Am I really ugly?

[marleyanna2016]

I'm 18 years old and I've been single for pretty much my whole life. I've tried putting myself out there both in real life and online and in real life I've gotten rejected with disgusted looks and online the guys seemed concerned about getting me to have sex with them in real life and giving them handjobs (a few people even blocked me for refusing to have sex with them or talk about it with them). I've joined about 8 dating apps and it's been the same thing over and over. Guys just wanting sex from me (I've had a few guys without shame randomly ask to hook up). A few people tried to say I was pretty but I really doubt it because pretty girls actually have men wanting to pursue relationships with them and not just wanting to get in their pants. I sometimes have emotional breakdowns and cry at the thought of always being rejected and viewed as an object (I wear tomboyish clothes) and the fact that it seems like I may never find love

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[Snusmumriken]

You already peaked my interest with the tomboy clothing style, man that is neat. No but seriously, i dont beleave it is about your looks more than it has to do with social experience. I have a friend who became 18 a little over a month ago and have never been in a real relationship, still a virgin ofcourse. He is attractive even I can say that. he's fit, knows how to fix him up before going out an al that but hereeeeally lack confidence. He is constantly bringing about that he is worthless and unattractive, expecting wommen will come to him than he will chase them. That is the problem. If your setting is that you will be forever alone, you will have a hard time. I realized that im highschool. I looked and still look like a skinhead, you know, camo pants, shaved head, army boot and all that but I learned to be confident and managed to get relations with people that had eherything against right wing people, but as I maybe looked like the type, they realozed I was someone else once I started the conversation.

Long story short, making a good first imression is actually more important than just having looks.

[scottalanmiller]

So you think you are ugly, but guys ask you for sex? That's not usually how that works. Online dating apps are primarily (not totally) for hooking up. That the worked successfully for you and you want different things than random guys choosing you based on nothing but looks (that's how dating apps work - it's nothing but appearance and that means only for sex) doesn't imply you are ugly, how did you reach that conclusion?

Pretty girls do NOT get more guys wanting relationships. Pretty girls get more guys wanting sex. Physical attractiveness encourages SEX not FRIENDSHIP.

Think about this logically. If a guy bases something off of a girls attractiveness, attractiveness is just another term for sexual desirability, how the heck do you equate that to anything but sex?

You are working from the weird assumption that many girls do, that somehow by increasing sexual attractiveness, that you will magically reduce the sex drive but increase the friend drive of men? That's totally illogical and backwards.

[yasii]

Hard to tell if you don't post a picture. I never did online dating but I suspect a lot of women get nasty comments from guys that just want sex. Don't take it personal

[DavidRain]

Hey.
One: I think you're incredibly brave putting yourself forward. Quite a lot of people don't have the courage to do that, and certainly not to keep at it!
Two: "pretty girls actually have men wanting to pursue relationships with them and not just wanting to get in their pants." I don't know why you've come to the conclusion that this is the case, but I think you need to know that it's not true. I have female friends who model, and the number of hours I've spent with them commiserating that yet another guy just wanted them for sex and no other reason is unreal. Your beauty does not dictate whether guys want sex or a relationship, it's the guy's view of women that will do that.

[Juan1312]

Your probably not ugly but looking in the wrong place, I've been single also my whole life, but hopefully find a girl soon, and you'll probably find a guy too.

[BobbyC65]

Why don't you try posting a picture. That what I don't get with people on here asking how do I look or am I ugly and they won't post a picture. So how are we gonna know. Posting a picture help's. and a little profile pic doesn't help ether.

[TisTheTruth]

Since we can't see what you look like let's cancel that you're ugly or beautiful. I think it is how you make the guys feel. I don't think it has anything to do with how you look

[TisTheTruth]

You're not ugly at all.

[TisTheTruth]

I don't think it's looks. Maybe it's the vibes you're giving out. For someone who has been depressed for so long it is generally difficult to be someone who gives out positive vibes

[marleyanna2016]

I've tried to give out positive vibes and I got lead on and ignored

[TisTheTruth]

I'm sorry to hear that. What you lack is a sense of confidence

[bklynbadboy1]

You are definitely not ugly don't be so hard on yourself when the time is right you'll meet somebody until then just have fun doing you you back to the things that make you happy trust me guys will be beating down your door to date you LOL

[EpicDweeb]

I have no idea if you're ugly or not since I can't see you.

[MindTime]

I'm sure you're not ugly, dating sites just have a lot of guys just after one thing. There are a few good ones in there too

[MindTime]

My opinion hasn't changed

[alimusharfx111]

First of all don't think u r ugly.. work on ur looks. People are dumb ass. They can feel the energy of insecurity in u that's why they want to have a sex with u without any serious relationship.

[JellyDonutguy96]

I've been single for pretty much my whole life as well

[marleyanna2016]

Yeah it sucks

[JellyDonutguy96]

yeah I hate those type of people who say being single is fun,
it is not, they're crazy

[marleyanna2016]

It's only fun if you don't want a relationship but if you do it's horrible

[JellyDonutguy96]

yeah that's messed up in my opinion

[alimusharfx111]

Did u ever figure out why r u being single whole life? There must be something wrong...

[marleyanna2016]

Guys never wanted a relationship with me for some reason

[JellyDonutguy96]

@alimusharfx111 yeah there obviously something wrong with me, it's not like it's everyone else

I like it everyone else thinks they're innocent and it's always me,
why won't anyone take a chance with me,

[alimusharfx111]

try to love urself first , people will come after u. Don't go after other peoples. Make ur self happy. Try to adopt some hobbby and become good at it.

[alimusharfx111]

@marleyanna2016 follow me we could have talk on this matter sometimes

[JellyDonutguy96]

ok would you then

[Cowboy6666]

if thats u in the picture then I really think that you are gorgeous

[marleyanna2016]

That’s Kim Kardashian lol I took my picture down about an hour ago

[Cowboy6666]

LOL it means I am late :(

[Cowboy6666]

by the way are u still single?

[marleyanna2016]

Yeah

[Cowboy6666]

I am single too but I dont know how u look and which country u from

[marleyanna2016]

United States

[Cowboy6666]

how tall are u? and whats your race?

[marleyanna2016]

5’8, African American

[Cowboy6666]

Oh I am short 5'7 i dont think u will be interested in me. LOL

[marleyanna2016]

Idc about height

[Cowboy6666]

I am South Asian

[marleyanna2016]

Nice

[Cowboy6666]

but i dont live in US, I live in South Asian region.

[theFantasticJayy]

It's funny that you think you're ugly when The only thing guys want to do is fuck you

[marleyanna2016]

It’s because that’s all they want to do. None of the guys that I was interested in wanted a relationship with me but they wanted to date other girls

[theFantasticJayy]

Doesn't mean you're ugly though. Probably means the opposite

[berwise13]

I can't believe you can't get a man. Maybe dont worry about the sex that will work itself out.

[marleyanna2016]

Back when I used dating apps I was the one that always did the approaching and even then guys didn’t really want to talk to me.

[berwise13]

I always like when female approaches me im very shy. I dont bring up sex. Like i said i let that work itself out.

[marleyanna2016]

It honestly just seems like no one is interested in me

[berwise13]

Surely you have hobbies & things you can talk about & relate.

[marleyanna2016]

I suppose

[berwise13]

Maybe your trying to hard.

[marleyanna2016]

I mean I’ve stopped trying for about 1-2 years and nothing has really gotten better

[berwise13]

Your only 18 things got to get better

[marleyanna2016]

I guess

[berwise13]

You lack confidense

[johnmichaei]

You probably are not but I don't see a picture

[marleyanna2016]

How do I add a pic

[johnmichaei]

I couldn't tell you all I got is my profile picture but you're probably not ugly

[johnmichaei]

I'm new to this site anyway

[johnmichaei]

You put the picture you have more men than you may want running after you

[johnmichaei]

Maybe if you go to the settings you can do it I don't know

[marleyanna2016]

Yeah it's in settings

[johnmichaei]

See was that so hard

[johnmichaei]

And it's not going to hurt you a bit

[johnmichaei]

Just wait and see what happens you never know like me I date lots of black girls so I can say lots of things but I don't

[marleyanna2016]

I'm mostly Dominican and Native American lol

[johnmichaei]

I'm not going to make fun of your heritage Dominican Native American mix ed

[johnmichaei]

But unless you tell someone they're going to consider you black instead of Dominican

[markcrums101]

No you're hot asf😍😍🤤

[marleyanna2016]

That’s Kim Kardashian lol

[outside_Toronto]

I suspect you're not ugly

[uisuww28272]

No you’re pretty

[uisuww28272]

U can follow me if u want

[uisuww28272]

Ur yea u look fine

[marleyanna2016]

Thanks

[Kandy-Kane]

No pictures

[BOUNTYGUY9]

l would say you are

[BOUNTYGUY9]

l am sorry you are nice looking l just noticed your photo l like you babe xx

[Revolver_]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

How tall are you

[Opinion Owner]

Damn I got erection.
Sexy babe