My boyfriend thinks I'm rich. He always want me to pay everything during dating and living. what can I do?

[Anonymous]

So, my Turkish boyfriend is 28 and he doesn't have work. We live together and he always say me to buy foods, transfortation fees, and everything. I am 19 Japanese girl. I don't have work and I am not rich at all. I care money because it's my parent's money but he asked me that why do care I about money and that I'm rich so bla bla bla. I had my birthday and he said me he'll buy anything I want. and I wanted a necklace which price 100$ but he said me No, and he said mhe can buy this which is 10$... After that, he said me he want 1000$ wrist watch in his birthday...

[vickysun86]

kind of crazy, I don't know why your boyfriend like this way , seems he didn't care about you , he stays with you just for money. Or he didn't realize your money from your parents and your parents are not rich. maybe in his mind, you came from japan, your parents must be rich. and he is poor, so he only can affort 10dollars, but you can affort more expensive gift for him.

[Asker]

I've already told him that I am not rich or something but when I talk about money to him, he always gets angry

[vickysun86]

then try to use less money on him, if he didn't happy and left you, just left him go. bcs he would not be worthy you love him once he left bcs your less money using on him.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

I wonder what you will learn from this experience?
Being used is never nice and being leaned on by a man who is 28 and has little to no pride would be the topper for me.
He sees you as a cash cow because you allow it.

[SweedyPie]

He sounds like he's just using you. And if he's comfortable enough with it to just demand you buy everything and pay for his things, he will always be that way. My advice, leave him.

[James_R_G]

Seen this before many times. You need to draw a line right now about this otherwise he will drain you dry. If he's 28 he absolutely should have his own money and I'm sorry to say but where do you even see the relationship going if he's leaning on you so heavily financially?

You need to ask a lot of hard questions and then make hard decisions I'm sorry to say

[Evora]

I'm sad reading this, really. It sounds like he's such a baka though. You should really go all full disclosure at him and tell him that his behavior sucks and that it can never work in the long run, threaten him that you will end the relationship, see his reaction and if his reaction is violent, DUMP HIM!

[Asker]

I've said him that I'll end relationship then I blocked him. after that he followed all women who are his sex friends but he trying to chat me or call me on his friends and family's number and accounts. also he sent me many emails. I don't understand him. because he connected or chatting with his sex friends but the same time he chatting me or calling me many times. and saying me that ''I'm sorry bla bla bla.''

[Evora]

Well much to my surprise you already know that he has sex friends and is still actively in touch with them and yet you're still sticking to him? he must either be some seducer sensei or hypnotist maniac, gotta give him that, no, you totally should either kick him out right now or run away from him and make sure he never sees/hears from you again, ever. It's for your own good, run for your life!!!

[Logorithim]

He's not treating you with the respect you deserve in a relationship. You can do better, and I see no reason for you to stay with this guy.

[Paul09]

Please do yourself the best favour, leave him. You are so young and still learning. He's older and not learning anything, just using you. Since you are young you need to worry about you and your life. You will find someone that treats you the way you should be treated.

[Ayer93]

Lol I don't mean to take shots, but that guy sounds like a scumbag by your description. Most guys will pay for the girl most of the time. I personally look for equality in a relationship. That guy sounds like he wants you to be his sugar mama. $100 isn't even a lot for a gift. Saying he can't get you that after offering to get you what you wanted is ridiculous. My advice... leave the sap.

[vickysun86]

agree with you for that !

[qwert1234]

Ask yourself - are you his ATM or his GF?
A normal person would not treat anybody like that.
A normal, educated 28 y/o is expected to have a job and is supposed to be stable in his/her job - doesn't matter if it's a he or she.

[madhatters4]

tell him you aren't rich and even if you were it is not your responsibility to make him a kept man. explain that the money is your parents and not yours

[Astoriana]

Good lord! Dump this little boy right now! He’s a gold digger, and a very obvious and ungrateful one at that.

[Unit1]

This ^

[Ariel1990]

omg what a jerk.. i hate that type of men..
1000 dollar watch? instead he would be kicked down there..

[slatyb]

He's only interested in what you can buy for him. Why is he your boyfriend? What are you getting out of this relationship? Dump this guy.

[bomotion]

Sounds like he is taking advantage of your youth. I would assume it will never get better cut him loose and let him find the next one.

[Lonerguy1234]

i like you and i like him. lol good pay for everything why complain? ask him to pay sometimes too.

[bloodyrevenge]

Talk to him. Make sure he wants you for you and not your (or your parents) money

[Anonymous]

why do you even allow him to speak to you that way
you're not his wallet
stand up for yourself and tell him

[samhradh_leannan]

Tell him that you’re not rich and your relationship needs to be fair, so you both need to split all costs 50/50.

[sebas123]

1st time a girl is suffering what boys have suffered from years... You should get rid of him.

[fredrick_27]

Throw shit on his face and say goodbye and good riddance

[Sweetmom]

Break up with that weak guy, this is why I listen to no scrubs by tlc

[karigalan92]

Come out of him otherwise u r life will be horrible

[Quinlyn]

He's 28, a lot older than you he should be the one taking care of the bills and stuff, there are guys out there who'll not treat you as a credit card

[whatarewedoinghere]

1st this what is a transformation fee r u an auto bot and I would say it's a good time to end it

[Asker]

transfortation is train, bus fee like a month pass

[whatarewedoinghere]

Would have been so much cooler if it was an aoluto bot tax but oh well just leave him or tell him he needs a job and that ur not paying for everything anymore or get on the bus and be like just 1 please and tell him oh what u wanted to go but I'm not paying for u

[Names93]

Sounds like a freeloader.
Get rid of him.