It is simple as that. Imagine you go in an exam without learning or studying, you are bound to fail it. That what happening nowin. Today generation do not know what is meant to be in relationship, how to handle them , what are the rules and basic. Just jump straight without learning or preparing for it, so of course you are bound to fail.
Today generation thinks they know everything and can figure out everything by themselves and the best part of it, they want everything right now. Like someone said " it is easy to fall be in love, but it is difficult to remain in love as it requires sacrifices, understanding and maturity."
A relationship has never meant to be easy, it was meant to difficult a test a trial , nerve cracking, push you to ur limit because it will never agree 100% to someone. Even ur mother, the person you came from , sometime you do not agree and you really think you will be able to click like magic with someone. Nope and never.
That is the hard truth about it. You want love, successful marriage or relationship, you have to give 200% of urself and think collectively.
It is like a team. If the whole team win a match only if the whole team plays together to win.
Today era, each gender thinks they think it is right and things should go always their way that made easier for them only. I feel strongly that we should sometime take the blame and see if we are wrong first because accusing others.
Humans generally desire change after being in the same routine or performing the same task (s) over and over for various amounts of time.
In relation to your question, I believe that the desire to go from being single to being in a relationship, or vice versa, is just the innate human nature to break from routine and experience new situations which grows one's brain, whether it is physically, emotionally, consciously, socially, or unconsciously.
I know when I was younger and had my high school boyfriend I thought he was the love of my life and I couldn't live without him then two years later we break up and I'm heart broken crying over someone who didn't love me and after a week I got over it and I realized I was happier being single cause I could have fun go out and not have someone constantly breathing down my neck. It's nice to be in love with someone or even the idea of love but it's also really nice to treat yourself and handle your own shit before you go and handle someone else's shit be single and have fun before you get with someone cause if not you'll always wonder what if.
Because the grass is always greener on the other side. When you are in a relationship, you envy the freedom, the spontaneity, the infinite breathing space to do whatever one pleases, that single people enjoy. When you are single, you envy the love, the attention, the intimacy that couples have. We are never satisfied
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A little happier, but in little ways. I was happy enough single, and getting together was not planned. And he gives me a lot of happiness, but problems even it out a lot so it's slightly better committed. But single wasn't bad to me. I could do what I wanted with others.
It all depends. If youâre in a great, healthy relationship, then youâll be happier in a relationship rather than single. If youâre in an awful relationship then youâll be happier single. It all depends on the person and where they are at in life.
Because too often we want what we don't have its a supply and demand social hierarchy. Too often we treat others like a present unwrap it in its splendor and nurture it for a bit then let it slide to the back burner before we completely forget about it.
I am in a relationship and I don't wish I was single. I also have a lot of single friends that truly enjoy being single, just as I have a lot of friends in a relationship that are on cloud 9 in their relationship. Each have their pros and cons, its all a matter what a person wants and what they are willing to deal with and not deal with.
I'm one of the single people who'd rather be in a relationship :D I guess it's because you look at the setbacks of your present situation and think you'd be better off with the other option... I miss having someone to give love to, a hug, a kiss, being there for her when she needs it :D
I have been in a relationship for the last 9 years and i never had a thought of being single, i do have time for my friends, i do my own things, play video games, workout and so on... I can survive and do well if i was single but if i had to choose ! i choose to be in a relationship.
Not necessarily. Being single isnât all that bad but it does suck at times... very much so. Being in a relationship is for the most part great if thereâs mutual respect. With a commitment, you do compromise and put up with things that singles donât have to obviously.
I disagree with your statement because it leaves out alternatives - life isn't always either "in a committed exclusive relationship" or "not involved with anyone". I'm seeing three women at the moment - I don't want to be in an exclusive relationship with any of them, at least not right now, and they all know this and they all know about each other. And we're all fine with it. And I'm pretty happy.
Having said all that the answer to your question is if you look at the statistical data and compare all single people and all people in an exclusive relationship I'm not sure what the result is.
However the data shows that married people are, on the whole, happier than non-married people.
Singles want to be in a relationship and people in a relationship want to be single.
I'm single and I desire to be in a relationship with a lovely and wonderful girl I can love forever. But I don't know if I'll ever find that special someone.
I think people get in relationships with expectations of how it will be, that they will get things out of it. Instead of having the mindset of what they can put in. But single people don, t have the disappointment or trapped feeling that comes with those expectations , of thought would I be happier not really, it would ease a little loneliness from time to time But it, s not worth all the stuff I'd go through.
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Being single by choice and hook up with strangers at will is the best. A relationshio can be very exhausting for some people, and being single (not by choice) is hell. I have been single my whole life, never even had a kiss and I would do ANYTHING to be able to change that
I think what makes things better is the quality of your friendships vs relationship. If you have the camaraderie of friends around you regularly you may feel happy being single unless you place high value on intimacy. However, missing that, you would find fulfillment in having an intimate relationship. If you spend all your time together then there will be codependency which is also unhealthy. In my opinion, being in a relationship provides the optimal happiness life has to offer.
It will depend on the person. Personally, I couldn't be single al my life. A committed relationship is not always easy, but in the end its absolutely worth it.
studies show that people in relationships tend to live longer and go through less depressive episodes.
i think this suggests that relationship leads to a greater happiness. the reality is, and it's evidenced all around us, humans are more often than not social beings who thrive on social interaction and the more intimate it is the happier we tend to be
I was happy when I was in a happy relationship but once it wasnât so good anymore I wanted to be single again. So now Iâm single and not happy that I am, go figure 😕
I'm happier single and it bothers me so I become unhappy when I think of it. It clashes with the picture in my head from before I realized this was my destiny.
It depends , some people see they aren't in need to get in a relationship to be happy , they saw their friend are the most priceless people in his life , and others see that being in a relationship with someone who understands you and share your every life details with you and cares about you is important and better.
I do agree with your grass in greener--human nature, don't know what you have until it is gone and all that. But no I like being single and having short terms-some are repeats but they are not moving in. It keeps life exciting in my ooooopinion.
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