Have you ever fallen for a friends with benefits?

Question

Did they fall for you too? Did you guys started a relationship? Did they reject you? Or what happened? Im in that situation and i need advice :/

WVCountry33 · Accepted Answer

Mine was a little different because we were best friends all through school. After i graduated she told me she had stronger feelings then just friends. So we started hooking up, it went from zero to buck fucking wild cause there was no awkwardness or feeling the other is out. This went on all summer until i left for college. We had i long talk about how we can't be together right now with her still in high school (junior) and me a freshman @ WVU i thought we were at a understanding but boy i was wrong she flipped out after that summer, would call 60times in a day, 200 text it was insane. Finally out took me telling my best friends for years that I hated her and that i couldn't stand to be around her. Which was a lie because I loved her more than my own life but by me saying those hurtful things to her it gave her some closure and that it wasn't her fault she went crazy but it was my fault. So still to this day we don't talk and I've tried over the years some small talk but a big part of me and her died inside is when those words were carelessly spoken

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

Never. The best criteria you can have for a friends-with-benefits is someone that you're sexually turned on by, but something in their character or about them is such a turn-off that you would never consider them in a relationship. Something that's a genuine deal-breaker for you. If it's some superficial thing that doesn't matter that much, then you're likely to eventually form feelings for them.

Like my very first friends-with-benefits I ever had was a girl who cheats on all of her boyfriends. Like legitimately her dating history was three guys before me and she cheated on all three of them. She also cheated on the third one with me, which I didn't find out till later. But yeah, that fat and a couple other things about her made her a perfect friends with benefits. Because I would never date her

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

No cause I don't do friends with benefits relationships. I'm sorry but i tend to see women end up falling for their friends with benefits more often than men do, women really do suck at the "just sex" type of relationships cause we're women and sex is important to us.

When we give our bodies to a man, emotions get involved and we start gaining a connection with him. It's much easier for a man to have sex and not even have feelings attached to it cause its just sex.

And when a man sees you as just someone to give them sex, most of the time you are just someone to give them sex not a potential wife/girlfriend. That's why i see questions on here all the time from women asking if their friends with benefits has feelings or fallen from them. Very few women can have sex and not have feelings after it. i really think some women think if i have sex with him and spend all this time with him, then eventually he will love.. NO. That's just wishful thinking.

My1stOfwb · Accepted Answer

I can smell he is falling for me, but I'm not catching it. It is too early to make assumptions. He does exhibit a behavior of a man who tries to court me. We click not just sexually, but also in other important and small things. He is already a successful man, and I'm advancing my degree. He loves this about me that I'm not asking him anything related to finances. He doesn't like a woman who marries him for his money. I also made it clear to him that I won't give up my career for a man even though I don't make as much as he does. However, I do like him being him; he is a gentleman, kind, sweet, and respectful. These attributes are important to me. I do the same thing for him, and I don't pretend. We're both honest to each other. For now, we aren't rushing for a serious relationship. We don't control each other. On the other hand, he seems get jealous which he tries to hide and curb, because he sees that any men who find me attractive would sleep with me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You need to have a good think about what it is you like about her and what makes you think you will be comparable for a relationship, sometimes having sex with the same person can confuse you and make you think you want more.

If you are 100% sure that you aren't confusing the sex with actual feelings then I think as hard as it is it would be best for you to tell her, chances are she will feel the same if not at least you know where you stand and can decide if you need to move on or if you can be happy in a relationship with her.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

I have had/still have 2 friends with benefits.

The 56yo guy fell for me and got me prego. After a couple of months being prego, i started falling for him. Then i lost the baby and he said until i lost weight back to my petite pre-prego figure, we were done having friends with benefits.

My 30 yo guy i like a lot, but he has a 47yo blonde rich cougar and he is not going to do anything to mess up his free ride on the money train and the fancy apt train. Plus she is a sex demon and keeps his man parts drained, several times a day and night.

Mac4kayla · Answer

Yes, my current boyfriend was my friends with benefits. We met last year over the summer and recently this February we made things official. I'm pretty lucky to have a match as incredible and random it was I'm glad we met. I feel like I can be myself around him and our personalities just go so well together. But like you, I was often afraid that he might not feel the same way, even though there was a lot of signs that he was into me I had doubts that he actually wanted to be with me seriously and not only for sex. But sooner or later feelings built up when I've been giving him sentiment and gifts for his birthday and an early Valentine's day gift he couldn't keep his feeling suppressed, he cared about me a lot and often said he liked me and called me pet names before he confessed that he loved me. But finally heading it from him relived me because I was just too scared of being shot down from him, and knowing he felt the same made me feel so incredibly happy

Emilily · Answer

Yes! I've absolutely been there. Unfortunately, he just didn't want to date me or take me seriously, he just wanted me to be there all the time to be his party buddy, while he was actually in love with someone else. It sucked.

Marinepilot · Answer

I did once very, very hard. We were together for three years and
it just fizzled out. We started off as sounding boards for her boyfriends and my girlfriends. One holiday weekend, we met up on a Friday night.
Started fooling around and you know the rest. She was a very beautiful
Cuban girl (I have a penchant for Latinas) and I was wither from Friday nigh until Tuesday morning. She was about 5'1", long black hair, big tits nice ass and a natural bush. She wasn't on the pill, but I didn't care. She miscarried and we were sad. However, she wouldn't leave Miami and her family and didn't want to stay down there. Perhaps I fucked up.

Anonymous · Answer

I was in this situation with a guy named Jake. I fell for him hard but he just wanted sex. In the end we decided it was best to cut things off. That was the best decision ever because a month later I met my current S. O of 3+ years and I couldn't be happier. My advice: cut it off when you arnt on the same page. You deserve someone who wants you for you

journeyman84 · Answer

It happened to me twice, once each way: once I fell for them but never said a word or pushed it, as we had an agreement. When it was the other way around, all hell broke loose! Funny thing was, she approached me. Thought we laid out some good terms. But it all went out the window and now even the lomg friendship is over. It can be done, just be as certain as you can. Ask yourself "do I rely believe my partner can stick to the plan? " if you're friends, look at their life. Is there a pattern of saying one thing and doing anothet?

Jooying · Answer

I did. Once there’s a guy asking that if we could start dating after we friends with benefits stuff for a week, but the point I rejected is that he’s one of my friend’s cousin.

I used to have bad experience that I broke up with my ex and suddenly our friends circle broke also.

Even though I did have feeling otherwise I wouldn’t sleep with him in the beginning, but we just ended there.

es20490446e · Answer

It's unlikely that in a friend with benefits relationship both people only want sex.

Most likely one person really likes the other. And the second one just enjoys the sex, till they find a better partner.

That's why I think that kind of relationship is commonly toxic.

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victor247 · Answer

Yes, but I didn't approach her for a relationship.
My advice is that your feelings for her should not be the feelings to date or have relationship with her. Because once you approach her, you may likely lost your respect for her.
The truth is that there are some people that they are just 100% fitted to be a friend, and not for dating or relationship

Amylia · Answer

Yes I did. But he ghosted me suddenly before I even told him... I would talk with her, the sooner the better

Anonymous · Answer

We were really cool in the beginning and had a lot of fun together. He caught feelings, well it was mutual. So we started a relationship. I was still hurt over my ex and confused if whether or not I wanted to be in that relationship, he was still legally married (I didn't know) Those 2 things ruined our relationship. We used to talk up until recently but it's over now.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I did but I knew after a while he didn't want commitment even though l hoped he would in time. And I respected that and like you ldidnt want to get hurt but l knew it was me hurting myself.
So I stoped seeing him before things got to painful. And now we're long distance friends and I'm happy with that.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no. Once we've established "officially" we are only friends with benefits, I do not change my mind.
However, I have fallen for people I first slept with casually. Usually, I was already slightly interested, but didn't know yet which way it would go.

CandacePerry · Answer

Nope but I was never like that any way. I was loyal and only wanted committed relations. didn't work out in college and then I stop dating In college. ask a friend for help and she did help me. I got a current boyfriend.

crazy_one01 · Answer

Yes.. and then I broke it off.. because of my feelings. We were getting to be good friends.. movies.. outings.. funny thing.. a year or two later he texts me telling me "I made a mistake.. we were good together" blah.. blah.. blah.

Tessi · Answer

Moving from sex to a relationship is perfectly normal, it's also like if you liked him without having sex with him, screen if it's mutual or not.
If you feel its not then decide if you want to continue your current arranjment or not

xButterflyKisses87x · Answer

Yes I did, I think everyone is different though... He just used my feelings to try and get more sex in my situation

StellaGreenEyes · Answer

I did fall for a friends with benefits. He didn’t. He started dating someone else.  Tell her how you feel. Sometimes it’s better to know then not.

datasheet · Answer

Basically it was my first "relationship" (we weren't really together because she had a boyfriend) the beginning was cool but kinda weird the middle part was absolutely awesome but the end was horrible

melissasnyder004 · Answer

Yes i have, i told them i loved them because they were also my best friend and how told me he dont know how he feels, then he started dating my friend, sooo

Minnie97 · Answer

Yes. My current boyfriend and I started as friends with benefits and as time went on we both caught feelings.

Oohlalala · Answer

No, we were always good friends before we bumped uglies but it didn't stop us having fun in bed though

TheShyPrep · Answer

Nothing more than a slight crush, you have to know going in that this isn't a relationship and if you don't think you'll be able to handle that, this isn't something you should put yourself through

mistress_zoe · Answer

Yes I have fallen fora friends with benefits and got hurt. That's why I don't do it anymore

gangsterlovin · Answer

Yes I've done same were all humane we let the line get blurred some times i have this freind who is tulsa number one hoe grimmy and i feel head over heals in love with her. so i took my self out equasion make it easyer on her now she hates me

Hajdi · Answer

Who wants to find a way, but who will not find the reason..

TinaSP · Answer

Nope. Thats against the rules and a dick move to spoil such a great partnership

neoagent1 · Answer

I've had a few. The answer is no. I knew there was no long term potential with them so falling for them wasn't in the cards.

ThePundertaker · Answer

You know now that I think about it I think “Friends with benefits “ would sort of describe our relationship before dating 🤔

adub22 · Answer

I did but he didn't want a relationship. We are still friends though. But if I were you just tell them its better to get it off your chest than to always wonder.

RedRain · Answer

I think it's time to have a talk with her...

rachelle_8384 · Answer

I did fall for him and we ended up dating and then having a baby who is 3 now

dolemite68 · Answer

I think the best fwb’s should turn into relationships eventually

Pauliho · Answer

Friends with benefits isn't for me in the first place

sp33d · Answer

No and never will. That' s just not going to happen on my watch.

Riyarobert · Answer

No I don't I fall in friends with lots of fun... wooow

Anonymous · Answer

Well once that dick gets in there all bets are off I guess right? All the anxiety, stress and drama disappears, now that you have a new man right ladies?

yp9209 · Answer

I don't want to go into friends with benefits situation. All I want is to find right woman for me

Anonymous · Answer

nope, my friends with benefits fell in love with me but i told her nope its not gonna happen.  were friends with benefits for a reason and thats how its gonna stay

MrBillH · Answer

No, but one fell for me. I had to tell her it's quits! I hate doing that, but it just ain't happening

Anonymous · Answer

I'll never have a friends with benefits That's just slutty

Anonymous · Answer

Nope but I think it could happen after we have sex for the first time and that has not happened yet.

Anonymous · Answer

Im looking for a best friend I can have sex with. Be completely honest about what each other wants. Help each other find someone we want.

sladestone · Answer

Yes a few times and all became the best relationships ever. That's how it should be done

Dan10628 · Answer

Never really had a friends with benefits so wouldn't have a clue.

lisa_184848 · Answer

Yes I have and we started dating and then ended up getting married before he recently passed

Phil_Swift · Answer

I've never fallen for one... but i did chop one up and bury them in a ditch with their family

Anonymous · Answer

Ya i ended up liking him. no he didn't. Nope. we just fuck less.

Anonymous · Answer

Never had a friend with benefits, probably never will and if I do, I will never fall in love with a thot

Anonymous · Answer

friends with benefits rarely work out long term, someone always falls for the other.

Anonymous · Answer

Is you guys on the photo, if so she might as well want a relation

datgirl · Answer

Nope, cause i don't engage in that kind of stuff

kaskas19 · Answer

I wouldn't say I was in love, but eh

mel1695 · Answer

Did it once... never again.

clampfan101 · Answer

One more reason I don’t want one.

Dr_Latex_McPeggin · Answer

I never did, but she did...

Anonymous · Answer

No l haven't. I don't fall in love.

Sebo6000 · Answer

Once when i was 20. Never happened again.

crazyandy · Answer

Never had a friend with benefits

Slim57 · Answer

No, I get attached so I can't do that

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