My husband is extremely affectionate especially in public its a little too much. How do I handle this , get him to chill out a bit?

[Anonymous]

My husband and i have been married for about 4 and a half years. We have an amazing relationship, its not perfect but it wonderful. He does chores around the house ( a major turn on). He is clean , we workout together, lift weights together, meal prep for the wee together go on hikes together. He is very attentive and caring, with a lot of patience (sometimes) but he can be overly affectionate. Sometimes i will be cooking or doing something around the house and he can be affectionate and thats fine but sometimes the timing is innapropriate. The other day my brother and his wife (my sister in law) came over to visit with their 2 kids and im over on the couch in tbe living room talking to my brother and my husband right next to me kissing my neck and he wasn't stopping so i had to tell to stop nicely because thats embarrassing my brother is right there. After my family left that evening my husband and i sat down because we seriously needed to talk. I asked him why he is always trying to hold me and kiss me and touch, like whats wrong why do you do it so much. DONT GET ME WRONG i love the attention but only when its not in front of everyone and its done approoriately, like a kiss in public is fine but going in on my neck in public isn't. He says that he will try to cool it down a bit, but i kind of wonder why someone would be so overtly affectionate all of the time, i mean i won't leave him i love him too much and we are compatable he treats me amazing and he is very handsome which is a plus. Also im affectionate to, everyday i remember to tell him how much i appreciate him and how wonderful he is. , i compliment him on how good and fit he looks i sneak up on him and give him a little lap dance action in front of the tv we have fun together. We communicate about what bothers us and what is going well in our relationship. I am affectionate when its appropriate and i want him to do the same. any ideas will be helpful?

[DeeNaz88]

I agree with someone that said to have a safe word or give him a squeeze on the leg so he knows he's going too far, but also take in mind that he's just a very affectionate person compared to you. I myself am kind of like your husband. I'm very affectionate and attentive to my partner but I try not to overdo it in public. It sounds like he really loves you and loves to show it. I would be grateful for the attention. I love my boyfriend a lot, but wushed he was more affectionate, but he's more of a ( I'll show you u love you in other ways) kind of guy. Sometimes he can be cluddly and cheesy but it's not very often. I sometimes complain to him because I crave more affection. So honestly don't take it for granted. Let him love you and love him back , just nicely let him understand that you're not as affectionate as he is but that's you show you care in other ways and would love it if he kept the affection mainly behind closed doors if that will make you feel better.

[nevermoregirl7]

Sounds like you already talk to him. The guy just wants to show that he loves you. My boyfriend hold onto me a lot and gets really affectionate in public. But as long as he isn't making out with me in front of kids, I am fine.

[Analinda1999]

affectionate does not sound like the problem. would his arm on your arm in public, bother you?

he is publicly sexual. tell him to save it for private areas.

[Hamdiesel6]

That's not overly affectionate in my book. Of course this is only my opinion, but I relish loving touches, kisses and hugs anywhere, anytime, anyplace. My wife loves that I shower attention on her but all women are different. I would say that the conversation about public affection should have happened between you two before you were married. So to conclude, I think you'll find that most people would disagree with you that his attention is "overly" affectionate, but you two should definitely talk this out and come to a mutual compromise. 😊

[imforu812]

The key especially in a passionate relationship is open honest communications regarding things such as you're talking about. Don't wait b tho talk about it when it had gotten you the point of frustration. Create your own little secret scenarios etc. That will avoid what you've described.

[Dim1213]

Sounds like a great problem. My recently married friends use a simple leg squeeze as a hint or a hand squeeze. If he still keeps doing it she just outright tells him to stop. Try telling him things he can do to show you affection in public.

[SpartanMEC777]

sounds like he's trying to keep the marriage interesting maybe he's worried you will leave him?
I don't know what to say about him being over sentual it sounds like it's just his type of personality.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Just explain to him that you don't mind him showing you affection while you're in public, but you'd appreciate it if he toned it down a little bit.

[Krodaxun]

Communication makes or breaks a relationship. Sit him down and tell him how you feel and what you think it and is and isn't appropriate. A safe word that let's him know when to stop isn't a bad idea either.

[SmartiePantsSanchez]

WTF? THAT IS THE BEST POSSIBLE RELATIONSHIP "FLAW"! DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT! HE'S AFFECTIONATE BECAUSE HE LOVES YOU! ANY WOMAN WOULD GIVE THE WORLD TO HAVE A MAN LIKE THAT!!!

[Hamdiesel6]

Right!!! 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

Handjobs under the table to get rid of his baby gravy.

[Rollin88z]

wow spoiled.

one day it will be gone and you'll miss it lol

[BeautifulPromisesx]

I don't see anything wrong cuz you're married, plus he probably did that cuz he wanted to make ur bro feel awkward and leave

[Justinaveragedude]

Talk to him, establish boundaries. Make a safe word that let's him know to behave.

[RJGraveyTrain]

He's likely just more impulsive, acts based on desire rather than calculated thought.

[Caaarl]

Talk to him when you're not out and tell him it's a problem. It's not that you're against PDA but he's doing too much.

[StainedClass]

Because he doesn't want to hear that you cheated on him because you didn't get enough "attention".

[kikikat95]

just tell him PDA makes you embarrassed

[MuteBastard]

Maybe Wants other guys to back off.

[IfIcantdoit]

enjoy it hun one day he will back up

[Anonymous]

tell him that you don't like it

[LastNightmare]

wow, he's so like me

[Gopz1432]

Tell him about it...

[Asker]

I have he says that he will try to not express his affection in an inappropriate manner when family is around like he did last time