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Yes she is. She wants the freedom to be a slut while you stay faithful, she wants commitment from you without giving you the same commitment.
What you're describing is known as a cuckold relationship, not a "one-sided open relationship". An open-relationship means that both are open, not one side. In a cuckold relationship the girl sleeps around while the guy remains faithful.
At one time being a cuckold was the worst thing a guy could be (apart from being a rapist/paedophile of course). Nobody respects such a man even today. It's a sign of disrespect that she'd ask you this in the first place.
The guys who agree to it are usually weak, submissive guys, often not very good in bed and unable to please her (at least in their minds), and they usually get off on the humiliation and the degradation of watching a "better" man bang their girlfriend/wife. This is the kind of guy she either sees you as being or wants to turn you into.
Her being selfish shouldn't be your main concern - that fact that she sees you or is trying to turn you into a little bitch who nobody will respect should anger you. You should leave her, let her go find a pussy who will agree to that.
But from looking at your comments to other people you're too weak to let her go, saying that you'd rather share her than lose her. That's pathetic. Where are your balls?
In fact thinking about it, that's probably why she doesn't respect you in the first place. She can sense that you think that way and that she has you by the balls. Women don't respect men who have no balls and no spine. Those are the guys that get cheated on.
If you choose not to leave, which in my opinion you should (which is why I'm coming off as harsh - I'm trying to let you know how most people will actually think about you rather than sugar coat it), you need to man up and say no to this - fuck the idea that you have no choice. You need to regain her respect and show her that you're not a spineless pussy. Don't agree to an open-relationship either, not only are they pointless but you sound like you have no game so it would be the same situation anyway - her getting fucked by other guys while you don't.
Ofcourse she is, you let her be this selfish by accepting anything she does. You fauned over her for years and don't want to loose her. But the tighter you think you need to grip in a realation ship the sooner you loose that relationship. So basically she is just seeing how far she can take it in this relationship. Until you say no and she'll go. If you say yes she has the option to look for better dating material. She will walk away eventually. Unless you set boundaries for your self and show some self-respect she might change her mind about you.
I was going to answer this as, yes. Because it is disrespectful to the other party however in my experience I have had multiple requests from guys to be in a relationship, however they had a fetish or / got off on the thought of me being with others so offered it as a one sided relationship...
So if that’s what you’re open to, then that is you.
However personally, I would want to be commited 100% from both sides. Traditionally:
I guess it's not the ideal thing for me
Selfish? Sure. But at least she was honest 😂
I credit her for that ☺️
If it bothers you that much, break it off. No need in giving this much thought. It’s a no brainer. Either you’re down or your not 👀
Ya kinda true
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Wait, hang on. If I'm reading this right (I had to do a double-take, no joke), your girlfriend wants a relationship in which SHE gets to date/screw around with other people, but you don't. Dude, essentially what she wants is to make you a cuckold. There aren't enough words in the English language to describe to you how awful that is. And, yes, IT'S SUPER SELFISH.
Short version? She's not worth your time, energy, love, money, effort, or anything else you can offer her. She's a hoe who wants to sleep around and/or date other guys, it's simple as that. She wants to be able to do what she wants, yet at the same time she wants to have someone to come back to. It's like a rebound who she can keep coming back to over and over, knowing he won't leave her. She probably wants it one-sided too because she fears if it's open for both of you, you may find a better girl and leave her, and then she'll have no one to crawl back home to when whatever guys she's dealing with leave her.
Don't waste your time. She sounds like a bitch who doesn't care about you.
Yes, if my partner ever suggested such thing I’d break up as it is very disrespectful and above all a stupid idea. If he asked this or wanted this then I would never be able to provide that so I’d leave as I’d probably feel as though I’d never just be enough.
She is selfish and it is wrong for her to expect that. You might be afraid to lose her but she doesn't seem to concerned about how you feel. Dont ever do that to yourself. Let her go. She cannot have a relationship and be with multiple people. It just doesn't work that way. You need to respect yourself more and realize you deserve better. There are more women in this world..
Sounds toxic. Hit that James Bond passenger eject button.
Absolutely. I'd dump her. To be honest, this is so over the top it almost sounds as if she's trying to get you to break up with her... kind of like she doesn't have the courage to just be honest and break up and is trying to do something to make you bail.
If you agree to this than you are a disgrace to the male gender.
That's called cheating. It is, by definition, selfish. She is using you and does not care about you. If you have any self respect, dump her, and if you don't, dump her and learn how to respect yourself.
One sided open relationship- are you serious?
Break up, she'll cheat if you say no. If she admits she wants to fuck others she already wants to, and will leave you earlier or later if you say yes. Don't be a pushover. You'll just get used and hurt.
End the relationship on your terms rather then letting her cheat until she gets tired of you. You'll feel better afterwards.
And whatever you do, move on, the moment a girl says that it means she doesn't feel like you can satisfy her anymore. The sooner you end it the better.
The best course is to find a new girl.
Yes she definitely is. Open relationships completely defeat the purpose of relationships in my opinion.
What about the fact that she wants to have sex with other people but says I cannot do the same
Yes she’s being selfish
But I kind of feel like I have no choice but to do it
You have a choice. It’s whether or not you decide to take it.
I just don't want to risk losing her
Sometimes it’s the best thing that could happen to you
Yeah baby sometimes. I just never felt about anyone like I do her. And maybe I'm crazy but I just feel like I would rather share her then to be without her
Just dump her already bro. Either you deal with it or you tell her "I want to be able to see other people in this open relationship, otherwise I'm leaving you if you insist that this open relationship is one-sided where only you can see other people and that I can't".
Yes, she can't expect you to remain with her and only her but she can screw around. she's like an overly attached fuck buddy.
Yes she is.. 1st off that is disgusting and 2nd off... She truly doesn't love you if she did she wouldn't do that to you
Yes. She's asking for freedom while keeping you in a box. You're either monogamous or have a 2 way open relationship UNLESS you both are okay with a one sided open relationship.
Your update is only making this situation look worse on her end. Now it just looks like she is pretty sure you'll let her get away with whatever she wants. It's not fair and it's not right.
Ridiculous would be a better word. Some people like testing boundaries to see how much they can get away with.
Dump her and find someone who actually respects you.
Regarding your update. Yeah she knows you're crazy for her. Hence why she's trying to push the boundaries of what's acceptable. There's plenty of girls out there for you if you're willing to work at getting better attracting them.
I don't want any other girl just her
That's because you don't know how to attract an abundance of girls... yet. If you get to that stage and are prepared to lose a girl because you can get others, that's when you're most attractive to her and she'll treat you with respect.
Yes. She should just live the single life if that’s what she wants.
She wants to have both
No but I guess you can try
I know but the thing is I really don't want to lose her
Wow, low standards.
Yes. And if she can’t understand your point of view you should break up with her
I know but yet I still really want to be with her
And she knows that in the end that I'll probably just end up letting her doing it
Yes. It's either entirely open or entirely exclusive in my opinion.
You mean the one where you stay faithful and she dates around? absolutely selfish.
Yep that's what she wants
no, you're either both in an open relationship or neither. it's disrespectful of her to ask you to stay faithful to her while she fucks around. I hope you said no
well this obsession you have with her is not healthy. clearly she knows this, she can see how obsessed you are so she thinks she can get away with anything with you. that is also the reason why she wants an open relationship. she is more interested in a guy who wants nothing to do with her, because that is more of a challenge to her
Why do you think she agreed to date me then
well she must really like how obsessed you are with her. perhaps noone will ever love her as much as you, so she won't throw that away. but girls love guys who have their own thing going, who don't make their entire world about them. you cannot let her date other guys, because believe me, she will leave you for one of them, because one of those guys will never let themselves be treated like that and she will respect him a lot more than you. it's either you or noone, make her choose
If I tell her that she'll choose. I feel like I should know these maybe give us a shot maybe you could work. And maybe eventually I'll get to have sex with her too
how can it possibly work if you allow her to have other options. she will not have sex with you if you do this. women are turned on and sexually aroused by men with confidence. if you reject her and ignore her, that will spike her interest more than if you do anything she asks of you
Yeah I suppose it's a bad sign that she already wants to have sex with other people andp she hasn't even let me have it with her yet
it's very possible she's a narcissist who is just using you for attention or maybe something else, and has no intention to reciprocate the feelings you have. maybe she does like you, you can date her to see if it goes somewhere, but if she has sex with someone before having sex with you then just end it and don't torture yourself. if she has sex with you first, tell her you no longer can have an open relationship, cause I feel like once a couple has sex it becomes more serious
Yes. She's trying to make you a cuckold, and she's probably sleeping around already. If it's not your thing, break up with her. But if you're into that, go for it.
I don't really have too much of a choice
You sound like one of the WEAKEST people I've come across in a long, long time. There are 3.5 BILLION women on the Earth and you are too weak to stand up for what you want because she is irreplaceable? Trust me, she is not. You may lose her (why would you want to even keep her under those conditions) but at least she may respect you. Why would she respect you at all for being a cuckold.
There is no such a thing as one sided open relationship. You are either on board with it or if you are not technically she is cheating.
This is totally ridiculous and unfair. If you accept this, you can kiss your self-respect goodbye.
Ya I just don't no what to do
You need to tell her "no" and draw a red line. You deserve better than this and if she won't concede, you definitely should find better. Loss aversion screws with our perception of what is good for us. Right now this girl is making demands off you that will hurt you - this is bad for you. She may walk away if you refuse, but after a six month (or less) grieving period you won't look back - trust me.
Call it what it is. A Cuckold relationship. Nothing wrong with it as long as you both consent to it. Just be prepared for the progression of the relationship. Less and less sex for you. And eventually she comes home pregnant.
Yeah more like no sex for me
Yes she is, open relationships aren't one sided, it has to be something youd want to do together
Yes she is selfish. You don’t have to take that though. Try talking to her.
If your in an open relationship then it's open. Otherwise your just allowing your girlfriend to cheat on you. You don't need to actually use it but how can she say in basic terms " I want to fuck who I want but you have to be exclusive".
Go cheat on her and let her find out. Let her see how it feels then bail.
Yeah... so she wants to cuck you. Are you cool with being a cuck?
open relationship have to be double sided or end in a break up.
Yes either both of you or you both stop the relationship and go on with your life so she can go express her inner slut
To the Update I'm sure she knows and that's why she made an offer like this she is damn sure you will say yes
what do you mean "one sided open"? like one partner is allowed to fuck others and the other isn't?
Yes that's what I mean
i mean she's giving you a choice i guess. you don't need to accept it if you're not into it. i surely wouldn't.
You clearly have no self respect, and that's why she doesn't respect you.
If any of this is even true, which I highly doubt...
Your girlfriend is a fucking piece of shit and if you go along with it you are not much of a man and have no self respect.
Of course... Why should she get to screw around if you can't?
if she ever want a open relationship and you don't agree break up right away otherwise she might cheat
Dump her ass THIS MINUTE. Seriously. She's already sleeping with other men.
Yes. She's sounds like a controlling, over zealous slut.
if she wants that its code for the sex is not good enough
Yes, that's a very manipulative and abusive thing to ask for unless you told her you would be into it
1) break it off. She's wanting an open relationship. Dude, don't let her be with other guys while she's with you.
Well, that sounds like selfishness by definition.
One sided yes, she is. She want more men or women you 2 should be doing it together or dont do it at all
Yes. If she is the only one who can date around, that is basically the definition of selfish.
Very selfish. She wanna take you off the market but her status is on like Vegas lights.
A one sided open relationship = cheating.
Yes, she is, if she ignores ur feelings
Extremely selfish. And hypocritical.
No. She is just a basic w#ore.
Yes. That would be a dealbreaker for me
Yea find someone new its clear she's gonna cheat
Yes. You need a new one.
@Anonymous Hate to break it to you like this, but you've been hoodwinked. This girl obviously does not love or respect you, and if you stay with her, things are only going to get worse. You need to get away from her as soon as possible before she drags you down with her with whatever shred of dignity you will have left.
Sounds like the definition of selfish.
yep... making you a cuck
Yes she is. Find you another woman
Yes.
Does she want you to be a cuckold?
She just needs multiple cock
Yes. Both ways or no ways; it's only fair.
Yes.
Yeah, your girlfriends being a cunt
Yes very much so.
Like, yeah!
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