Should I tell my boyfriend what I ran into my ex today?

[Anonymous]

It was just a quick casual talk, we used to go to high school together and I saw him at my college. I dated him about 2 years ago exactly and we ended things because it got too crazy with his anger issues and we were both going through things. Anyways he just told me that he was very sorry about how uncomfortable he made me feel and how he didn't mean to completely demolish our friendship too. I guess he really got some help, he used to stalk and harass me verbally before. But as of now I'm not sure if he could flip a switch again since I still live in the same place since the summer of 2016 when we were together so I have no idea if he could still have strong feelings or not, so I will for sure keep away from him and change my route I take to go to my next class.

So should I tell my boyfriend about this over text? I can see him tonight but I can tomorrow night. We've been official since early February and I'm not sure if he'll get weird about this or not. I definitely don't keep secrets but I'm wondering how exactly will this make someone feel if I texted him something like this, and if it's ok to do or with it make things worse or complicated?

Updates

+1 y

Well I told him over text and he took it pretty well. He was glad that nothing happened kind of joked and asked if I told my ex that I had a "hot, buff, and tan boyfriend now and to keep his distance" lol but he felt sorry about how I was scared in the first place and is happy there was no conflict. He just said it is probably best to no take the same route I took today to avoid him and to call the police if he follows me around again

Updates

+1 y

I guess people don't read the description or the updates lol I obviously told my boyfriend already, and I would have no intention on getting with my ex again, he was so crazy. If anything I'm scared he's going to stalk me again. And I did see him on a street going to my next class so it wasn't like I was wanting to see him. But all is well now, boyfriend took everything well and didn't freak out or anything when I called later and told him the details

[Kyren]

You're right that secrets shouldn't be hidden from your boyfriend whenever possible. I would tell him that you accidentally ran into your ex-boyfriend and that you two had a simple conversation together. You have no intention of being with him again so at least telling your boyfriend this would put his mind at ease knowing that if anything came up between you and your ex-boyfriend, that he'll be fully aware of what to expect and do. This also builds up trust as well because you weren't afraid of hiding information about your ex-boyfriend either.

[Asker]

So should I wait to tell him tomorrow in person or tell him through text what happened today? Would he wonder why I didn't tell him the day it happened and chose to tell him a day later (tomorrow) ?

[Kyren]

I would recommend waiting till you meet with him in person to tell him about this so you two can have a personal conversation if its needed. This isn't anything urgent that he needs to know right away but you're right that you don't want to prolong in holding that kind of information from him. I'm sure he'll understand and appreciate your honesty here!

[Asker]

Oh ok, yeah think it'll be kind of awkward bringing it up in a text but then again I don't want him wonder why I told him a day later that it happened. And then bringing it up tomorrow night would be too random and I hate to talk about ex's out of nowhere, I guess over text seems nice to just get it over with and then tell him details about it tomorrow night about how I'm kind of scared about being stalked or harassed by my ex again

[Kyren]

If you feel concerned about being stalked by your ex-boyfriend, then you should text him about it if it puts your mind to ease then talk more about it over the phone or in person depending on what you both want. If anything makes you feel uncomfortable, address it to your boyfriend as soon as possible. Otherwise, it'd be ok to wait till later to ask.

[Asker]

Alright, and yeah I feel better about venting to him because I kind of feel weird how I could see my ex again when going to my classes. It kind of set me off and I don't like the idea of my ex seeing me or knowing where I am or even looking or following me, I'm scared it could happen again

[Kyren]

Update:
I'm glad everything turned out well in the conversation! You're very lucky to have a boyfriend who is so understanding and caring :)

[Asker]

Thanks 😊 and indeed I am lol I shouldn't have been afraid of his reaction, he's not the over bearing or extremely jealous type. I'm glad I can confirm that he trusts me :)

[ScaryCool]

I'd suggest telling him in person. Saying it over text, well you can't express everything well enough and if he gets angry you won't know if he pretends to be whatever about it. I think you're doing the right thing being up front. Be sure to really explain why you're telling him because he may assume it's to make him jealous at the beginning.

[ScaryCool]

Hey glad it went super smoothly for ya!

[Anonymous]

No, he would get all worked up over nothing. You can casually mention it if you want, but you don’t have to talk about it.

[Opinion Owner]

And if you feel that your ex is stalking you, file a police report and document all encounters and write down what happened each time. It’s also possible these are just coincidences. Your boyfriend may get violent with the guy, and that won’t solve anything and will only escalate the issue.

[Yakasmashi]

Yes try to tell him..
It better to tell each other everything
Then not tell and ruined the relationship

[Soulimane]

If it was just a simple coincidence... As a normal guy in the street... I don't think that's important to tell him... But if it was kind of attempt from him to recover you... Hier you MUST tel him... Coz if he know after... Ur position will be really bad... HONESTY IS IMPORTANT IN RELATIONSHIPS... BUT STILL MORE IMPORTANT TO KNOW WHERE, WHEN AND HOW USE IT!

[Skullpool]

Of you tell him, there will be a trouble but I will also be if you hide it, so... Make sure you take the softest desition

[Asker]

Yeah he took it well, he wasn't upset since he was around during the time that guy was harassing me though text and calls. He used to call my phone on all sorts of numbers before I changed it so my boyfriend knows my ex was crazy. My boyfriend is more concerned about my safety again

[Skullpool]

Glad it results fine for you

[BigRob420]

Tell him in person your ex might be stalking you again. That way he can help if things start to escalate again.

[avs14u2desire]

Yes. You should. Would you want him to tell you even if it was insignificant? Its about open communication and honesty. Dont take away his right to feel how he will about it. Even if it causes a small fight it's better to know your "SO" will tell you everything.

[Jasper412]

If the ex doesn't mean anything then don't bring it up , if it ever ends up coming up by someone other than you just tell him it was too insignificant for you to mention because it means that little

[rahul_24]

That's upto you like. Best thing is keep everything transparent

[rahul_24]

That's good, don't care about your ex is he stalk you like. Focus on your life and yr boyfriend like, it's like water off time and energy thinking about your ex

[JTeddyBear]

Yeah you can tell him over the phone text not a good idea.

[BadAnswers]

is it important info? if not then why should you say it.

[male73336363637]

Dont tell him through text. Dont make it seem urgant either. Just at the best time possible say you ran into your ex and talked a little. Say that it wasent much.

[fucjyou]

You should come over here and let me take care of business like a real man both of those guys sound like pussies with little dicks

[Asker]

that sentence sounds so funny lol

[fucjyou]

You want my address I live alone in my own house that I own that nobody would ever come to and you could spend the night

[Asker]

no thanks lol

[fucjyou]

Go play with the little boys while the real man is asking you to come by

[fucjyou]

Your ex is fucking everything in sight you might as well do the same I know from experience

[fucjyou]

Have a nice night 716-603-4436

[Asker]

my ex isn't ruining my relationship lol possibly my safety but other than that I'm doing good. Also I don't ever consider being with anyone younger than me

[fucjyou]

I'm actually older than you I own two houses a Corvette and a Denali but whatever have fun with your broke ass little boy

[Fuentes]

Seems like your thinking of trying to get with him again

[Shivang21]

If you trust your present relationship then you must have to tell your boyfriend about your meeting with ypur ex

[varunailahs]

You should, maybe some known people would have seen and there can be rumors going on back

[HASSA]

No if u not gonna talk to him again u shoudnt tell him

[boooooo]

No if you don't have any feelings for him ! Why cause a problem when there is nothing to worry about

[stuntbrain]

Only if you ran into his penis

[sweetbuddy]

No if you fucked him and yes if you didn't

[CarlosF]

Yes.

[Polopo23]

No, just remain loyal to your current one.

[leledolan]

Yes ofc