How do people get into relationships that lasts up to a month and even more? I easily get bored after a week or thereabout. Am I alone on this?

[PepeMori]

Honest opinions please 🙂

[caring__1]

The question is whether this is truly boredom or fear. You may fear not knowing how to hold onto a relationship and keep it new and alive, so you run quickly. You may have low self-esteem and assume people will discover your perceived flaws. You may have strong fears of abandonment.

Generally, when people get bored, it's because they expect their partner to do everything, and their expectations are unrealistic. A relationship is what two people choose to create and nurture. It won't last if the responsibility is placed primarily on one person. Without learning and using effective communication skills, you'll never have more than superficial relationships.

Since relationships are so challenging for you, I'd suggest starting with group activities rather than connecting with one person. Find an organization or club that promotes an interest of yours or a cause you believe in. Either volunteer to help out or take on a responsible role. Let people see you in action rather than judge you only on your appearance. By focusing on the overall objective of the organization, and not focusing on making connections with individuals, you may find it easier to socialize, get to know people and improve your comfort in interacting with others. Introverts become more functional and outgoing when they understand their role in a structure. Without structure, you're more likely to be the wallflower.

[PepeMori]

Thank you for this!🙂

[caring__1]

You're welcome.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you just not met a gut who interests you at all, or are you simply getting bored very quickly?

[PepeMori]

Yes I have.
I wouldn't even date someone who I ain't interested in.

[OlderAndWiser]

What causes you to lose interest? Are you feeling a physical attraction to any of these guys?

[PepeMori]

Yeah I have.
But I honestly don't know why I lose interest so quickly.

[OlderAndWiser]

One of my thoughts - just a ossibility - is that you are afraid of getting into a relationship and losing interest helps you to avoid going forward with dating and involvement. Any possibility that is true for you?

[PepeMori]

Yes yes yes
You’re right. 😳

[PepeMori]

I sometimes think what if we get too involved and he decides to leave me someday.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have a history of rejection? Not necessarily in the romantic area, but perhaps by a family member?

[PepeMori]

No..

[OlderAndWiser]

You have some strong insecurities?

[jennifer_bloom]

The only thing that does not bore me is God - I was studying bible verses during my vacation in Portugal and my dad yelled at me for wasting his vacation money.

[UniquelyBasic]

You value looks more, which is why you get bored fast with your partners. They have no substance to keep you interested.

[PepeMori]

Ohh.. you think?

[spartan55]

You don't need to be getting in ANY relationship right now with your maturity level.

[one1wild00]

sounds like you get your rush on the initial excitement of the body and the sex. not of the person as a whole. it takes like the whole person you are with and work to make a relationship last.

[TheLastRhodesian]

Normal, I get bored after four months. But being bored for two weeks is already being a slut.

[PepeMori]

We're both wired differently 😉
And also I don't know the kind of relationship you go into.
I'm very introverted, I barely step out of the house and I rarely date someone but anytime I do.. I get bored out. 🤷

[Iron_Man]

I would recommend not dating at this time because what happens if you get married

[PepeMori]

What's the appropriate age you feel someone could start dating?

[Iron_Man]

Well you said you get bored within a week when you stop getting bored within a week and when you
Feel serious for a long lasting relationship then maybe you should date again

[PepeMori]

Haaa!
I don't know.

[Twalli]

I've been in a relationship closing in on 4 years. When you find the right person you want to stay with them,

[Headstrongcrazylover]

I too get bored soon from 4 to 8 days or csn extend more of the girl is creative.

[PepeMori]

Hahaha 😂
Yours is wow!

[driven159]

Then it is best you don't get into a relationship then to save the hurt and wasted time