What traits makes a person incapable/unfit for relationships/marriage?

[CubsterShura]

Two traits for sure: Commitment issues and unwillingness to compromise. What else?

Do you believe inability to be in love is a real thing? Like some people just cannot love at all, or they suck at loving?

[mattai787]

Everyone is going to have different opinions on this question. Here are mine, For me the traits because of which I find a person unacceptable for a relationship is:
1. If she is not willing to adjust with me on things. For me if we are in a relationship, we are bound to have disagreements on many subjects. What makes a person unfit is, if she is just not willing to adjust/accommodate on small things. Ofcourse this goes to say that I too would adjust with her on many matters but not all - she has to share the same emotion too.
2. If she is too materialistic. I hate women who give too much importance to branded shoes, bags and makeup. That is a complete no-no for me.
3. If she is unfit. I can understand if you are fat (maybe because of some health issue or problem with genes), but if you don't exercise. Its a complete turn off for me. (I have this weird fantasy of going for morning jogs and runs with my future wife and then coming back home and going for a bath together. She could rub my back and I could do the same to her.. It would be awesome na?)
4. If she is not clean, well I hate it if a girl is unclean and has no interest in keeping herself tidy. Ofcourse the same rule applies to me too, I try to keep myself as clean as I can get.
I believe that every person on this planet needs love and can be loved. Its often that the most irritating and annoying people need the most amount of love..
These are all just my opinions. They can be wrong.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

What makes one incapable would be lack of communication
and one who lacks to express real love.

[CandacePerry]

Guy sand girl always have be up front about feelings if they bad traits cheated not good person for me or other being rude. Good traits very kind. Smart Mature and supportive. I only go for short guy's since I get them time to be easier for them to find girl or woman.

[Pink2000]

Liar and insecure.
When I say insecure I mean assuming the person is always cheating because you can't believe they're willing to date you. So you cheat on them before they cheat on you but in reality they were never gonna cheat on you

[OlderAndWiser]

I wrote a myTake on what makes a person a good candidate for a long term relationship/marriage:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a47077-how-do-i-know-if-he-or-she-is-the-one

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Dishonest
Mean
Inconsiderate
Arrogant
Rude
Hypocritical
Selfish
Self-Centered
Superficial
Manipulative
Gold Digger
Disloyal
Immoral
Unreliable
Annoying
Vengeful
Close-minded
Entitled
Ignorant
Racist
Bossy
Greedy
Jealous
Gossipy
Vulgar
Stupid

List is long. 😊

[CubsterShura]

So apparently being less intelligent (stupid) makes one incapable of love. I thought the opposite is true.

[CandaceG]

Can you define unreliable? Like what would she do to show that

[Being_a_good_Indian]

@CubsterShura

Stupidity is a lack of intelligence, understanding, reason, wit or sense. Should I love the person who lack understanding? Should I indulge in relationship with such person?

From my point of view NO.

[CubsterShura]

Okay.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

@CandaceG

Trust is essential for any kind of interpersonal relationship, be it a friendship or a relationship – it should serve as the foundation for a durable and strong connection that transcends the time barrier. Trust is incredibly difficult to earn and very easy to lose, and you cannot possibly have any serious connection with a person unless you trust them.

Talk to your guy. Discuss the issues in your relationship that are created because of his lack of trust.

Tell him face-to-face that you are committed to making changes and explain how you plan to handle the situation in the future. Be humble.

Apologize when you make mistakes. We will appreciate. The person must earn TRUST.

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[ohshee]

I believe. A me me me first person only truly loves one person and that's themselves I've been to believe there are many people out there in the world like that watch how they interact with kids watch how they interact with homeless people watch how they act with people that have nothing except for a good heart if they cannot get along or help any of the above for me I couldn't be in any type of relationship with them

[Pegases]

I believe in compatibility. Not being right for one person deosnt mean you don't have what's right for another. That being said, continually striving to become a better version of yourself is imperative for everyone, if finding a compatible mate is what you hope to find. That more so than anything else will be what leads you to your ideal mate.

[JimRSmith]

Both of those aren't good, but certain other things trump them.

Various personality disorders - narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths etc are spectacularly unfit for relationships.

I do believe that some of the above are incapable of being in love, too. Unfortunately, not everybody exists on the same emotional spectrum. Those who have a genuine inability to love sometimes become adept at faking it, too, generally by observing others.

[slatyb]

Blaming others for problems of one's own making. General lack of empathy or consideration.

No one knows what "being in love" even means, so "inability to be in love" is not a real thing. Different people feel attachment differently. The only thing real is behavior.

[IdkSomethingRandom]

Incompetence. Laziness. Flat out evil. That kinda stuff. Just the absolutely shit things nobody has any business being at all c
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[CandaceG]

Can you define incompetence?

[IdkSomethingRandom]

Choosing to be stupid out of complacency or heavy sentimental sway. A cant-be-bothered ignorance, or a plug your ears and go 'la-la-la kinda ignorance.'

[CubsterShura]

Umm can you provide an example, like a small convo or a small story?

[oksurething]

Anger management issues. If they can control it, anger sometimes turns me on, but issues are not good.

[CubsterShura]

Point.

[oksurething]

Thanks

[SebShaw82]

I've never been in love and I don't see that ever changing. Too many people expect you to swim oceans for them when they get into a fuss to step over a puddle. That's exploitation, not love.

[DonkeyRick69]

A history of infedility is one big one. A person you can't trust to be faithful should be a major red flag for anyone

[martyfellow]

Yes, a lot of people never learned to love.. because they never were loved as children, most often.

[roy_ricky09]

One who doesn't know how to handle responsibilities

[ddobjo]

It depends what do you have in mind when you day love. It's different for every one. But yea some are just not ready to love or are not in state of mind for it.

[Couchy]

Malignant Narcissism, pathological personality disorders to name a few deal breakers for me.

[honestibrahim]

Cheating, flirting and a lot of opposite sex "friends". Most likely he or she had some sort of relations with at least 2 of them

[pizzalovershouse]

jerky not nice not able to care an just treats every body mean

[Maxemeister]

Lack of sense of humor

[Girlie15]

Lazy and Crazy.

[CubsterShura]

That's me ;-;

[Kranjec]

No hymen, no diamond. Poped cherry, don't marry.

[CubsterShura]

Doing certain exercises can also break the hymen.

[Kranjec]

Not my problem. Don't do such exercises then.

[CubsterShura]

Cycling and crunches etc can break the hymen. You want a woman to never work out?

[Kranjec]

Professional bikers still have it intact and all you need is squats. Again, not my problem is you do things that you know can brake it instead of an alternative.

[CubsterShura]

Well that's your headache.

[Kranjec]

But it isn't? It's your problem to deal with, not mine.

[CubsterShura]

It's not my problem at all. A broken hymen doesn't make someone incapable of marriage however promiscuous act does.

[Kranjec]

Agreed, but yet again, how is a man to know if he is being lied to besides the hymen? You think that if a girl falls in love and wants the guy but he demands a virgin, that she will not lie to him?

[CubsterShura]

I don't know about others but for my own self there is no reason anyone would think that I'm not a virgin.

[Nahid1234]

No effort and no appreciation.

[es20490446e]

What makes them capable?

[CubsterShura]

Opposite of what makes him incapable? I don't know.

[es20490446e]

What do you think?

[CubsterShura]

Not sure.

[NerdInDenial]

Self centered

[Insanyx12]

Non willing to commit

[Volvagia]

being fat and bald

[CubsterShura]

Wha xD

[Volvagia]

@gguy767 well I did it for u yw

[jdashado]

Honesty/Loyalty

[jersos1]

Trust