Is "window shopping" okay in a long term relationship?
Window shopping (in-terms of relationships) means that you are already in a relationship but is still looking at other available people. If you think you are going to find someone better then it just does not seem fair to either of you to be in a relationship you do not want to be in. There are way too many metaphors in there to really take this seriously... You may not have cheated on him, but it sounds like that was your intention. Staying in touch with someone attractive is not a bad thing, but staying in touch with them because you are attracted to them is probably not a good sign. If you are actively looking around for possible improved relationship partners then something is pretty wrong with your existing relationship. If you are honest and upfront with your current partner on the status of your relationship, this could conceivably be fine. The key here is honesty and open communication. If you are going to be looking around, then your partner should have the right to do so as well and should have the right to know where they stand. Also, you two should both be clear with each other on where the line is. Ultimately, it is up to you and your current partner to determine where the boundaries are based on your own relationship. I am married for about two years - in a stable relationship and I think it is a bit disrespectful to 'Window Shop'. To be honest, if you can avoid it, you should. It just does not feel "ok" in my opinion. I would hate it to be dishonest to the person I am with. If you already know the right thing to do here, sometimes that is not always easy though. Ultimately, if you care about the person you are currently with - even if you are not sure of the long term prospects there - you owe him a little honesty. If you ever find that your mind wanders, you are not truly happy with your current partner, and you do not truly love her / him. If you just feel that cheating would get you in trouble; if you just feel that you cannot cheat because you are not "allowed", then it shows you do not love her / him or have much interest in him anymore. You should not cheat because you should not want to cheat in the first place. You may subconsciously keep some emotional distance, but you should never cheat or talk to other or anything of the like. That is, until your partner cheats on you.
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I don't think it's wrong just don't try anything or anyone out haha. The way I see it as long as you don't touch and not clothes come off your fine your allowed to checkout and flirt but don't fill the person's head with promises of anything
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I've always had a rule... if you are in a LTR and it is monogamous then the "look but dont touch" and "flirt but dont act (or cross the line)" is extremely important
so it is ok to look but not to try out what's on offer...
however if your relationship is non-monogamous or open then as long as it is ok within your dynamic and you are honest with your partner and if it is ok with them yes even trying out what is on offer is ok
but ONLY if the latter is ok
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It's cool to look at everything on the menu as long as you always pick the same thing every time 😂😊
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It depends on the relationship. You have to find what you want, find what the partner wants, and then either compromise, one of you gives in (eek), or you break up. If you're fine with longing peaks at other and so are they there's no issue. Talk to your partner!!!
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I think it’s Ok to look at other guys & think ‘oooooh nice’ but not look for another guy whilst your with someone else!!
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It's never ok in a relationship getting in one is a statement that I'm committed to said person how is window shopping for a new partner a sign of commitment
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No, if someone is in a relationship they shouldn't be considering anyone else.
Or did you mean just looking at someone that passes by? Because that would be different than actively looking for someone else to see if they can "trade up." - 1.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Absolutely, both my fiancé and I have had this understanding for years now.
Of course the golden rule is, that we must never "go in and purchase". -
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I'd say it depends on the relationship and how comfortable you are with each other. My fiance and I are more or less ok with each other looking at other people because we recognize it's natural. It's part of being human.
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Checking people out, sure that's cool and most heathy long term relationships both parties are open in who they find attractive. But it should be an in the air and open kind of deal.
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Sure, its the product sampling that will let you down!
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It's fine. Guy and girls have eyes. They're gonna look.
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In a committed relationship look but don't touch, no flirting.
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No becoz at one point of tym... u will come from the door and do real shopping
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My boyfriend does it.
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Of course. As long as it doesn’t turn into buying!
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For example in Amsterdam probably not ;)
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Isn't one man good enough in your eyes lol
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Nope but most people do it anyway.
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What has Window shopping to do with relationships?
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I don't think so
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Look but don’t touch
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