Am I really ugly?

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I'm 18 years old and I've been single for pretty much my whole life. I've tried putting myself out there both in real life and online and in real life I've gotten rejected with disgusted looks and online the guys seemed concerned about getting me to have sex with them in real life and giving them handjobs (a few people even blocked me for refusing to have sex with them or talk about it with them). I've joined about 8 dating apps and it's been the same thing over and over. Guys just wanting sex from me (I've had a few guys without shame randomly ask to hook up). A few people tried to say I was pretty but I really doubt it because pretty girls actually have men wanting to pursue relationships with them and not just wanting to get in their pants. I sometimes have emotional breakdowns and cry at the thought of always being rejected and viewed as an object (I wear tomboyish clothes) and the fact that it seems like I may never find love

Snusmumriken · Accepted Answer

You already peaked my interest with the tomboy clothing style, man that is neat. No but seriously, i dont beleave it is about your looks more than it has to do with social experience. I have a friend who became 18 a little over a month ago and have never been in a real relationship, still a virgin ofcourse. He is attractive even I can say that. he's fit, knows how to fix him up before going out an al that but hereeeeally lack confidence. He is constantly bringing about that he is worthless and unattractive, expecting wommen will come to him than he will chase them. That is the problem. If your setting is that you will be forever alone, you will have a hard time. I realized that im highschool. I looked and still look like a skinhead, you know, camo pants, shaved head, army boot and all that but I learned to be confident and managed to get relations with people that had eherything against right wing people, but as I maybe looked like the type, they realozed I was someone else once I started the conversation.

Long story short, making a good first imression is actually more important than just having looks.

scottalanmiller · Accepted Answer

So you think you are ugly, but guys ask you for sex? That's not usually how that works. Online dating apps are primarily (not totally) for hooking up. That the worked successfully for you and you want different things than random guys choosing you based on nothing but looks (that's how dating apps work - it's nothing but appearance and that means only for sex) doesn't imply you are ugly, how did you reach that conclusion?

Pretty girls do NOT get more guys wanting relationships. Pretty girls get more guys wanting sex. Physical attractiveness encourages SEX not FRIENDSHIP.

Think about this logically. If a guy bases something off of a girls attractiveness, attractiveness is just another term for sexual desirability, how the heck do you equate that to anything but sex?

You are working from the weird assumption that many girls do, that somehow by increasing sexual attractiveness, that you will magically reduce the sex drive but increase the friend drive of men? That's totally illogical and backwards.

yasii · Accepted Answer

Hard to tell if you don't post a picture. I never did online dating but I suspect a lot of women get nasty comments from guys that just want sex. Don't take it personal

DavidRain · Answer

Hey.
One: I think you're incredibly brave putting yourself forward. Quite a lot of people don't have the courage to do that, and certainly not to keep at it!
Two: "pretty girls actually have men wanting to pursue relationships with them and not just wanting to get in their pants." I don't know why you've come to the conclusion that this is the case, but I think you need to know that it's not true. I have female friends who model, and the number of hours I've spent with them commiserating that yet another guy just wanted them for sex and no other reason is unreal. Your beauty does not dictate whether guys want sex or a relationship, it's the guy's view of women that will do that.

Juan1312 · Answer

Your probably not ugly but looking in the wrong place, I've been single also my whole life, but hopefully find a girl soon, and you'll probably find a guy too.

BobbyC65 · Answer

Why don't you try posting a picture. That what I don't get with people on here asking how do I look or am I ugly and they won't post a picture. So how are we gonna know. Posting a picture help's. and a little profile pic doesn't help ether.

TisTheTruth · Answer

Since we can't see what you look like let's cancel that you're ugly or beautiful. I think it is how you make the guys feel. I don't think it has anything to do with how you look

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

You are definitely not ugly don't be so hard on yourself when the time is right you'll meet somebody until then just have fun doing you you back to the things that make you happy trust me guys will be beating down your door to date you LOL

EpicDweeb · Answer

I have no idea if you're ugly or not since I can't see you.

MindTime · Answer

I'm sure you're not ugly, dating sites just have a lot of guys just after one thing. There are a few good ones in there too

alimusharfx111 · Answer

First of all don't think u r ugly.. work on ur looks. People are dumb ass. They can feel the energy of insecurity in u that's why they want to have a sex with u without any serious relationship.

JellyDonutguy96 · Answer

I've been single for pretty much my whole life as well

Cowboy6666 · Answer

if thats u in the picture then I really think that you are gorgeous

theFantasticJayy · Answer

It's funny that you think you're ugly when The only thing guys want to do is fuck you

berwise13 · Answer

I can't believe you can't get a man. Maybe dont worry about the sex that will work itself out.

johnmichaei · Answer

You probably are not but I don't see a picture

markcrums101 · Answer

No you're hot asf😍😍🤤

outside_Toronto · Answer

I suspect you're not ugly

uisuww28272 · Answer

No you’re pretty

Kandy-Kane · Answer

No pictures

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

l would say you are

Revolver_ · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

How tall are you

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