How do you make your boyfriend miss you when living together?

[Anonymous]

[TomJewel]

This sounds really controlling like "I own him, how do I let him know I own him."

But I understand where your question is rooted. You feel like your relationship has gone stale. Too routine I asume?
What you don't want is him to miss you. That means you've been absent in some way. Like you're trying to make him jealous. I think what you mean is how can we show each other that we still have an active relationship?

Think about when you first started dating. Everything was new, everything was exciting. Try to get back to that state.
Some ideas include:
Taking a dance class
Doing yoga together
Building modles cars or airplanes
Completing puzzles
Nature walks
Exercising
Learning a new language (like ASL)
taking an adult community class

Find some hobby you can do together! You will grow together and find new and facinating things while acquiring a new skill/hobby. Hope this helps. And good luck

[Asker]

I don’t control him or his life and I don’t even want to be controlling. It’s just wrong. I just want to make our relationship grow stronger and more excited, yes it has been more like a routine. I’d like to make it off and on routine

I don’t think making him jealous is a good way and I don’t even want to do wrong ways to make him miss me. I want it to be natural and because sometimes I realize we live together and we forgot how it feels to be excited for each other to be together as if we were not living together.

[Dean7]

Go out often, keep busy and don't give him any sex that will kill him.. why would you want him to miss you though? Have you missed the feeling of being missed?

[Asker]

Yes I miss feeling of being missed and I want to make things excited in our relationship.

[MissCastle]

Do separate activities. Mine plays on his ps4 whilst I read upstairs then he comes running up and dives on me after a while. You don't always have to be with each other. 😘

[siempreparaiso]

In my experience of exs, I would always write a little message and putting it in his lunch cooler or in his jacket pocket.

[Kitten967]

Go out for the day, or spend the night away from him.

[scooogy]

Does that mean you do that on purpose? :o

[Kitten967]

I don't. I never spend the night away from him and the only time I go out without him is when I go to university or out with friends

[freerman]

Again I'm not smart I just been around awhile and I know that if you make someone miss you it means you have problems of insecurity I mean there's no such thing as two people completing each other it has to be both of you are complete when you come into the relationship I've been through this y'all

[steveguitar]

Guys don't feel that way, they only do when they feel an actual separation. If you live in the same place, he might want you gone so he can have personal time

[MajorEasy]

Have personal space and me time...

You want him to miss you... You need to be away from him long enough for him to miss you...

[drewplusyou]

Go on vacation, stay the night at a friend's. Why do you want him to miss you?

[Asker]

I want to make our love grow stronger. Since we live together, things seem bored for him at home and he would do his things more than spending time with me. I want to enlighten up our relationship.

[drewplusyou]

Relationships going stale is a very common occurrence there's quite a bit of articles you can read online to give you ideas of what you can do. Personally I think you being more assertive/aggressive/kinky/surprising are all good things whereas doing something emotionally abusive like making him miss you isn't so good and can backfire.

[Asker]

Yeah I couldn’t agree more. Thanks (:

[drewplusyou]

You're very welcome :)

[Bear41]

I think spending a day or two apart from time to time is a good thing. Wish a few of my ex's would have done it. Or even suggest that he goes on a weekend with the boys hunting, fishing, hiking, or camping.

[BigBadBear]

You can't. Any attempt to manipulate his feelings comes from a place of selfishness. Simply talk to him about it and tell him that you feel the way you do, if he's worth a damn he will understand.

[Azirish1]

Make him know you ared thinking about him when he's at work, like simple text/ pic, pick him up small things like favorite treat/drink. Touch him/ rub his back etc for no reason

[Kempstar14]

Be his best friend!!! Make him love spending time with you!!! Go out with him and be one of the guys but he knows he can trust you. Let him do things like go out with mates and he won’t cheat because you’re the thing he needs inhis life

[gclark2708]

Be spontaneous and exciting. Not easy but it's a great way to spice it up and he'll miss you more because of it

[Mimakos92]

Make him a little jealous, go out with your friends looking glam, I get crazy and always try to make her stay with me... Also, you can ignore him at some times during the day, but not too much...

[errez]

Make him dependable. on you.
(Are you sure that you what that?)

[Anon-ymous1]

"Make?" You can't make him. Either he will or he won't. Make him how? Like sexually?

[johnkarl]

Have online fun with me it will help him feel jealous

[Red_Arrow]

Leave for days at a time.

[forbiddenphantom]

Go out of town to visit friends or family.

[genericname85]

why do you need to make him miss you?

[dragon9669]

Don't give him any. He'll miss you very quickly

[md123]

Make him tasty food

[AlphaStyles]

Go out more often