This will probably be a long as crap answer around myTake length (coincidentally being typed out on a phone), so bear with me.
To break it down, I’d say it comes down to...
1.) (If possible) changing/eliminating whatever is causing the sadness, if the cause can be identified
For instance, my best friend growing committed suicide last year, and I was naturally super sad. It’s still saddening to think about. Of course, I can’t bring him back to life, but I can focus on the good times we had. It makes the situation less sad when I focus on the positive things about him and not just associating him with the end.
2.) Not keeping the sadness bottled up...
Keeping thoughts bottled up is a recipe for disaster. Going back to my friend’s death, what helped me a lot was talking to my friend over it and having a good cry session.
It doesn’t need to be talking necessarily though. That’s only one common way. Just expressing your feelings in general helps immensely. Chat about it online. Go to a psychologist. Write it down in a journal (note, check out free writing). Express it in poetry. Write a song over it— whatever. Finding some way to express your sadness seemingly releases it and eases the burden of it.
(Link to free writing— one method backed by research that can help:
liberalarts.utexas.edu/.../pennebak#writing-health
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3.) Finding something happy and positive that can bump out the sadness...
It’s important to have aspects of your life that you like so you can be happy over those things. Sad is more of a default emotion than happy in that regard, because if you have nothing to be happy over, chances are you’re sad for that fact.
I personally use music creation as my go to method. I write down emotions on paper and turn them into lyrics. I play guitar and get out sad feelings. I hit the drums and get out anger. I enjoy the activity, and having a result (aka a song) gives me something to be proud and happy over.
I’d argue this is step is where hobbies come in. If you have any hobbies, it’d be a good time to spend time on them. If you don’t have any hobbies, maybe you can try and experiment. That can be fun to.
Another possibility is doing something you enjoy. For instance, during finals week, I go out to this local buffet sushi place I love. It’s a bit more expensive than my average ramen noodle crap, but it’s a huge moral booster. So my advice is to do something special you don’t normally do. Go shopping. Go to an arcade. [continued]
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Sleeping the moments of sadness away, drugs & drinking with good friends of mine, laughing, spending time with my pets, writing poems, doing something like a chore or project to keep me occupied, getting some ass, making fun of evil people who are stupid, watching shows with compelling writing, gardening, or cheering other people up who are sadder than I am or are in worse positions.
Read, go out with friends, go for walks or runs, spend time outdoors, workout, write, if you are religious I would say pray.
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Try to look at your reasons for being sad as part of the larger picture. Sure, you hurt, but you'll come to realize life is full of ups and downs. You will more than likely be more sad than you are now at some point in your life, but you'll also more than likely be happier than you've ever been up to this point in your life further down the road. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming.
Not sure actually. Im never really that sad, however when my girlfriend and I broke up I ran 30 k without stopping. Also I lift weights, just takes out all the stress and let's my mind wander.
Just get the point what's making you sad and say at its face I don't care anymore, have some nice food some new clothes few friends to go crazy with party hard...
I talk to people I trust, keep busy, and give myself time. If you are also feeling hopeless, you lose the desire to do anything, nor derive any pleasure from that, and your sleeping patterns change, please see a doctor.
Find and address the cause of sadness? Or if its inconclusive/unimportant find something to do, like read or watch vids, lols
Talk about it with a friend, then keep talks more often than usual with him/her. Keep yourself busy with things of your sincere interest.
Time. Girlfriend cheated on me while I was having open heart surgery. Been two years, and still have dreams and thoughts and pain about it. But you find people who help you try to heal. But it takes time.
What I do is, I hear some of my favorite songs and sing along.
I listen to music and do things which i really like to do... which takes off my mind from sadness like gaming, social media etc.
first go to the gym to clear my mind.
then identify the problem, figure out the solution and fix it. there are no options. fix it. fix it or die.To be honest I've still not really worked that one out myself
Hangout with your besties. Do what makes you happy.
I stay busy and be around positive people :)
You don't get over sadness, you go through it.
Copious amounts of masturbation and waffles
Food! Thats how i deal with it
Time
Talking people about it
Exercise
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