterRat]

The manlet is the "short" 6ft tall guy.
K. Good luck bro.

[faithandpixiedust]

If this is a big issue, then I think you should leave her. To me if you really are into someone, their past won't matter unless they have a past of cheating or something.
When I date guys, our sexual history usually never comes up. I wouldn't want my sexual history to ruin something good with a guy. I've slept with guys and definitely regretted it.

[samhradh_leannan]

Let me get this straight. You've been with 13 girls, but you're considering breaking up with her because she's been with 6 guys- less than half the number of partner's you'd had?

The bottom line is that if you want to leave her because of this, you absolutely should leave her.

[thisGUYknows]

D. You're a liar
E. I bet you're not dating a girl at all
F. Eat a bag of dicks neckbeard

[Unit1]

Yes, leave her. She deserves better.

I second what Ayshea said.

[Samantha2448]

Why don't YOU take sex seriously since you have slept with 13 women?

[Asker]

I don't take sex seriously.

[Asker]

But I'm attracted to girls who do.

[Samantha2448]

If you don't take sex seriously why should a girl?

[Asker]

I'm not saying that all women have to take sex seriously. I'm just saying that is what I'm attracted to...

[bang678]

Why would it be ok for you to have a lot of pertners but not her? That makes no sense. Just makes you a hypocrite. She'd probably be better off without you.

[Phantomium]

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[littleheartbigbooty]

Why are 13 girls normal for you but if a girl sleeps with 6 guys it's gross? It's not even that much

[gabrielle101]

A guy who's been with 13 girls in the past wants to leave his current partner because she's been with 6 guys before him... LOL is 13 not greater than 6? Quite hypocritical to say.

[Asker]

Is it hypocritical for a short girl to want to date a tall guy? This is no different.

[Najie_TooSweet]

What that has to do with ANYTHING... u about to cut off an amazing girl because she had 6 bodies... she was honest enough to tell u and know u had 13 and not judge u or look down on u... men kill me they could have sex with damn near half the state but a women who can't have more that three bodies... i understand if she had a lot or more than u or lied to u about it but she don't... U bout to mess up a friendship over your judgements of her

[gabrielle101]

I agree that height situations are often hypocritical but comparing appearances (height, hair colour, race etc.) is irrelevant to comparing sexually history. Two different things.

Hmmm... 6 guys in her past and she's a slut. So you with 13 makes you a slut x2, amirite?

Leave her if your uncomfortable, I just don't understand the double standard you set.

[estoydorado1]

Lmao, let her go. She sounds like a catch, she can do better than this.

[Mccartyy]

Are tou there?

[Mccartyy]

Are you there

[estoydorado1]

@Mccartyy What's up?

[Mccartyy]

My new member, Can you give me a private message? Thank you

[JulieXO]

You're a hypocrit. You can't judge a girl and even leave her for sleeping with too many guys (even though 6 really isn't that many, especially if they were all relationships), while you go and sleep around yourself. That's bullshit.

[Wonderer89]

So hypocritical. You should definitely leave her, she deserves a better guy than you

[Asker]

So you think I'm better to leave her?

[Wonderer89]

I think it's better for her, yep

[Ayshea]

Manwhore wants the virgin Mary what a joke! Leave! She can do way better!

[Asker]

I just don't want to date a slut... I don't know how that makes me a bad guy...

[Samantha2448]

You are a slut if you think 6 is worse than 13 people to sleep with

[Sara413]

I voted leave her because she can do better. Fuck right off with your hypocritical bullshit

[AleDeEurope]

Lol great trolling, you managed to trigger almost 50 people xD
Chapeau lmao

[admles]

Leave her, and let her find a decent guy who isn't a hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

Fucking leave her. So she can find an actual man that doesn't give two fucks about how many guys she has slept with. You'll be doing her a favor.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand how that's a turn off. 6 is nor a lot at all there are girls out here with 30 50 guys

[Asker]

It's way too many. SIX guys? It's pretty gross.

[GinaChapis]

Such a hypocrite that you are, leave her, she desrves better and you deserve someone just like you.

[Asker]

Is it hypocritical for a short girl to want to date a tall guy? This is no different.

[GinaChapis]

Yes it is different, because I'm not judjing my partner's sexual life nor his physical appearance. There is a difference between features that you might like and being a judgmental hypocrite.

[Najie_TooSweet]

Six not even a lot compared to other females don't lose that opportunity y'all connect u might not find nobody else that connect with u like she does

[Anonymous]

Yes leave her, leave her the fuck alone you asshole.

[karahiri]

Do what makes you happy. Her number bugs you, so leave.

[NerdInDenial]

Although personally, I would say it doesn't matter to me, it's up to you. If it truly bothers you, then leave.

[Anonymous]

But... Isn't that a teeny bit hypocritical? You've been with 13 girls... She's been with 6 guys...

[Asker]

Is it hypocritical for a short girl to want to date a tall guy? This is no different.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it is different. You dicked down 13 girls. She only has been dicked down by 6 guys.

[VirginiaBeachBum]

She should probably leave you. You are being a hypocrite.

[ad48hp]

Girls cannot have as much boys as reverse.
Did you ever heard about a chicken having 20 roosters?

[ad48hp]

But stay with her, i didn't read properly that 'She's really beautiful, super cool and we have a lot in common'.

[Anonymous]

She slept with 6 but you slept with 13. Stay with her and get over it!!!

[selfishstars]

Leave her---she deserves someone better than you.

[Asker]

She already told me that I'm the best guy she's ever met... I don't know how having standards make me a bad guy. It's gross for a girl to have slept with 6 guys.

[selfishstars]

Does she know you well enough to know that you're a hypocrite? You should probably come right out and tell her that you think its fine for you to have had sex with 13 women, but that her having been with 6 men makes her a gross slut, then let her decide if you're still the best guy she's ever met. :)

[Asker]

I've already told her that. She knows that I'm bothered by it and that I'm reconsidering our relationship. I told her that I'll let her know what I decide on Monday.

[Najie_TooSweet]

Thats not high standards thats being judgmental... and karma is a bitch u lead this girl on and when she was honest enough tell her the truth u wanna dip and leave u going go through the same thing watch... a girl with 2 bodies going think your gross and not take u seriously nd play with your emotions

[Anonymous]

Yeah, leave her. Don't waste your time on a girl like that.

[Prof_Don]

Do you take sex seriously?

[Asker]

Nope.

[Najie_TooSweet]

Ok so if u dont take it seriously and u get with one who does... u still not going take it serious and have the female that does feeling like a fool

[Prof_Don]

@Najie_TooSweet Hedonism at its finest... too many people nowadays drunk on it

[Anonymous]

You're doing the right thing brutha

[Anonymous]

For girls 6 means closer to 60.

[Opinion Owner]

Just like these girls claiming to virgins - Don't believe it.

[Anonymous]

If you dont like sluts, yes, leave her

[Anonymous]

Stay with her you hypocrite

[SwolDishWasher]

Leave. Definitely leave. she's tainted

[Levin]

Nice trolling.

[Anonymous]

So really you are short guy who is bitter...

[Asker]

Short was just an example. The same applies to the Nurse who wants to marry a Doctor or the skinny girl who wants to marry the muscular guy. Is that hypocritical?

No, it's just a preference. I've slept around but I'd prefer to sleep with someone who doesn't.

[Opinion Owner]

That is your choice. Why are you still with her if you think of her as a slut? Break up with her and let her find someone else. Maybe you should ask the next girl how man she has slept with before going out with her. But... what if she lies. What if she says she slept with one guy and she slept with 10? You might not ever really know the truth.

[DarknessPrinsess]

Leave her for sure !!

[hotstuffSRD]

Seriously dude?

[Anonymous]

Asshole.

[ad48hp]

This is the most meaningful comment i've seen in pretty long time.
How did you managed to write a essay such beautiful?

[rose004b]

*Clutches pearls*

[Sixela]

How old are you?

[Asker]

I'm 23.

[Anonymous]

yeah leave her

[Anonymous]

I would leave her.