Are you with sex before marriage or against? And why?

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I will start my opinion with that I’m in between.

but I highly recommend it after marriage specially nowadays where there’s no loyalty anymore.

Of of course I’m not against Love and sex is natural but what IF he wasn’t the one?
Again I’m not against it but I have a problem trusting guys.

And if someone told you “why buy the car before testing it” tell them “I’m not a car I’m IPhone, cheaper than a car but you can’t test me before you buy me 😛 “

Wally48 · Accepted Answer

As yesterday was my 35th wedding anniversary I thought I should jump into this one.

Don't believe the abstainers when they say your are doomed to a life of promiscuity and failed marriages if you enjoy your sexuality responsibly. Take it from an old guy that has been through this. I was a virgin until age 20, and had six "intimate" girlfriends from 20 up to getting married at 28. I've had a stable, successful life, raised two very accomplished kids, and have had a happy marriage to a MIT Physics major and NCAA swimmer who I just adore.

Looking back, I can't tell you how much each of those previous girlfriends added to the quality of my life, and how we helped each other through school challenges, with emotional support, traveling, professionally etc. Far beyond the sexual gratification (which is so important to a sexually mature human). Any of these women would have made a good wife and mother.

Sex is such a HUGE part of our physical existence, and most of you are in your peak years of sexual desire and performance. Don't waste that time. Put together a relationship with someone you really like, and enjoy it.

Supermodel_Guy · Accepted Answer

I am 100% against sex before marriage. I know I'm in a minority but I believe in purity and in the statement "true love waits." I'm a virgin and I plan on remaining a virgin until either I am engaged to a girl or maybe until after the wedding. I would only marry a girl that is a virgin because I honestly couldn't be happy if I married a girl that was't knowing I waited and she cared more about fornicating with a previous lover than waiting for a lifelong relationship. When a virgin man and a virgin woman marry, their relationship is much more likely to last a lifetime because of greater trust, a greater bond, and because there is no hidden resentment issues that could lead to relationship problems.

Most people don't care about virginity anymore and that's their personal choice.

Diskid · Accepted Answer

I'm into waiting.

Not just for religious reasons, but I think its a good way to weed out the guys that are actually interested in you and the guys that are just there for sex. Too many women getting used or getting hurt and abandoned by some guy she was nuts over that ditched her the moment after she opened her legs. If I ever considered doing it before marriage, it would only be in the confines of a steady, committed relationship with someone I loved that I could see spending the rest of my life with. None of this putting out on the first date stuff.

A relationship is a cake and sex is supposed to be the icing. Not the other way around.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

I'm for it before marriage. I wouldn't marry someone sooner than two years after getting together, and I wouldn't wanna wait two years before being intimate. I think it's also a great way of strengthening your relationship. Sure, wait until you're comfortable together and trust each other but there is no way of guaranteeing that the person you marry is the one either, so many marriages end up in divorce. If you're always worried about whether the person is the one, I don't think marriage fixes that. I don't care what other people do though, waiting until after marriage isn't bad, it's just not for me.

Astoriana · Accepted Answer

I think that it’s important to know what you like and don’t like in order to have a healthy sexual relationship. The only way to really know is to try things out. Sure, you can wait until you get married to experiment - but what if your partner isn’t interested in that? Then, will you be happy with a lackluster sex life for the rest of your life? I wouldn’t be.

edmonton · Answer

I'm waiting, this was supposed to be something shared between a husband and wife so "the 2 can become 1" It wasn't something to do for fun. If your partner is willing sacrifice waiting until you are married, even though he may really not want to, it is guaranteed he will continue to sacrifice for you while married. Sex isn't everything in a relationship, and it was not meant for you to have it with 20 different people either.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely not against, I respect those who choose to wait. Personally, I wanna take the car for a drive before I buy it. Also, I feel like nothing is 100% certain sometimes, not even marriage. With the rate that people get divorced now a Days, along with how often people lie and cheat, it’s so hard to find loyalty in general. In my head, why wait? For me, sex can be an expression of love and an exchanging of energy. That’s ultimately what matters most.

OfDeath · Answer

As far as the car analogy goes, I would say that you wouldn't want to find out you are not sexually compatible after committing that much.

But that's not the reason I'm for sex before marriage.
What if you never get married? Why not experience life without sacrificing your own happiness due to some sort of "tradition" which is antiquated

BeeryNice · Answer

What if he's not the one? What if he's not the 5th or the 16th or the 50th. It's just sex. It's not holy. Every animal does it and it's fun.

Zendrya · Answer

I think you're kinda dumb if you marry someone without having sex with them because if you aren't sexually compatible no matter how much you say sex doesn't matter and you love each other, someone is going to cheat and your marriage is gonna end anyway.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

Neither. It’s a personal decision that each individual must make for themselves, based on what is right for them, their beliefs, and their situation. I personally chose to have sex before marriage, but I don’t think it is wrong to wait.

angelgirl7 · Answer

I'll say I'm in between.
If you want to have sex before marriage, go for it. If you want to wait until marriage, go for it. Personally, waiting until marriage is not important to me but I would like to wait until I am in a committed relationship with someone I feel comfortable sharing that experience with.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Yes, casual sex has ruined relationships. A lot people now a days dont want to put in time, effort, or commitment into a relationship, they just want get to the screwing part. Yet everyone wonders why single moms and stds exist or at such high numbers.

CallMeDave · Answer

Marriage is a significant commitment, hopefully a lifelong commitment. I believe that it's important to really know all aspects of your relationship with someone before taking that step and that would include sex. Sexual incompatibility can lead to a lot of problems in a marriage, including cheating, so I personally think it's wise to be sure that won't be a problem before taking the very big step of getting married.

CZLumen · Answer

Act like you're married before you get married.
I have read way to many stories about how holding off sex, lead to unreasonable we expectations on one another and the realization that you're romantically incompatible.

You're entering a life bond partnership with another human being who should be your best friend. There should be no surprises after committing to marriage.

abbabygirl · Answer

Hmm with sex befire marrage because what if you never get married and you are just a virgin your whole life

Anonymous · Answer

I did not vote because im both. I told myself to wait till marriage BUT if i found a man that I trust and loved at the moment to do it. Im just happy it was while in college rather than high-school. So its fine to wait for the right person but there's no shame in living in the moment with someone you love now.

Alan180188 · Answer

sex, living together... etc
marriage is not a game, it's establishing a house and a small part of the community where you'll raise a part of the new generation !
so both parts must live together and try everything and go through all situations together to agree on the main rules and put the basic method of how their house and life will be like, or end it before they be a bad part of the community and poison the new generation that will be raised in that house !

Anonymous · Answer

If you get married, and you have sex then, and you wind up not being sexually compatible.. you just lost your virginity or whatever, to a guy you no longer want to be with..

SEX CAN MAKE OR BREAK A RELATIONSHIP

LegateLanius · Answer

I had sex without being in a relationship and also would never cheat. Would someone like you want to be with someone like me?

Anonymous · Answer

Waiting only benefits men and not women. As a woman you need to know what you are working with, if he has sexual dysfunction, if he can please you etc. Men on the other hand could cut a hole into a wall and get off. Not women

BADBOY22 · Answer

Ofc before marriage. I can't wait till marriage. Lol

jacquesvol · Answer

Waiting till marriage was normal when girls married at 10-13

JenSCDC · Answer

I've had sex while in a relationship, but never any random hookups.

AzureGirl · Answer

Neither really. It’s fine either way. It just depends on the person.

honey29 · Answer

Love is so important in life, so sex is a way of express to love

simpleguy23 · Answer

I don't have an opinion on it, let people do whatever they please

Gypsy_x · Answer

If you're a highly sexual person with sexual expectations, you need to have sex to ensure you have chemistry.

puck17 · Answer

Such an important part of a relationship that not knowing if you're compatible sexually would scare me off from making a lifetime commitment

TrajanJJ · Answer

Yeah it usually the religious types who say stuff like wait till marriage.  I am non-religious so I really don’t have any objections to sex before marriage.  I don’t see any issue.

anon08 · Answer

From my perspective, if you're destined to be together it shouldn't matter

Laulenke1 · Answer

My wife and I had sex for several years before we got married 10 years as of last September and still going strong

brainydead · Answer

Because it's too good to be good for the one of a lifetime, do a little bit of practice before is a good way to keep the One

blssdmf007 · Answer

It's not as realistic in our society today to wait for marriage...

Anonymous · Answer

Gotta say, I have thoroughly enjoyed sex before marriage. Definitely well worth it.

Caradepiedra · Answer

Before, you should know what you at dealing with, sex is an important part of marriage. If something is wrong could affect your relationship

Lutherthesaint · Answer

I am with living in the sin I am the libertine

Iron_Man · Answer

For after but things happen

cupidkisses · Answer

Against

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, it destroys sanctity.

GayHowellMeme · Answer

I don't mind it.

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