Is the gender attraction differential real?

[surferfelix]

I'm referring to this video. The video takes statistics from OkCupid and Tinder, claiming that 20% of men are deemed attractive for women, whereas 50% are deemed attractive to men.
This creates two attraction thresholds with the threshold for women being much more reasonable.

Despite 20% of men being adequate enough for women, people tend to settle down eventually. This means that eventually women settle with someone who they find less attractive. Colttaine (the user who created this video) claims that this causes a grey area which is comparable to the divorce rate.

Personally I agree with quite a few things in this video, but there are some things that come forth for debate.

-Colttaine doesn't consider relationships between men and men/women and women (To be fair this is still being studied and there aren't a lot of resources to make claims here)

-This video doesn't make a differentiation between perceived attractiveness and attractiveness.

What do you think?

[Chiral]

I don't think those two graphs are necessarily comparable. The assumption that's being made is that men and women are making the same calculation when they rate each other but I don't think that's necessarily true. How do we know that an equivalent thought process is taking place when women swipe right as for when men swipe right. It's plausible that when a man swipes right he's thinking something like "she'll do, we might have a bit of fun, I can imagine fucking her and probably be able to sustain an erection for the duration and you never know, maybe I'll fall in love then she'll be special whatever she looks like". Women on the other hand are probably thinking something like "is this someone who I'm going to be happy waking up next to in 10 years time?".

[Synttacks]

I do see a point as their self percived attractiveness may vary from their publicly percived attractiveness. I would also like to point out that most women that are considered moderately attractive would be considered as such by most men where if it were a man there isn't a one size fits all man for average looks as females are generally much pickier about drastically different things so one woman's 8 might be a 2 for a different woman with different (not necessarily higher) standards. It would be interesting to see the standard deviation per average at each level. (What did all the women vote for this guy who averaged a 5 or whatever)

[lilaqua]

Female attraction is very weird though. You have to include a greater amount of personality traits to actually come to a conclusion. And by personality I mean, a mixture of demeanour, interests, vibe and speech style. I'm not saying women are only attracted to personality but it plays a much larger role in women's selection. I'd say I find about 60-50% of men in my age group attractive, but that's only if I see their behaviour within a social environment. Online it dips significantly, because it's like trying to find a partner half blind, I can't actually evaluate them correctly. I'd say on tinder i'd miss out on a massive chunk of men that I would normally find attractive and swipe left on many men who I wouldn't be attracted to normally.

[JustWorthlessMe]

LMAO... that's so fucking funny... nice lie

[Logorithim]

Women become less likely to select a guy for his looks as he gets older.

[Dreamweaver671]

I learned in Post Graduate school that research is often slanted to the view of the research agent. Variables are omitted and test results question. Bias is a real disease in science today and the truth gets slaughtered. That said. Only you can apply the information give and deterime if you are satisfied with the results. Remember 500 years ago the Sun and everything rotated around the Earth was scientific Law.

I find more truth to the results than fantasy. But any attempt to predict human interaction and behavior is neither science nor successful.

[cavmanier]

Perceived attractiveness is attractiveness. Attractiveness isn't objective is it? I'm not sure anyone knows if this survey is true. It might be. One issue this survey may not have adjusted for is that since women are the ones that get initially contacted by guys (especially online), they may have elevated expectations from their high demand which could lead to lower scores for guys.

[cavmanier]

Oh also factor in women tend to put much more effort into their overall appearance, often improve their face with make up and tend to spend more effort on pics I'd wager. That could easily inflate their scores.

[ZanyInternetName]

Well, homosexual relationships make up such a small fraction that they actually are negligible for a quick study. Of course a very rigid one must look at it too, but for what the user was doing it'd be a waste of time.

[phonetic_au]

80/20 rule states 80% of women only rate 20% of men average or better looking, that rule been proved time & time again

[WalterRadio]

If only 20% of men are average or better looking, then what that rule proves is that women are very bad at math.

[genericname85]

i think lots of men just swype right all day out of boredom, while women don't do that xD

[JustWorthlessMe]

I love how women keep trying to say they aren't shallow but prove otherwise all of the time. They want those top 20% appearance-wise, personality be damned, bitching about being alone after rejecting 10 guys a week.

[Anonymous]

I know that women think the "ideal size" for men down there is 7"-9", which would be around 5% of the male population.

So maybe they use those high standards with other aspects of the body too.

[FortKnight]

Wouldn't surprise me. Women having high standards, eh? Who woulda thunk it?

[gvang]

Its depends on person to person, am not agree with statics because test was done on specific people.

[Presidentt]

It's very real actually...