I know I couldn't. Sex is one of the five love languages and for many men it is one of the most important ones. Sex isn't just about pleasure, it is also a way to connect. Not to mention that the vast majority men have a very strong biological urge for sex.
I could be close friends with a girl without sex (of course), but a long-term relationship? No, I can picture myself being miserable knowing that I care for her and love her so deeply but will never be able to express myself sexually with her or feel her desire for me and the ecstasy she craves from me.
Sorry if that fed into your fears, but understanding why men find a connection through sex can help come to terms with it. Maybe go to a doctor and find out if you have HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder). There are treatments for it. It may help you to at least have enough of a sex drive to connect to a low sex drive man, otherwise, I would consider asexual men. A bit of a forewarning though, asexual men may have lower testosterone and have other personal issues that may not be compatible with you. As always, it depends on the person.
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I have no idea. I have never been in a relationship that lasted longer than two months, and I have never had sex, but I have rejected every opportunity to have sex. It just doesn't get me into the mood.
I don't think I'm asexual, though, cause I still get turned on by the thought of being with girls. Just when it happens, its disappointing I guess is the word.
I don't have a clue what I am, but I do find that I tend to me more stress-free and happy when I'm alone than when I'm in a relationship.
If I'm waiting to marry the person then I have no problems with that and can definitely wait, but if its after marriage and we're not having sex then I can see that as problem brewing in the relationship. I do want kids and the best and free way to do that is by having sex and if he doesn't want to engage in that, then the relationship is going to be hard or impossible to handle. But of course I would also want it even if we're not making kids cause it's what keeps the flame going between a couple, it's romantic and makes the bond stronger. So I would definitely try to find that out before jumping into the relationship with him so we avoid the issue before it even happens cause when I get married I don't plan on divorcing. I;m going to make sure we are both on the same page before we even say I do.
I couldn't be in a relationship without sex. I have a high sex drive and even a week without drives me crazy and makes functioning in daily life more challenging. I can't imagine this forever.
People's sex drives are different tho, and there surely are guys that are not that interested in sex too. Don't give up on finding someone, there will be someone out there for you!
I would still be happy, as long as I'm in love with him then that's all that matters. But at the same time I would still want sex. My boyfriend and I are sexually on the same page so it makes life easier when it comes down the sex. But I would still be good without sex.
Sex is an important way of maintaining intimacy for me, so no I wouldn't.
Wouldn't it be easiest dating another asexual person?
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I have ZERO interest in a sexless romantic relationship, and would not be in one for very long. It's far too important to me for a number of reasons.
I have a number of other deal-breakers: I don't do "long distance" relationships, for example. The point of a relationship is to SPEND TIME TOGETHER and enjoy each other's company.
You'll find that, for most people, sex is a vital component to a romantic relationship. Some COULD live without it - but many would be miserable and would have to constantly fight an internal battle to stay, which means even if they DID actually stay, they'd be miserable. Myself, being miserable is a dealbreaker, and I'd rather be alone than stay in a relationship that made me miserable.Oh I know how you feel. I'm ace too and I often worry no one will ever be truly happy with me because I'm not willing to have sex.
Have a look at this link:
www.healthywomen.org/.../10191There's always more to a relationship than just sex. It's about the conversations, the talks till four in the morning. Just getting to know the person. However, there's always sexting and phone sex.
Sex is a demonstration of real love. Without sex, any relationship is not much more than a close friendship. There is nothing to give that physical, emotional and psychological release that is essential in a happy relationship.
I personally don't think I would be happy in a long term relationship without sex. Cause sex is an intimate act you do with a partner. It brings you even closer to the person.
I like how all the men wouldn't be happy without sex lmao
I don't know much about asexuality, but could you find another asexual person?
I tried long distance, wasn't my thing. I know a lot of successful relationships that come out of long distance though.
I don't think I would be. I think physical closeness and sexual intimacy are things that I want to have as a part of a relationship.
A relationship without sex is quite pointless, and most asexuals have sex in a relationship.
Yes as long as eventually we do get MARRIED and have it.
I think I could be happy, but definitely not AS happy as a relationship with sex.
I don't think I would be, because physical intimacy is something I value.
God no, sex is one of those things that has to happen several times a day including pegging.
No I wouldn't find someone a sexual don't ruin someone else's life just cause your wired differently
Nope, would think twice about leaving a sexless relationship
if i want a sex free rell, I'll date women, it's easier to live with i guess
Sorry. I couldn't do it. I will desire the vagina too much.
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