How do people get into relationships that lasts up to a month and even more? I easily get bored after a week or thereabout. Am I alone on this?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

The question is whether this is truly boredom or fear. You may fear not knowing how to hold onto a relationship and keep it new and alive, so you run quickly. You may have low self-esteem and assume people will discover your perceived flaws. You may have strong fears of abandonment.

Generally, when people get bored, it's because they expect their partner to do everything, and their expectations are unrealistic. A relationship is what two people choose to create and nurture. It won't last if the responsibility is placed primarily on one person. Without learning and using effective communication skills, you'll never have more than superficial relationships.

Since relationships are so challenging for you, I'd suggest starting with group activities rather than connecting with one person. Find an organization or club that promotes an interest of yours or a cause you believe in. Either volunteer to help out or take on a responsible role. Let people see you in action rather than judge you only on your appearance. By focusing on the overall objective of the organization, and not focusing on making connections with individuals, you may find it easier to socialize, get to know people and improve your comfort in interacting with others. Introverts become more functional and outgoing when they understand their role in a structure. Without structure, you're more likely to be the wallflower.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Have you just not met a gut who interests you at all, or are you simply getting bored very quickly?

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The only thing that does not bore me is God - I was studying bible verses during my vacation in Portugal and my dad yelled at me for wasting his vacation money.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

You value looks more, which is why you get bored fast with your partners. They have no substance to keep you interested.

spartan55 · Answer

You don't need to be getting in ANY relationship right now with your maturity level.

one1wild00 · Answer

sounds like you get your rush on the initial excitement of the body and the sex. not of the person as a whole. it takes like the whole person you are with and work to make a relationship last.

TheLastRhodesian · Answer

Normal, I get bored after four months. But being bored for two weeks is already being a slut.

Iron_Man · Answer

I would recommend not dating at this time because what happens if you get married

Twalli · Answer

I've been in a relationship closing in on 4 years. When you find the right person you want to stay with them,

Headstrongcrazylover · Answer

I too get bored soon from 4 to 8 days or csn extend more of the girl is creative.

driven159 · Answer

Then it is best you don't get into a relationship then to save the hurt and wasted time

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