Guys what makes you emotionally attached?

[Blueeyes23]

My boyfriend is nice to me and we are enjoying incredible sex, but he rarely hugs me or just randomly kiss me or cuddle. He just distant. WE go out and text each other every day, but I need more physical attention. I do not want to be annoying and just ask him for that, cos he will do that for a week or two. I am sure. But I think it should come naturally for a long period of time.
How to make him or help him to be closer to me not just have sex and they just be distant.

Guys please help.

[Bvroon]

It's really a combination of things, sexual activity, cuddling, talking, sharing ideas and a very important but often over looked activity is trusting. When I say trusting, what I'm meaning is my wife and I will have very in depth and intimate conversations (not about sex) and she has learned to trust me in the sense that I won't belittle her for how she might feel about something (something she is insecure about) she knows she is safe with me in all things. These sorts of things have given us a very strong and enduring emotional bond. We have now been together for about 15 years (married 13).

[elobo]

Could just be how he is with relationships. However you can still try to initiate those little things towards him and show him nonverbally that that's what you want. Like randomly hugging or kissing him. Otherwise you might as well just talk to him about it.

[Blueeyes23]

This is what I am doing. But I feel a bit clingy cos I never get anything back. You think it is possible to like erson but be that distant?

[elobo]

It's hard to tell without knowing him personally. But yeah some people are just like that. It can be a little frustrating especially when you believe they really do care about you.

[Blueeyes23]

ok, he is pretty cold actually in general. Anyway thank you very much :)

[elobo]

No problem, wish you the best 😏

[Fitness-Fanatic]

If he has the qualities and values I look for in a guy, and if we have a mental and emotional connection. That's so important to me.

Also, if I feel comfortable talking about anything and everything to him, and vice versa.

Plus, if he valued loyalty as much as I do. Loyalty is rare so I never let go of people who provide loyalty - in every way though. I'm not just meaning infidelity. There's more to being loyal to a person that just being faithful

Those are the main things that makes me emotionally attached to a guy

[Ssr1368]

You get emotionally attached by caring. Maybe you two are in different modes, it reminds me about my ex, I was all about her and she was all about sex. Keep in mind that you deserve someone who fully fulfils you (not literally :p) not someone that only gives you temporary pleasure.

[AleDeEurope]

It seems like he's not very affectionate. If you don't tell him, he's gonna think you don't need more, and that you're ok with the amount he's giving you right now.
It's not annoying to tell your partner what you want. I love it when she tells me stuff like this. Tell me what you like and dislike, we're a partner, I should know. Same goes for you.

[Avneo]

It's all your actions and what special you do to make him feel special. Just take care of this, and yes stop your assumption and judgmental attitude without knowing the fact, bcoz it not right always what you think about the one, guys don't think like girls, they are from mars...
And here you go... :-)

[geonator]

Some guys (and girls) have learned over time not to be emotionally attached knowing that emotional attachments have led to their downfall in the past. But in your case it's different then that because he's with you. Honestly probably if you try to decrease the amount with which you interact with him he will better appreciate the times you do interact, and act happy to see him when you do

[singlebee]

If I really cared about a girl I would be kissing and hugging her most of the time... so I don't know why he doesn't do they to you...

It's like he is keeping you strictly for sex... or something... Thats not normal...

[genericname85]

your boyfriends behavior is not a sign of lacking emotional attachment. he may just nothave learned to express his emotions in this way. you should start by telling him exacly how you feel just how you told us now.

[sp33d]

Months of living together. There is no other way. Having sex together itself doesn't cause any emotional attachment in me. Perspective is different, it seems.

[TallAnon]

Sex ruins attachment for me, that's first, it defeats the purpose, game over, no more chasing. What gets more involved then would be time spent together doing all things, small relaxed things.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

A girl with a great personality, loves to laugh, loves to smile

[Anonymous]

It's two things.
1) We have to WANT to become emotionally attached.
2) Sex.

It needs both.

[Anonymous]

just ask him if he really loves you or he just want your body, did he ever surprise you i mean giving you a gift or surprise you in your anniversary something like that?

[Anonymous]

I get attached when a girl is nice to me. Doesn't take much

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You can't really. It just has to be the way he is. You can't force someone to be who they aren't.

[chuy10]

make the first move when walking together or sitting down hold his hand or put your arm around him

[ThunderBasketball]

How long have you guys dated?

[Blueeyes23]

3 Months

[ThunderBasketball]

I would think it's too way early to expect emotional attachments. For most guys I'd say 6 months to a year is where the serious wifey game (attachments/family meetings etc) start. I'm a romantic so I usually fall in love real quick lol. (sometimes that's a turn off to some girls tho).. but yeah when it happens, it happens... On your part I would tell you not to act needy and always expecting. He might feel overwhelmed by that. Sail easily and see if you really like the dude, and if you really really do then always tend to what he needs and that will tell him that you're an indispensable part of his life. I think all the attachements should come then.

[es20490446e]

What makes you like your friends?

[Pizzalover101]

Great personality

[Anonymous]

Nothing