Well, of course that boyfriend is an asshole to some extent...
But you see, relationships are all about attraction and if he's so much caring about the looks and feeling disgusted by it, then he simply lost his sexual / physical attraction towards her.
It's not been a grown up thing to do, but you know... as he broke up he wasn't in love with her... so actually the break up has been a good thing 'cause now that girlfriend of yours is not in a lie-relationship any longer ;)
I was thinking the exact same thing as OutOfMyElement! It's better he did it now to be honest. Less emotions involved, no marital assets to split, no lawyers to pay, and no kids involved! (that I know of...)
He's a d*** for doing it, but it means he never really cared for her anyways...
OK, so the ex-boyfriend is an complete idiot (and so are some of your friends apparently). Stop focusing on that. You know what you want; be the man you know you are.
By the way, I'm not sure why you mentioned "beautiful and a great body." We all want that in a girl, but surely she's more to you than that.
some guys... this is pathetic... wherever your friend is... she needs to know that that jerk, that snake in the grass, that POS... is just a loser. How shallow. Who the f**k is he, to LEAVE your girlfriend in a time of need... Paybacks (you might call it karma) are a bitch...
thats stupid...but you girls bring it on yourself.
I hav ceased to have pity on you. You continue to choose the wrong guys and reject nice guys and then want to whine. Look sorry but stop dating assholes
99 out of 100 times rejected "nice guys" are confidence-lacking fools who think playing to the girls notions of a perfect guy will get them a girlfriend, while not working for it.
if the same men would just man up and ask a girl out properly they would do much better (assuming they were confident in their approach)
Thats disgusting, what a horrible person. Would she even want to be with someone who can't accept her flaws? Through this he has shown his true self. After all the trauma that she's went through he doesn't care enough to stay and take care of her. What a selfish asshole. She will probably be better off in the long run.
i completely agree, it's messed up. but, have they been dating for a while? because if it was a short relationship then okay I can understand why he broke up with her. maybe he was already looking for an out & he took the opportunity. your friend deserves better than a guy like that anyway.
There is obviously a lot more to this. Without a doubt he did not have a strong connection to her to begin with. He may have been on the border of breaking up. Then you add a serious situation like this, where I am sure she has needed a lot of emotional support, and he wasn't emotionally available to be there for her so he ended it.
It may be awful but, really, she is better off without someone who is obviously so lacking in a connection to her.
the finger had nothing to do with the break up. its just an easier alibi than the truth. homeboys just some f**king punk. move on and find something better. guys can do some pathetic sh*t, but its never without warning. there's always a build up of fights before a break up. the finger was just an easy escape. here's my advice. go out clubbing, get f***ed up and hook up. if that ain't your thing, then just enjoy life for now.
I would never leave a woman over a missing finger or even a missing arm. But I would leave if she was missing both arms or both legs. It may seem mean to some but I like a woman to wrap her herself around me.
Keep in mind that Karma is a bitch so you don't have to act like a bitch to that guy.
This is true, he's gonna get what's coming to him, and it isn't gonna be pretty... He'll probably end up losing something more important than a finger or maybe if he keeps treating everyone this way, he'll die alone and friendless...
Its a shallow thing to do, but perhaps she was accident prone and he was always trying to warn her to be more careful. Perhaps the relationship was on the downward slope and not going too swell and the finger thing was the last straw. Either way, it is a d*** move. Your girlfriend doesn't need to be married to an a**hole like that, so maybe its best this happened now. Hopefully she can find a good gentleman who can appreciate a girl who is missing a finger.
If that guy really did break up with her over the finger, he is a shallow jerk. I could never see myself doing something like that, so unless there was some other factor, your friend is just lucky that guy showed her and the world what an idiot he is before they got further involved. She lost a finger. I'd still think the guy was a bit of a jerk if she lost an entire breast, though I might be a little more understanding in that case.
well see, I love my last boyfriend and we were together for 4 years and if he lost a finger I wouldn't care but the one after him was a diff story. I liked him because he was hot, and then he put on a few lbs and off he went. Sounds like he just didn't love her. I hope your not the real FINGERLESS GIRL
Lol, if all you can say is that she is beautiful and has a great body, then I don't know about her either.
Believe me he didn't leave because of the finger, he left because he wasn't in love with her, probably hasn't been for a while, and used it as an excuse to escape.
You'll never really know what went on, inside the relationship, and yes he could have been a complete wanker, but if it doesn't make sense, note that there is more to the story that meets the eye.
think of it this way, her boyfriend has now shown his true colors as a superficial person it also shows he didn't really love her in the first place, real love can handle stuff like that. she is better off with someone who can accept she is missing a finger and love her deeply not just for what's on the outside
Yeah, I agree with you! In my personal opinion, she is better off without this superficial... guy. It sounds like he may still be quite young, insecure and focused on looks and I don't think that he is somebody your friend deserves to be with. If he did lover her for who she is, he would have not left her. Don't worry, I'm sure that - as she grows older - she will find somebody who will love her even though she has lost her finger.
He is an ass and he was only attracted to her on a sexual/physical level...I hope he gets his legs cut off by a lawn mower...i would buy a fake hand and cut off the middle finger and mail it to his punk ass but I am a very revengeful person so...
Wow, he ended a relationship, omg lets cripple him.
Next time you reject a guy for being too short, would it be fair for you to receive polio or scoliosis and wind up shorter or in a wheel chair for the rest of your life?
hmmmm well the political correct thing would be yeah what an ass whole right?. But who are we to judge this guy?. I mean would you date some guy who was missing a finger?. Lets say he came up to you and picked you up, but when he crossed his arms, you saw that he was missing his finger, would you really date him?. You will probably say yes but with the condition of having a super amazing personality to over compensate his missing finger.
You see where I am getting at?. This guy probably has too many issues on his life, specially self-esteem issues to have time to create this amazing personality that you are looking for.
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Well, of course that boyfriend is an asshole to some extent...
But you see, relationships are all about attraction and if he's so much caring about the looks and feeling disgusted by it, then he simply lost his sexual / physical attraction towards her.
It's not been a grown up thing to do, but you know... as he broke up he wasn't in love with her... so actually the break up has been a good thing 'cause now that girlfriend of yours is not in a lie-relationship any longer ;)
I was thinking the exact same thing as OutOfMyElement! It's better he did it now to be honest. Less emotions involved, no marital assets to split, no lawyers to pay, and no kids involved! (that I know of...)
He's a d*** for doing it, but it means he never really cared for her anyways...
OK, so the ex-boyfriend is an complete idiot (and so are some of your friends apparently). Stop focusing on that. You know what you want; be the man you know you are.
By the way, I'm not sure why you mentioned "beautiful and a great body." We all want that in a girl, but surely she's more to you than that.
Best of luck.
I'm so sorry, I didn't realize you were a girl. My mistake. : )
Lol no worries
some guys... this is pathetic... wherever your friend is... she needs to know that that jerk, that snake in the grass, that POS... is just a loser. How shallow. Who the f**k is he, to LEAVE your girlfriend in a time of need... Paybacks (you might call it karma) are a bitch...
thats stupid...but you girls bring it on yourself.
I hav ceased to have pity on you. You continue to choose the wrong guys and reject nice guys and then want to whine. Look sorry but stop dating assholes
Stop chasing after bitches that want assholes..
That is relevent to my comment how? you don't even know who I date..
99 out of 100 times rejected "nice guys" are confidence-lacking fools who think playing to the girls notions of a perfect guy will get them a girlfriend, while not working for it.
if the same men would just man up and ask a girl out properly they would do much better (assuming they were confident in their approach)
Thats disgusting, what a horrible person. Would she even want to be with someone who can't accept her flaws? Through this he has shown his true self. After all the trauma that she's went through he doesn't care enough to stay and take care of her. What a selfish asshole. She will probably be better off in the long run.
i completely agree, it's messed up. but, have they been dating for a while? because if it was a short relationship then okay I can understand why he broke up with her. maybe he was already looking for an out & he took the opportunity. your friend deserves better than a guy like that anyway.
There is obviously a lot more to this. Without a doubt he did not have a strong connection to her to begin with. He may have been on the border of breaking up. Then you add a serious situation like this, where I am sure she has needed a lot of emotional support, and he wasn't emotionally available to be there for her so he ended it.
It may be awful but, really, she is better off without someone who is obviously so lacking in a connection to her.
the finger had nothing to do with the break up. its just an easier alibi than the truth. homeboys just some f**king punk. move on and find something better. guys can do some pathetic sh*t, but its never without warning. there's always a build up of fights before a break up. the finger was just an easy escape. here's my advice. go out clubbing, get f***ed up and hook up. if that ain't your thing, then just enjoy life for now.
I would never leave a woman over a missing finger or even a missing arm. But I would leave if she was missing both arms or both legs. It may seem mean to some but I like a woman to wrap her herself around me.
Keep in mind that Karma is a bitch so you don't have to act like a bitch to that guy.
This is true, he's gonna get what's coming to him, and it isn't gonna be pretty... He'll probably end up losing something more important than a finger or maybe if he keeps treating everyone this way, he'll die alone and friendless...
Its a shallow thing to do, but perhaps she was accident prone and he was always trying to warn her to be more careful. Perhaps the relationship was on the downward slope and not going too swell and the finger thing was the last straw. Either way, it is a d*** move. Your girlfriend doesn't need to be married to an a**hole like that, so maybe its best this happened now. Hopefully she can find a good gentleman who can appreciate a girl who is missing a finger.
yea its pretty f***ed up to leave a girl right after she gets her finger cut off because her finger got choped off
i mean he doesn't owe her forever but for the time the spent he shud at least be grateful
i would mind
whats one finger to beautiful love ha ha
what a dbag
If that guy really did break up with her over the finger, he is a shallow jerk. I could never see myself doing something like that, so unless there was some other factor, your friend is just lucky that guy showed her and the world what an idiot he is before they got further involved. She lost a finger. I'd still think the guy was a bit of a jerk if she lost an entire breast, though I might be a little more understanding in that case.
well see, I love my last boyfriend and we were together for 4 years and if he lost a finger I wouldn't care but the one after him was a diff story. I liked him because he was hot, and then he put on a few lbs and off he went. Sounds like he just didn't love her. I hope your not the real FINGERLESS GIRL
Lol, if all you can say is that she is beautiful and has a great body, then I don't know about her either.
Believe me he didn't leave because of the finger, he left because he wasn't in love with her, probably hasn't been for a while, and used it as an excuse to escape.
You'll never really know what went on, inside the relationship, and yes he could have been a complete wanker, but if it doesn't make sense, note that there is more to the story that meets the eye.
think of it this way, her boyfriend has now shown his true colors as a superficial person it also shows he didn't really love her in the first place, real love can handle stuff like that. she is better off with someone who can accept she is missing a finger and love her deeply not just for what's on the outside
Yeah, I agree with you! In my personal opinion, she is better off without this superficial... guy. It sounds like he may still be quite young, insecure and focused on looks and I don't think that he is somebody your friend deserves to be with. If he did lover her for who she is, he would have not left her. Don't worry, I'm sure that - as she grows older - she will find somebody who will love her even though she has lost her finger.
He is an ass and he was only attracted to her on a sexual/physical level...I hope he gets his legs cut off by a lawn mower...i would buy a fake hand and cut off the middle finger and mail it to his punk ass but I am a very revengeful person so...
Yeah! he's shallow so lets hope he gets a life changing disability!
Lol
Wow, he ended a relationship, omg lets cripple him.
Next time you reject a guy for being too short, would it be fair for you to receive polio or scoliosis and wind up shorter or in a wheel chair for the rest of your life?
This kind of response is why women should never be taken seriously. unless it involves sandwich making.
@stvancer,wasn't tryna shoten his life just his legs=lmao
@iamallstar,i would make you a sandwich with rat poison in it you stupid f*ck tard
"I am a very revengeful person"
The sooner you grow up, the better your life will be :)
I'm going to start following you right now, specifically because of this comment ^^^
Did she lose it in a BUCKET OF KFC ?
or
Was it the middle finger ?
and
Was it the left hand?
Tell her I'm sorry for the loss, did she have that insurance? I think it only pays 5,000 a finger.
Why couldn't they of sewed it on like JOHN BOBBITT ?
FAIL.
hmmmm well the political correct thing would be yeah what an ass whole right?. But who are we to judge this guy?. I mean would you date some guy who was missing a finger?. Lets say he came up to you and picked you up, but when he crossed his arms, you saw that he was missing his finger, would you really date him?. You will probably say yes but with the condition of having a super amazing personality to over compensate his missing finger.
You see where I am getting at?. This guy probably has too many issues on his life, specially self-esteem issues to have time to create this amazing personality that you are looking for.
Lol my aunty's boyfriend is an amazing guy
he's missing a finger
i don't see the problem?