Is it normal that my LDR boyfriend takes hours (5-6 hours) to reply?

[Anonymous]

My LDR boyfriend tends to take a couple hours to reply to my messages. We tend to talk at night on the phone. Should I address this with him.

Yes

No

A total of 148 votes were cast: 81 girls and 67 guys. See detailed results

[Lissy6789]

My boyfriend isn't long distance BUT I never get mad if he doesn't respond right away. I understand that he gets busy and has a life apart from me so I understand. If he were to get busy for 5-6 hours then I would like a heads up ("hey I'm so busy today, I'll message you when I can" "I'm visiting family for the day so I'll get to you when I'm home") because I do get worried especially since he usually responds within 5 min to an hour. If he were to ignore me for days or a week, I would probably be upset because again, I like to have a heads up and I get worried. But I would definitely address this because since you're long distance and can't see each other in person, texting is a big component in your relationship and you need good communication to stay happy and healthy

[Ferruccio]

i support this. i'm going to vote yes anyway, because you need to talk things through, good communication is important, but you must also stress out that it is not a prerequisite to reply fast and asap to you unless an emergency, you might want to ask just cuz you're curious about his life.

[Hurlyburly]

Well not everyone is hanging on his phone 24/7. Some people do have to work or other stuff to do. 5-6 hours isn't that long in my opinion as long as he doesn't take this long for every single message.
Especially because you are talking every night I do not think that there's a need to worry, its not like he would ignore you for days.

[jaidee]

If he answered quicker, you would pester him to answer even quicker, wouldn't you?
And if he answered quicker he would appear to you more like a needy guy who needs your approval and you would lose interest in him.
So everything's fine. Appreciate how he's actually making the bond stronger between you!

[Logan27]

Does it ever cross women's minds that women are not the center of guy's lives? Seriously. He doesn't have to spend all day talking to you and listening to your modern female bullshit. Maybe he just wants to play Fortnite?

[PrincessPie]

If you talk at night on the phone i don't think its alarm, but if it bothers you bring it up to him.

[ghostqueen]

It depends on his work schedule.

[Main_man_Dan]

Depends how long you have dated. Unfortunately that comes with all relationships unless your SO doesn't have any hobbies. The amount that they want to small talk diminishes. The way to tell of its small talk to them is their replys. Even of you send a wall of text if they can respond in two words it's small talk.

[daydreammarie]

It doesn't seem like something dyer or is wrong. Since he is long distant he may have a different time then you as well as he could have fallen asleep etc. You could ask him why that is, but I wouldn't worry about it to much.

[MlleCake]

Live your life as it is happening, not through your phone. Yes, it's normal not to even pay attention to the cell phone for whole days of work and study.

[mancatten]

If it bothers you that much, then you should discuss it with him. Don't be rude though. Communicating is important in a relationship, but so is trust. Whatever his answer is, you should trust him, unless you have a good reason not to.

[ScaryCool]

Do you guys text or use messaging on something else? Are you guys separated by continents or?

[Caaarl]

If you have a problem with the dynamics of your relationship then you should talk to him not ask other people.

[Anonymous]

If it's a very long distance relationship. Then yes. It's normal cause if you have timezone difference like 5 hours the fuck you will know if he's sleeping or anything else.

[HANAZAWA]

He is busy. You get to talk to him at night anyway.

[unicorn1978]

You could just mention it and ask if there is a good time to message when he's not too busy

[9teen]

If it makes you feel bad tell him. Perhaps he is just busy during day time.

[es20490446e]

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[Skagish]

You know some men have lives, hobbies, friends, actvities. We also require time to be happy. Imagine reading this awsome book or playing football and you have to stop every 2min to reply...

[ollieoxenfree95]

It only takes a few seconds to text back. Unless he's working or driving there's really no proper excuse

[OralMayhem]

Yes, because you know how many chicks he could bang in 4 or 5 hours?

[wolfsugar]

You are an As$h0le

[Anonymous]

It depends on the time where he lives and where you live his time schedule and stuff just talk to him about it

[harry143143]

It's not really fair to keep someone waiting for you for hours

[Delicious_Vicious702]

When you guys first met did you reply back quick or take this long also

[water_flower18474]

He might have an closer girlfriend and was hanga out with her and texts you once he comes back home

[LookinTooSmile]

Just ask him why it takes him so long to reply.

[390Pendolino]

It's normal to have to wait for a reply.

[Anon-ymous1]

Yes it's normal, no you shouldn't "address" it.

[AdmiralBailey]

THA'S COMMUNITY COCK SIS

[Firefromthegods]

Yeah, seems a little bit off. Call me instead.

[Anonymous]

You already answered your question.

[Loveherbut]

i think he is smart