Why do relationships become boring after a while?

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How do you revive your relationship when it becomes boring after a while?

musclesimp · Accepted Answer

Heck... I wrote enough paragraphs to get this comment pinned at the top for guests to see. I might as well copy my comments and post here.  Hello chatgpt users! It's ok that low quality AI posts are neither funny nor informative. Here is my opinion that I'm shoving up everyone's noses by replying to the superb AI opinion pinned at the top of the page. ﾠ Boredom is a lack of sensation. Not a lack of love. And too much love kills sensation. You can think of it in neurotransmitters and peptides and hormones shit. Love being opioids and sensation being dopamine. Too much opioids is toileting dopamine levels. Opioids slow down the time it takes to ejaculate and dopamine speeds it up. Take another look, if your relationship is filled with cringe fluff. I believe drama movies and glamour entertainment is an emotional castration machine. Besides simply dumbing you down. Most of us know that, confessing love on your knee like a simp is a boner-killer for both genders. There is a reason that the first time I came across "rick roll" it was labeled "the blue ball machine". Nobody else in the comments is going to put it this way, although it's not a mystery. Except maybe for @D_Bone_Steak now that the reporting dykes are blocked. Not saying we should treat everyone like a coom jar, just a balance to avoid losing and vibing as "simp" to your chick. Imagine a simp husband that got boring... thinks buying flowers is creative and will "revive the spark." Even creativity, he can cover the whole house in graffiti but unless it's tentacle porn type of paintings, there's still too much cheese in the relationship. They got to wash off the dick cheese. ﾠ  Speaking of dick cheese ideas, what makes sense to me with the post-cooming softness, is... I don't know this is purely theoretical. I don't exactly subscribe to this direct drop of dopamine following a surge, hence I stressed "as they say..." assuming it is as infallible as the bible... I'm skeptical... could it be that dopamine agonism as is proven to cause endorphin release (endogenous+morphine) via opioids causes the softness? Makes sense why prolactin inhibition doesn't always rid of the refractory period, as you still get the softening effect of opioids. Then I guess opioid antagonists must be underrated sex aids... Reply Show Less ﾠ  Totally. Just got a few conclusive studies. One, showed that beginning of male arousal (and they stuck pins into men's dicks while showing them porn) endogenous opioids decreased upon arousal! But we know it increases as you pound away. Another study showed opioid blockade stimulating erections in impotent men.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

I’ve had relationships that got boring in a matter of months.

I’ve also had relationships that stayed interesting and passionate for years.

The key?

1. Find someone who isn’t boring to begin with.

2. Treat your relationship like a bonfire that you are both building. Keep an eye on it. BOTH of you. Make the commitment to keep that fire burning bright. And if you ever notice the fire weakening, you address it quickly, resolve what you need to resolve, and your bonfire will burn bright again.

Intention is very important.

Don’t just leave the fate of your relationship to chance.

Take care of it, nurture it, and strengthen it.

spice · Accepted Answer

You know when you first start dating someone, everything feels super exciting, right? Like, every text sends your heart racing, and every date feels like an adventure. But after a while, that "new car smell" of the relationship starts to fade. It's kinda like binge-watching a great show - at first, you can't get enough, but eventually, you get used to the excitement.

And hey, remember how in those early days, we'd go out of our way to impress our significant other? Maybe dressing up for dates or planning cool surprises. But as time goes on, we tend to get comfy – sometimes a little too comfy. Suddenly, it's less about romantic dinners and more about who's turn it is to do the dishes. The effort level can take a nosedive.

Also, real talk: life gets busy! Work, family, all the daily grind stuff – it can suck up the energy we used to pour into our relationships. We don't mean to let it happen, but sometimes, the relationship gets put on the back burner.

The trick, I think, is to keep growing – both on your own and together. It's kinda like keeping a plant alive – you've gotta keep watering it, giving it some sun, and not just let it sit there. So, yeah, relationships can get a bit boring sometimes, but with a little effort and creativity, they don't have to stay that way!

lemonette · Accepted Answer

Relationships can feel boring when the initial excitement fades, and routine sets in. It's like the novelty wears off, and we start taking things for granted. Keeping things fresh and communicating well can really help!

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Courtship should never end. After that “Honeymoon Phase” wears off; this is when the shit start’s hitting the fan. You must continue to date each other. Especially after marriage and kids. Both spouses need to put each other first for the sake of keeping the family together. If one spouse or the other neglects the other or the children; it is time to find a new spouse. For the sake of the children; spouses must make time for the other. Don’t just put all your time and energy into the kids, career or social lives.

magiusX26 · Answer

partly it is a mindset issue. these days, too many people have the misconception that the spark will alwats be there and shining brightly. when in fact there will be times that the spark is not shining or even not there. you must work at both keeping that spark alive and finding a new one with that person if issues arise with the previous one. there is also the component of people bieving emotion alone will hold you together. emotions ebb and flow though so you must dig deeper and work to maintain the relationship there too. roughly, too often, people think of a relationship like they do something they buy, in that the mentality of "i have it so its mine forever" without thinking about the fact that this "object" is another person too.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I never get bored of people I really like, but they all seem to get bored of me. I notice they don't seem interested in talking to me as much but when they talk to others they seem excited and having fun. When it gets to that point I usually leave, no point staying with someone who doesn't feel the same way. I wasted years with a guy like that and I won't do it again.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It only becomes boring if you let it.. Routine starts to set in, the initial passion and infatuation wears off, and you guys let it fester on like that eventually you'll find the relationship to get boring.. Nothing wrong with a little boredom, but it's up to you guys to keep the spark going.. But also relationships are not all about excitement and what you can hit out of it.. But a shared agreement on partnership.. Somebody you ultimately wanna build a life with..

hahahmm · Answer

The less of a life you have within yourself, the more problems you will find with others/relationships. But it's also not a given that you're in the right relationship. Many people make the mistake of having low standards for who they get with on day 1.. and then on day 1,000 they behave as if they made the right choice on day 1 just because it's easier than admitting you made stupid choices. I'm not saying which situation you're in. This is a general comment.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Only if partners don't care about the relationship. Both partners

there are standard "times" when crises come to every relationship. That's why commitment and paying attention to how our partner feels in the relationship play crucial roles...

There are countless possibilities for how to make the relationship more interesting, unique, non-standard...

sawno · Answer

Mine never got boring, it was true mutual love so every day with her was a joy the two years we were together.

If yours does get boring perhaps your chasing the wrong thing and you get bored when the infatuation period ends. Try basing it on what you value about the other person rather than the pleasurable rush early on.

smne35 · Answer

Spend too much time together, once the honeymoon wears off you settle into a routine of just chilling, just become so used to reach other, and doing everything early in the relationship, pace yourself have activities, hobbies, goals separate from each other, or the reality is you just not that into each other as you thought you were other wise would never be bored

love_conquers_lust · Answer

That's why you need a life outside of the relationship. Overexposure. Boredom is meant to keep you alive. We didn't evolve to spend every waking moment with one another, that's suffocating.

You can do what my uncle did and visit over 50 countries in the world with my late aunt. I can assure you their adventure never ended.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

If the person is actually a match, they never become boring. Boring people are people who think differently.

This does not mean you will never be bored. That is inescapable.

If you are talking about the initial excitement dying down, then I have no idea. I actually hate that stage, I'm glad when its over and turns into something less tense and nervous, and becomes more calm and comforting.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

The good ones don't. And they never get to the point where they need to be revived because both parties are always striving to make them fun.

SunnyRS · Answer

Because of monotony, when you stay with each other you get comfortable with them, then your daily life comes into play and you fall in a pattern, which could become boring as you feel you have lost the spark, which is not the case it is just that you are more relaxed and comfortable.
But for a healthy relationship couples should try different things to keep that spark alive.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

I'd bet for the reason to be the lack of oxitocin, and that would leave You with no reliable solution. I guess getting involved in common interests together coule help, though.

jarkitor20 · Answer

Keep doing new things and explore together. If it gets boring try to come up with things you both want to do. If it costs money try and save up for it.

sheikalana · Answer

Because people get too comfortable and take each other for granted.

Booklover_90 · Answer

The couple  allowed  the relationship to become boring.

SotiCoto · Answer

Don't get into relationships on purely shallow grounds in the first place.

Rahul8124 · Answer

Spend time together like by going to dinner , movie etc

WhitneySnow · Answer

People get complacent

Anonymous · Answer

Boring people make boring relationships.

Crankor · Answer

Difference in expectations and lifestyle.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Bc one of them doesn't have a life of their own

In_Trance · Answer

What are you doing to keep it interesting?

Anonymous · Answer

Because couples become complacent.

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