My boyfriend did nothing for my birthday?

[Kngrif19]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months. Recently he was in a tough financial situation so I was letting him borrow money from me, he owes me about $300. He recently finally got back on his feet and had a good amount of money available to him that he didn't need to spend on any bills, so instead of asking him to pay me back, I told him to pay me back his next check because I would rather him do what he wants with the money and also be able to do something nice for my birthday. He asked me what I wanted for my birthday and told me he would get me something, and I told him that birthdays were a big deal to me and I would like him to do something nice. As my birthday was coming up I noticed that he was spending a lot of his money on weed and other things, I started to worry that he wasn't going to get me anything, but then I thought maybe he was doing something sentimental or he got me something smaller like flowers or some candy, which I was perfectly fine with. Yet, when the day came around, he didn't even remember it was my birthday until I mentioned it when I had been talking about it all week and repeatedly mentioned that it was today because I know that he can be forgetful. He got me no card, didn't make me a card, no gift, no date to lunch or dinner or the movies, he did absolutely nothing. He didn't even say happy birthday until right before he had to go to work, and didn't mention anything about his lack of effort on this day despite his promises and despite the fact that I made it known to him that I wanted him to do literally anything. I just wanted him to show some effort that he wanted to make me feel special. I am extremely hurt by this and don't how how to talk to him about it or what to say without sounding bratty. It really hurts that he told me he would do something and he knew how important the day was to me, yet he blew all his money that should have been mine on weed, then didn't put in any effort to make the day special for me.

[shaylahaa]

Honestly if my boyfriend did this in the first year I would be mad. This first year is basically where trust and a bond is made it's not instantaneous. He borrowed $300 and that's okay if he needs it and you got it to give. But once he got on his feet he should have done something, but spending the money on weed. Take a breather and think about this relationship is it mutual partnership or are you putting in the work. Then confront him, holding back won't help but don't lose your cool. Tell him you were hurt and feel as though he didn't care. Tell him your feelings every little one.

[AshtonOk]

Girl please run. I relate to this more than I’m comfortable with. You should look into the traits of a sociopath (or someone with Antisocial Personality Disorder) and the traits of a narcissist. I bet he fits either one or both of those. You’re obviously not the one to diagnose him, but being aware can help you tremendously. Educate yourself and cut him off. It won’t get better. You deserve better. Also learn how to recognize people like that and what you can do to make yourself less vulnerable to them.

[1truekhaleesi]

I don't mean to scare you but my last boyfriend blew me off on my birthday and we didn't last long. I would break up because you deserve a guy who makes you feel special.

[SarahRosey]

Awh that's so sad. I'd be upset too. He doesn't sound like a keeper!

[AtomicCheesing]

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