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How can I stop Netflix and chilling with him and get him to take me out? (Page 2)
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Why don't you just say, let's go out somewhere tonight? Is it really that hard? He might have gotten stuck going at your pace, now you want him to read your mind, which men aren't good at. He probably also doesn't want to seem pushy.
You said yourself, you have been setting the pace, so why now is it all the sudden his job? He didn't have a say before, and now you want him to just figure it out.
You already lost by slutting out too quickly. You shoulda kept your legs closed for longer, because now he doesn't respect you.
You need to drop him and not make the same mistake with the next guy.
Never give a guy your pussy until after going on at least three dates, and him telling you that he likes you.
I think that he might think that it's cool to do what y'all are doing taking it slow an casual. So u have to show him what u want an lead by example take him out on a surprise date an show him what u want. An during that u could have a moment were u say y'all should do this more often an he should get it then that way u don't have to ask him to take u out the first time an jus mention y'all should do the out thing more an mix it up but if that don't work jus straight talking about it or playfully suggest y'all go out like make a joke out of it... like, u know we should go chase dwn the hambugerler tonight or what ever. But all in all that should wrk
Does he want to take you out? Is he wanting to take it further than just chilling and I'm presuming sleeping together? Maybe he just wants to take it slow, to fully understand you need to talk about it, you won't sound needy or pushy. Just ask him what exactly he wants from this
Just seen your update.. In that case its you who needs to tell/ask him about where you guys stand. If you've told him your not read obviously he isn't going to try progress it, he's waiting on you
HMMMM! Dont worry many women find themselves in this predicament. I think that maybe you could simply just tell him that you have a place that you want to go with him or mention something interesting and fun that you would both be interested in doing.
well, i would be honest and tell him. Communication is the biggest cause of relationships failing.
Alternately, when he wants to Netflix and Chill, go ahead and do it. Just keep your legs together and dont open your mouth for a blow job and no hand job.
Soon with no Chill, he will ask what is going on?
Next time he asks you to cook for him try something like, “I don’t feel like cooking tonight. Let’s go out to eat.” Maybe he’ll go for it, maybe he won’t. I think if he really likes you and wants to see you then he’ll agree. Or mention places that you would like to go. Doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. It could even be like a park or a beach. Say you really like to go there. Mention it a few times to be sure he gets the message. It’s worth a shot.
Tell him straight up. Don't give him too long to think about it. If he hesitates than he doesn't want you, he's only weighing what you give him vs what sort of "freedom" he'd be losing. He better make that decision fast for you to keep him in your life. You're young, don't waste your time on someone who thinks spending time with you isn't the best thing they can do with their life
Just be up front with him and tell him that this hanging out at home all the time is getting boring and you want to starting doing some more things outside the house. Don't hint and be completely up front with him about needing a more than Netflix to keep you interested in life and a relationship. Lol
Stop hinting and just say, “I’m bored staying in, let’s go somewhere.”
All this hesitation makes me think you’re worried about his interest level. If he’s just kicking it and you want more, it’s time to break it off before you get too attached.
You need to talk about what you want because it sounds like you're ready for a relationship but it started more like friends with benefits he might want a relationship but doesn't want to pressure you or he might still just want what he has got you need to have the talk
Well just suggest something else! If he says can I come over and you cook something, say "how about we go out tonight? I'm feeling like Italian food" or whatever you want Haha or if he asks you to come over be like "the weather is so nice today, how about we go for a walk?" Just suggest something else! He will hopefully get the hint haha sometimes guys just need the extra push. Or literally tell him you wanna start going out together.
By not having ever done it in the first place. If you want a date then you don't netflix and chill. Men are sex oriented by nature. He's never going to take you out because he knows now that he doesn't have to in order to get lucky. You set the bar low. Now he knows he doesn't have to try. So he won't.
Translation ''how do I get this guy to pay full price for sex?''
Why would he have to do that? y'all aren't official...
Plus of course you're sleeping with him? right? so casually. lady he's using you. of course he doesn't wanna spend time or money on you. since you gave it so easily.
It won't happen. Have some respect for youself
I'm not sure that you can do it. It depends in his opinion about being in a serious relationship with you.
If all he currently wants from you is casual relationship, you might end up losing whatever you already have.
Otherwise, try to make him do things can intimidate him. A manipulative girl almost always do it to guys - unless they see it as a challenge to "tame" her. Why don't you ask him out?
You should just tell him lol
Plus try to figure out why he doesn't want to go out sometimes they have someone else and it's not convenient for them to go out. Sorry I watched yesterday a relationship coach say something like that.
Just tell him girl and see what happens maybe he is just shy about it or think you don't care about that stuff :)
Turn it into a joke. A woman doesn’t want to cook ALL the time. Next time, he tells you that you are cooking... tell him that your cook is tired , and has gone on strike- trade unions and all that. Lol 😂
So each time he has suggested going out, you have turned him down? He probably thinks you are a homebody. YOU are going to have to make the move on this one! Just remember, guys aren’t mind readers!
Loll okay ! Thanks so much !
You are welcome!
I mean... you DO want him to work more for you... why hide it?
I don’t hide it. I've just been kicking it and taking it super slow cause Typically when I like someone and they like me the same way ; it turns into a relationship really quick and that’s something I didn’t want to happen too early on. I just feel like I shouldn’t have to ask him to plan something. Like I wanna sit at dinner with him knowing he initiated it and planned it out himself. Am I wrong for this? loll
Yes, actually... you are wrong. The woman sets the tone for the relationship, while the man gives the relationship energy. There's nothing wrong with Netflix and Chill, but as you said; you want to do more "couple"-y things. Obviously he is comfortable doing things the way y'all are doing them now, so what motivation does he have to take you somewhere nice, if you have been happy with hanging out at his place up until now?
VOICE YOUR OPINION! HAVE HIM PLAN THE DATE, BUT TELL HIM THAT YOU WANT TO GO OUT.
Yayyyyy thanks so much ! This was super helpful ✨✨✨✨ 😘😘😘
Best of luck! 😘
You should tell this guy exactly what you want and expect from him. If he can't give you what you want then stop wasting your time with him.
I seriously don't understand you females. You have all this power over men and you let it go to waste. I would have these guys washing my car, painting my house, and cooking for me; not the other way around.