How can I stop Netflix and chilling with him and get him to take me out? (Page 2)

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Basically we’ve been talking for almost 3 months. Not a long time at all. We’ve been to each other’s house. Slept over. Blah blah... I don’t wanna keep doing this and let him be comfortable with just coming over and not taking me out or planning things that don’t need to be pricey or out of the world. I also don’t wanna go over to his and stay over all the time. I can honestly say that I’ve been setting the pace and just taking it slow and casual because I broke up with my ex about 6 months ago and didn’t wanna jump from one relationship to another. So I didn’t mind just chilling and kicking back but at this point I wanna be taken out and made feel a little special : ) How do I get out of this couch dating / Netflix and chill situation? Like when he asks me if I can cook for him and if he can come over to see me.. what do I say without seeming like I’m rude, overthinking it, demanding more, or wanting him to work for me. I dont want him to feel like he has to take me out cause I want him to. I want him to do it on his own. So clearly I have to stop letting him come over and send subtle hints his way. I need overall advice with this situation. How do I convey this without scaring him away or seeming too needy or pushy? I just wanna be myself which is a very chill - never forcing or stressing anything kind of girl. Also he’s 28, he’s not dumb and I think he can really figure it out on his own without me having to ask to be taken out. I wanna avoid having to ask to be taken out... but if communicating that is the best thing than lmk ! I just need some good advice !

torwulf · Answer

Subtle hints don't work. Just talk to him about it, or heck why not ask him out? Invite him to dinner or a movie. No reason you can't initiate.

Felicity_Smoak · Answer

Men are only going to do what you allow. Stop allowing it if it's not what you want

Naimish123 · Answer

Tell him that you have broke up with your ex 6 months ago and don't want to enter into a serious relationship and want to keep it slow and be friends for now.

Anonymous · Answer

What is stopping YOU from asking HIM out? I seriously do NOT get this. Do you women wait for the guy to ask you out so you don;t have to pay anything for the date? What is it?

Fukaroo · Answer

Ask him out on a date if you want to go then see what he says. After that make your decision to split or stay.

Astoriana · Answer

“Let’s go out instead!” And if he says no, stop talking to him.

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell him, talk to him and the next time when he ask you to chill, just be honest tell you you really like to hang out with him but on this day you're in the mood to go out

MlleCake · Answer

I think it's time to have a frank discussion with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Be upfront. Tell him that your pussy has implemented an entrance fee.

babaganoosh · Answer

Give him so much sex he actually wants to do something else. (that's the short answer based on the headline question. I didn't read your story, I'm probably still right). 😘

Alan180188 · Answer

how about you take him out? use the equality subject for right reasons for once ! :D

slatyb · Answer

Say "No, it's time for you to ask me out on an actual date"

TinaSP · Answer

Plan yourself a surprise date and get him out from the comfort zone

Myk13 · Answer

Be honest and tell him exactly what you told all of us strangers. If it pushes him away. He isn’t the one for you.

Paradoxicfox · Answer

Say why the hell you bein a cheap ass? It ain't gonna get you anywhere with a girl n its not attractive

Dzokson00 · Answer

ask him to go out? you aren't entitled to waiting for him

Anonymous · Answer

"I want him to do it on his own. So clearly I have to stop letting him come over and send subtle hints his way." No, don't be crazy, just be a normal human being.

Emixxyy · Answer

Try leaving hints and see if he picks them up if he doesn't he isn't worth it hunny and is a dumb sack of rocks

Anonymous · Answer

We don’t take out girls like you. You are just althe Netflix and chill material

BoredBoy93 · Answer

It's actually really easy... tell him. The problem woth today's dat8ng scene is people are afraid to hurt others feelings. You have to take care of you... if you want more... strsight up ask for it.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like he’s taking advantage of you. Tell him he should cook for you as well sometimes. Tell him you want him to take you out sometime

Schtroumpf · Answer

Ask him out yourself. Heck, you can even take him out. It isn't the 1800's anymore.

brezzaxo765 · Answer

why does he have to want to take you out. Plan a date and ask him out to dinner or on an adventure

MarketData · Answer

It's easy, just stop. Then the ball is in his court.

Powergirl_ · Answer

Take him out for a lunch date. Or something special. Like that.

Kuqezi · Answer

If he's only asking to hook up, a bed or sofa are the only places he'll take you

Guanfei · Answer

Resign your netflix subscription. No netflix, no netflix and chill.

perfectlyimperfect99 · Answer

Just be straight up honest with him. Put in that effort boo. If i've learned one thing about guys, its that you gotta give them an extra push.

Anonymous · Answer

I hope he never takes you out  you don't deserve him  most likely

Juxtapose · Answer

Why don't *you* ask HIM out?

Loveherbut · Answer

Why don't you take him out

Tiny_Hipp0 · Answer

Have you tried asking him? Guys are dense you know

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Cancel your Netflix subscription!

niDaye · Answer

Why dont you take him out?

Legendary_Shark · Answer

You take him out on a date.

Anonymous · Answer

your question is DRENCHED in entitlement

crazy8000 · Answer

Be a woman and take him out or are you a wuss!

pitzi · Answer

Ask him out

intjgamer · Answer

Take charge and go somewhere.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Shot in the dark you could offer to pay

Anonymous · Answer

pfff netflix and chill is so 2015..

TheUglyMan · Answer

Just tell him you want to do other activities.

JeniferRosstum · Answer

ahahahhahahaha really?

username107 · Answer

Just tell him you want to go out somewhere

Prince00001 · Answer

Tell him you wanna date or no noki-noki

TH3TROLL3R · Answer

Smash hard all night😂

TheDreamRunner · Answer

Say it

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

leave him

HeroKid01 · Answer

Ask him out

boochie0 · Answer

Cut the tv off

pgrtard22 · Answer

Move on

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