Boyfriend answering craigslist personal ads?

[katherine4200]

So I was at my boyfriends house on his computer and his email was up. I happen to see that he had been facebook messaging a girl telling her that she looked beautiful. Then I clicked on his sent mail box and I found emails where he was responding to craigslist ads for sex! We are together all the time and I do not think he acted on it. I confronted him and he admitted to sending the emails and said that he cannot justify his actions and doesn't know why he did it. He claims that he wants to get married (he has a son from an ex wife who cheated on him)...and that he would never cheat since he was cheated on. He canceled his facebook and said that he will do whatever it takes to win my trust back. He obviously said that nothing like this would ever happen again because he doesn't want to jeopardize love and never wants to hurt me. I do love him but I am unsure of what to do. Do I give him another chance? Or is this completely unforgivable and I should kick him to the curb?

[topnotch69]

Well at least he said he would never do it again and deleted his accounts. Every situation is different. In my experience, my boyfriend would stop for a week and everything would be great and then I would find another account on dating/sex websites except it would be under a different screen name. He may just hide it better now. You have to be smart. You can not trust him until he proves to be trustworthy. You can google his email address(without the @____.com) and see what comes up. Also any screen name or nickname he uses or may have once used. You kinda have to play dectective if you choose to forgive him and see if he stops. Guys who respond to craigslist ads will most likely have profiles on adultfriendfinder, fling, mocospace, airg and/or any other free dating/sex website. I feel your pain. I don't believe he is doing it because he's not satisfied with you. F**k that! Please do not buy into that. There is nothing wrong with you...well..except that maybe your dating a jerk.idk. The problem is within him. He may suffer from low self esteem and thinks the attention from random strange girls on the INTERNET makes him a total pimp. LMAO! I think its pathetic...like really,really sad. There is so much p*rn on the internet and everywhere now a days and many people have developed an unhealthy sexual addiction. Its now easier than ever before for people in commited realationships to cheat.

Also, don't be a doormat! If you forgive him for this over and over again ,it will just keep happening because he knows he can get away with it. Trust me girl I am an expert in this department. I would tell him how it made you feel and that its not acceptable. If he would rather be with a craigslist whor* instead of you well than wish him luck with that and tell him its over. Atleast make him think its really over so he knows you mean business. It is a very big deal. Whatever happens just know that it has nothing to do with you or how you look. You could be model perfect and some men will still chase women. Tiger Woods is the perfect example. Talk to him, let him think its over, stand up for yourself and check up on his promises. Good Luck!

[topnotch69]

Well what happened ? any new news?

[onetwo3]

Something kind of similar happened to me and my advice is let him go. My ex did the same thing (even found a new job because he worked with the girl that some shady stuff happened with) and everything went downhill from there. If I could go back in time I would absolutely dump him right away. I think that he's either still lying to you and will continue his behavior, or he'll try to prove himself to you in a way that you feel smothered and he starts to resent you because he feels like he should keep checking in with you, even if you never asked him too. Either one is only going to bring the relationship down. Ultimately the decision is yours, because realistically you're just going to do what you feel is right, but before you make that decision remind yourself that you deserve someone who loves and respects you.

[JabberWalkie]

People tend to cheat when they are not getting what they want/need in their own relationship. Just a thought anyways.

[katherine4200]

I agree with that completely but we have a ridiculous sex life...at least 10 times a week...which is why I don't know why he would look elsewhere.

[martyfellow]

Sorry, no excuses for this...time for a new Bf?

[Paullus]

he probably made another facebook

[Anonymous]

that sucks.