Am I not being affectionate towards my boyfriend? How to handle a clingy partner?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been super clingy to the point I barely have sleep! He's always texting me even when he knows I'm super busy at work he blows my phone up saying stuff like "hey talk to me, miss you". I only get 4 hours or less of sleep because he freakin calls me late and wants me to talk to him at night until 1 or 2am. When I try napping in the day he calls me too, knowing I'm napping at that time and of I don't answer he gets even more clingy and desperate asking if I like him! I been so exhausted then he says I'm not very affectionate in person.. like wtf I'm tired asf wanting sleep and I'm not used to being an affectionate person. I just feel like no matter what I do he's just going to ask for more

[Adele_26]

Correct me if I’m wrong, but your boyfriend seems to have abandonment/attachment issues. You should talk to him about it with full and complete honesty. Don’t sound accusatory or degrading. I don’t think you will, but even me being the kindest person I try to be, I have my downfalls lmao and can come off completely different than I intend to be.

It also might be helpful to be like “hey I’m at work! I’ll respond when I can.” Little things help coming from personal experience. If he can’t respect the smallest things like I just gave an example of, I don't know bro might be time to head out. Takes patience but respect your limits.

[Aerolyn]

In your case it just sounds like you an your boyfriend needs to have a talk.

I don't see any roundabout solution that's going to fix the problem here.

[Anonymous]

And what stops you from setting up a "do not disturb" period?

[Asker]

Lol I know right well I have done that but then he starts saying he feels I dont want to be with him

[Opinion Owner]

He may have abandonment issues. Get him on consultation with a psychotherapist.

[driven159]

time to move on you don't like it so why stay with him

[Waldoe]

turn off you phone when you go to sleep