How long does it take for a relationship to get boring?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

[Finchie40]

Until one decides to be selfish and only cares about themselves , they don’t include their partner and become very one sided when it comes to things , They stop wearing their partners shoes before making decisions, they lack on intimacy and affection , they prioritize everyone else over their partner , Sadly Females’ are the most selfish people these days based off of my experiences and what I have witnessed , Most females are fixated on what they see and read on social media , constantly comparing their lives to others and thinking grass is greener on the other side , Most females do not know how to wear her man’s shoes like she expects him to wear hers. I am not saying all female are like this but a magority of them are , and yes there are men that are assholes as well , When a relationship starts to get boring it’s best to focus on your partner and ignite that passion again instead of thinking someone else is going to save you , when you learn to remove your inner selfishness for someone you choose to be in a relationship in to begin with you will see love grow , if not you are just clearly a selfish person that only cares about themselves

[ShadezMcgee]

Usually it depends on the person. Typically people are with the honeymoon and lust phase for 30 months/90 days. But if a person is actively looking for a reason to grow bored by finding flaws and what not, they will focus on that and use it to create distance or use it as an excuse to break up.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on how long you two have known eachother for.. and how long you’ve been friends.
Relationships last longer and are more tolerable when the pair has had a past as friends to begin with. Or has known eachother for longer.

Unlike if you just get with someone who you had a crush on. And you date them.

ITS ALL ABOUT TIME. LENTH OF TIME. Men specially fall in love with time. Not the other way around. Men first feel infatuation and lust. LATTERR. It’s when a man falls in love. And even though women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

So you need to in fact play by a Man’s cards. Do kiss. Do wink and smile at the guy you like. Do let him touch on you or feel you up.
But whatever you do.
DO NOT GIVE HIM FULL ACCESS.

He’s needs to get the membership to get full access. If you understand.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@emyywolf Membership whahaha, definitely a truth to that one. You don’t necessarily need to let him touch or feel you up to make it “less” boring though, there’s many other ways to keep it less boring and it doesn’t have to involve any of that physical stuff. Holding hands alone can be quite something

[WonderBell99]

I get bored very easily. Probably like 3 months? I sound like an asshole, but whenever I want to breakup with someone, I just start distancing myself from them and they eventually get bored of me too. Works like a charm.

[Summeroflove]

It really depends. Some people never get bored for a long time. Others… They get bored quick. It’s best if you’re not happy with someone to just break up.

[stoicity]

Depends on how much scrutining you've done during initial phases. Did you lust over things that are physical or did you really spent time to know the other person. The quicker you fall the shorter the hangover.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not talking about my relationship. My 3.4 years relationship ended 10 months ago. I am just curious about the new relationship he jumped into, they are already together for 6-7 months, living together I think and he was my fiance. I am just shocked and confused how he forgot me so easily.

[stoicity]

It's sad to realise that the most meaningful feelings that we develop are based on social contract "marriage". It needs constant reassurance and watering for it to sustain. The only thing that you can do is to learn and move on, people either ignore their experiences and commit the same mistake or learn and move on.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s what he said, he said had we married earlier, he would have to try to solve all the problems in our relationship , but now that his feelings faded, he wanted to start over with someone new.

So, if we signed on a paper, our love would have a chance of survival? Isn’t it silly?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

In my mind we were no different from married, he was my husband and I would do anything for our love.

He seemed to rather find the solutions outside though.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@lafemmefatale_1 He either used you, is not being fully honest with you or truly lost feelings somehow though i would think he’ll still be easy on you then but some dudes are cold as hell

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer He didn’t use me, we were long distance in the ending part of our relationship and he waited patiently and supported even though he didn’t get anything from me.

He lost feelings due to forced long distance. Which wasn’t our choice, his country didn’t allow me to go in and didn’t allow him to leave. So we were stuck in different countries, even though we lived together in the first year of our relationship, distance and time kill everything. But my love to him survived and I expected the same from him.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@lafemmefatale_1 Well that definitely sucks ass, sorry to say though but if he truly loved you he wouldn’t loose feelings over a “forced long distance” that easily he might’ve felt things for you, but something spiritually deep i don’t believe so. Especially if he’s already together with someone for 6 - 7 months and moved in together aswell, some men really have no shame and seem to avoid building things up softly as they should. I’ve taken extra time and effort before to not hurt my exes too hard, and yes you should care for them even if they’re your ex as long as you truly felt something for each other and ended it mutually for respectful reasons and stayed respectful. Really hate dudes like this, it’s good to move on but jumping ship like this is disrespectful and a dick-ish move really

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer Well, yes. Even though he treated me like an angel when we were together, the way he left me showed me his real face.

I was his first love, if he could hurt me like this and keep going like nothing happened, I don’t think he’ll be any nicer to that new girl in the end. Unless she’s a good manipulator, which I wasn’t. Because I am a very honest person. In the end he said he felt guilty but didn’t regret, he messed up but he said he knows it’s all his fault and I was a great girlfriend but he said he doesn’t regret. I don’t think I was great, but most of our frustration was caused by long distance and when I went back he could at least meet me and give a relationship one more try, as I was his fiance before. Instead though, he broke up with me shortly before I went to his country and never met me again.

His parents were very disappointed in him and they refuse to meet that new girl, saying that they believe all of this started on a very unfair ground and they don’t support that relationship of theirs.

But it’s not parents who I dated. It was the betrayal from him that broke me and hurt me the most, because I really trusted him so deeply and he knew how much I loved him.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@lafemmefatale_1 Well that sucks girl, if he’s really like that you’re better off without him. You’ll find someone who’ll genuinely care if you put yourself out there and try, it can take a while and you’ll still go through heart-break but you only need to strike right one time to have it all. Just don’t get a bitter-heart because of it, just heal and move on. Shouldn’t let anyone keep you down, especially not a ex

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer Thank you so much. You’re so sweet.

I do have some days when I feel bad, but these days are getting less and less and I think mostly I feel happy with my life these days, I am still not fully over the heartbreak but I think I am on my way to be healed pretty soon.

I am usually having hard days when his mom contacts me and opens my wounds again. That’s when I ask these questions.

Then I fall back into my life again and feel less hurt and more happy with everything I’ve got now.

[stoicity]

Can't agree more with @DamianTheSmikkelbeer.
Vulnerability is your biggest strength, it attracts the right people in our lives. Don't let it slip away, we only realise how strong we are when being strong is the only option. Most of all, don't associate yourself with the situation and conclude your life no justification is gonna serve justice to you. You need to close the door and move on.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@lafemmefatale_1 Good to hear Dear, and just trying to be as helpful and sweet as i can. 🙃
And it’s good that you’re feeling less and less about it, need to accept that you need to love yourself 100% before you give yourself to someone 100% it’s crucial. And getting over a heart-break takes time and effort, sometimes it feels forever and makes you think as if it never stops but it will and can get better. Just take your time and heal, it’s the best thing to do. And i don’t know about your relationship with his mother obviously, but if it opens up those deep wounds and it’s stopping you from fully healing it’s best to cut back the contact a little or to perhaps stop it as a whole. Up to you though, it’s your life and what do i know right haha. Just focus on your own happiness and get what you deserve, everyone deserves that satisfaction. Your happiness is the most important, it’s not selfish but a simple requirement for any human. 😃👍

[Effably]

Average? 3-4 months.

I think that's the honeymoon phase over. Or the first bout of love. After which you need to figure out what to do next. Change the nature of the relationship? Fall in love the same way again? Part ways? So on.

We're only dumbed down to each other for so long. Of course you can also have the sudden spark of clearly seeing your partner reignite things again.

[Danny_dan92]

It depends on the dynamic and chemistry.




The honeymoon phase is fueled by lust.




When that ends the only way the relationship will continue is if the two people are actually compatible. This is where lust changes to unconditional love

[smilelots]

Its up to the two of you to not be boring and make the time you have together as much fun and adventure as possible.. so just step out of your box and enjoy each other and the things around you. Thats why I think its important to ask the hard questions when you are thinking of getting involved with someone long term.. dont be shy just do it and things will never be boring in my opinion.

[Sour-rose]

"Hi, I'm john. Nice t-"

"Faaaaack you, i'm going home. Borin' ass mother fff-"

Aaah... i'm so tired. But give me two weeks and unless my heart is beating, i'm gonna get bored. Quick.

[berisky23]

100% depends on the people, relationship, and how spontaneous and compatible you are right?
You gotta keep up the date nights, mess around and have banter, experiment in the bedroom...
But you both gotta be all in

[Gent207-2]

The honeymoon phase lasts anywhere depending on the age from 1 to 6 months on average according to various studies.
But the real question is how do they move past that and keep the love alive?

[melanieeeB]

Depends on how you both get along and what who brings to the table and puts in effort. I believe a relationship becomes boring, if one or both stop putting in effort and take the other for granted

[NathanDavis]

mine lasted for years... although we moved on different ways (mostly because of the age and plans) I never found myself bored at all... I had few of them though

[itsaboutthyme]

Just a matter of how long you continue to put effort into the relationship. Obviously if you put no effort into anything, it will get boring. Nothing upkeeps itself magically.

[FreyaRed]

Depends on relationship. Most people are expecting to be entertained by others and this is the point where it starts to be demotivating.

[strateguy632]

i never got bored the she+s got bored first usualy 5 weeks each. i broke up for different issues than bored.

[Nikki1989]

If you have chosen your partner wisely and invest time and effort into your relationship, it should never get boring.

[Jazzy54]

If you *allow* it to get boring. Get creative. Come up with new things to do so that it *won’t* get boring. 😊

[SeriouslyFunny00]

All relationships gets boring at some time, it's normal.

[Anemone978]

6 years.. it starts to go downhill from there.

[bedroomeyes]

It depends on how long the "honeymoon phase" lasts.

[CrypticMoon]

I'm going on 7 years with my husband and I adore him. The right people never get boring.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

In my experience 2 - 4 months, if not that it’s either bad sex or a lack of.

[SirJohn42]

Quickly if you dont communicate.
If you dont have interests together. If you dont even try anymore its a sign.
That one or both of you are bored.

[Jltakk]

If you've been friends, and there's actual substance there, it shouldn't really be boring, per se. If you just met, know next to nothing about each other and its superficial, it won't take long unless you both are creative and 110% committed.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Depends on you two. If you two are made for eachother, I don't think boredom is a thing.

[smilelots]

I agree with what your saying ,,

[boggboss]

Depends on the people and relationship lol I'm 6 years in and still not bored lol

[CuriousMufuxka]

About 5 months for me. Not that I just wanted to shop around again but more as the girlies I dated stopped doing all the awesome girlfriend stuff around that time.

[itsalyssaagain]

I just can't imagine a relationship being boring if you’re genuinely with someone who gets you.

[exitseven]

I am in year 29. I will have to get back to you on this

[belle_kai]

It doesn't if you both want it, put the effort in amd try

[FilmGuy93]

Depends entirely on what you are willing to put into the relationship/

[Andres77]

as soon as one starts to turn the other one down for sex.

[Sparkie460]

It depends on the couple. Our relationship didn't start to get boring yet. Some couples only last a couple months

[AdithyaR]

Only becomes boring if you let it by not putting effort

[shades777]

Boredom is a lack of creativity, so I say if either party is not beings creative. A timeline is not a factor in that.

[OddBeMe]

What’s wrong with boring? You want to live in a romance movie everyday? That’s exhausting.

[Noah2023]

2 months.

The rest is how you handle the after shock..

[vj0090]

When sex becomes a responsibility rather then moment of love

[Greenbins]

Depends on the relationship and who I'm with

[EaterPeter]

Not too long. Sooner you give sex sooner it gets boring

[__JustJacky__]

Mine Was On & Off...
S*x Was Good
But Everything Else Was Toxic Shit

[horndog112]

As long as your partner never says no, it will stay fun

[lightbulb27]

no time, just put in no effort.

[LazerBean]

If you're doing it right, never

[RavVid]

Seems to be about 7 years.

[Molly1997]

I don't know but 8 years in still not boring 😝

[Anonymous]

I often get comfortable, not bored

[Pete671]

3 minutes after I cum,,,

[Twalli]

Depends on the relationship

[Luckycharms12]

Depends on the people

[Anonymous]

Never had that.

[bobbyjohnson]

about a month or so

[Anonymous]

Usually whenever the money runs out.

[slatyb]

Some do, some don't

[eagle1951]

couple months