Women love drama, conflict, excitement, danger, and doing certain things without logical reasoning. You have to realize that what these girls are telling you is that you don't have those qualities of giving the "thrills" that they want and desire. Women want a MAN. Someone who stands his ground, protects what's his, says no to her half the time, who is in command, the alpha male, the leader. Those are the guys that have things going on all the time. These girls are simply telling you that you are boring, predictable, too dependable. I know you are probably saying "no not me, I'm not like that", I know because I have done the same thing. Then there is telling a girl that she is pretty, beautiful, sexy and so on... STOP doing that. Putting a girl on a pedistal is the worse thing ever. When a girl calls you, don't answer imeadiately, call her back in 5 hours or even the next day. You have to show a girl that you WANT her, not NEED her. Needy guys don't even know that they are acting needy for the most part. It's not about getting mad (especially at dumb stuff), but there has to be some conflict. To a woman "when it's too easy, something is wrong". These are qualities that the bad boys and the jerks have and that's why they get the girls. You have to take advantage of a situation. Women are delusional , complex with logic, and don't have a sense of humor like men. The next time you are out with a girl and your mind tells you to do something, do the opposite. Treating girls like "crap" is one of the tricks to have them come back for more and start chasing you.
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Maybe your personality is not compatable with what these girls are looking for in a long term guy. Some people speculate that the female should look better than the male. Otherwise, the male will try to do better. Maybe these women are afraid that you won't actually commit to the relationship.
They aren't dumping you because you're a nice guy. I really wish guys would stop taking this as some universal truth. Not saying you're a BAD guy, but girls telling you they don't want it to continue because "you're a nice guy" is a gentle albeit cowardly way to cover up the real reason.
What the real reason might be is hard to say. I'd suggest tracking down the bluntest of these girls or your friends and asking them for a real answer, and NOT getting p*ssy about what they say.
My gut is saying maybe these girls are walking away because you're acting so distantly. Texting/calling a girl and giving her compliments can come off as clingy/needy, but girls also need it to feel wanted (it's a fine line.) So in a misguided effort to not "turn them off," and acting aloof... you're actually turning them off even more.
I'm just really gonna harp on the nice guy issue. My last ex (6 months) is described by himself and his friends as the nicest guy ever. But out of 8-10 relationships, he's only had 2 last more than a month. Why? Because his version of nice is 1) being terrified of conflict to the point of being cowardly 2) using that "niceness" as a way to distance himself. It INFURIATED me that he never got angry or upset... In the end, "nice" just seemed like another way of saying "bloodless coward," and a way to jerk me around (he never outright rejected me, cause he's TOO NICE, but he seemed to do it passive-aggressively.)
Really dig down deep and see what kind of "nice" you think you are.
wow this is so awesome. not that you can't keep a girlfriend, but that you are the way you are. honestly you are like me. I m the same way. I have dated clingy and people who don't give a f***. I hate the texting all the time people and yet I don't like the guys who ignore. but ya I m the same. I am nice to the people I talk too and I can't keep a relationship longer than like three months. lol!
one thing that I have realized though is that all my guy friends tell me that I shouldn't chagne myself cause the people I have dated so far are retartds and don't appreciate me. that is why you should stop questionign why and just go with it. there are many fish in the sea and trust me I would love to meet a guy this way.
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