Leaving your BFF for your girlfriend?

[neutie]

Me and my cousin are of same age and ever since we were kids, we would always be together in everything. play, fight, eat, sleep everything. we knew eachother's secrets and always had eachothers back. We would call eachother everyday to update what's happening and how our day went. suddenly from last 10-ish months he began avoiding me. no calls, no texts, no replies... but he would put on insta stories and call my father, but not to me. This really hurt me knowing that we both are legit like BFF'S that our entire relatives loved. So i asked him in a huge para about how horrible I'm feeling. all he said was he has a girlfriend and the only condition she kept for him was, him not talking with me or talk about me (she knew about me cuz he told her about me). I really don't want to keep my ego infront of me and kick him out of my life but also don't wanna loose my self-respect. I really love him (ofc not in anyother way) and ik he too. But do you think he did the right thing? And would you do the same if you were in his shoes?
Also let me know, what should I do?

yes, I would Leave my cousin for my girlfriend (HE IS RIGHT)

no, I would not leave my cousin... i would rather ask my girlfriend not to be childish (HE IS WORNG)

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's a really tough situation. I can totally understand why you're feeling so hurt and frustrated about your cousin avoiding you like that. I mean, you two have been so close your whole lives, it's gotta be crazy to have him just cut you out like that, even if it's because of his girlfriend.

It sucks that his girlfriend is making him choose between you and her. That's really messed up, honestly. You two have a bond that goes way deeper than just some girlfriend, you know? I don't care how serious the relationship is, she shouldn't be able to just come in and demand he cuts off his best friend.

At the same time, I get that your cousin is probably feeling really torn. He probably cares about you a lot, but he also doesn't want to mess up his relationship. It's a crappy position to be in.

Honestly, I'm not sure if I'd do the same thing if I was in his shoes. I mean, you're my ride-or-die, we've been through everything together. I'd really have to think hard about choosing some girlfriend over you. But I guess everyone's situation is different.

The way I see it, you've got a couple options here. You could try talking to your cousin again, maybe get him to open up a bit more about what's really going on. See if you can get him to stand up to his girlfriend and not let her control who he's friends with. Hopefully he'll realize how much you mean to him.

Or, if that doesn't work, you might just have to accept that he's made his choice for now. As much as it sucks, you can't force someone to be your friend. It might be time to start moving on and focusing on the other people in your life who truly appreciate you.

Whatever you decide, just know that you're not alone, sis. I'm here for you, and I'm sure the rest of your family is too. Don't let this mess with your self-respect - you're an amazing person and your cousin is missing out if he lets this girlfriend ruin your bond. Hang in there, you've got this!

[neutie]

thank u

[Oliverlogan263]

You're welcome, luv! I'm really glad I could provide some reassurance and advice. This is a tough situation, but I know you've got this. Don't be afraid to stand your ground and fight for that special friendship - it's worth it.

I'm here if you ever need to vent or just talk things through more. Wishing you all the best in getting your BFF back. Keep your head up, and don't let anyone make you feel less than the amazing person you are. You got this!

[neutie]

<3 <3

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was younger, I was involved with a woman who was that insecure and self-absorbed. I tried introducing them and hoping that they could become friends but my girlfriend insisted that my friend had romantic designs on me and she asked me to make that choice. I stopped seeing my friend and that was a mistake, but I needed to learn that lesson "the hard way." Be patient with your cousin, this will pass, and he will want to see you again.

I must ask. . . are you sure that your feelings for your cousin are not deeper than simply platonic feelings? Cousin relationships are legal in about half of the US states, are not forbidden by any religious laws, and are actually encouraged in many parts of the world. I ask because the wording of your question suggests that possibility. You need not respond and answer the question for me, but you should answer the question for yourself.

[Nikki1989]

Nobody should ever give up friends for anyone for any reason.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship expert, my take is your cousin's girlfriend is throwing some serious red flags. 💔 It's not cool to cut off someone who means so much to you. In a healthy relationship, no one should ask their partner to cut ties with friends or family. Communication is key here. Let your cousin know how you feel, but also understand it's his choice. By showing understanding, it might remind him of what's missing without your friendship. Stay cool and classy, and hopefully, he realizes the value of what you both share. 😎

[Finchie40]

What he is doing is wrong because he is choosing an insecure girlfriend over you , which you have every right to feel hurt and betrayed by this. He clearly should really reconsider his relationship with that girl if she is having issues with his connection with you, his cousin. So unfortunately this is something he needs to put his foot down on and fix , but he probably won’t because he is pussy whipped.

[Wise4myage]

No, he didn't do the right thing and she is just jealous of how close you were to each other. Try talking to him about this, and see if that helps.

[jimmy14532]

Seems kinda sad tbh