Stability always prioritizes excitement in my opinion. It's nice to be in a relationship where excitement will rarely/never cease to die but in the long run, finding a significant other who's very faithful, loyal, caring, supportive and loving of you is something pretty much everyone who is wanting to be in a relationship/are in a relationship would be looking for. The attention and affection that people lack come from people who really care about you, love you and want the best of you! If you could have excitement and stability at the same time, that's a major plus for sure! Makes me think when you're young, you'll be craving excitement more because you want to share the joys and curiosities that come in newer relationships while older people prefer to find a stable significant other to spend the rest of their days with! Lacking either one can really take a toll on the relationship without a doubt.
As with many things it is a balance. One of the best parts of being in a relationship is celebrating when you or your SO achieves a goal or is recognized for good work, that is exciting and you can both celebrate. In addition when you are feeling a bit blah having an SO there to bring a joyful distraction and liven things up is generally welcomed. Stability comes with maturity and isn't as much as keeping things even keel but has more to do with how people react to life's challenges. We all want a partner who is strong enough to support us when life goes haywire and can step up and carry the entire load for a while if we need to recover.
Since I am young, I usually choose excitement. Sure its bitten me in the ass, and i've had a greater number of shorter relationships than say that couple that stuck it out for 2 years and complained about it before breaking up. I try to grow from each of my relationships, and the idea of staying with someone purely because they are stable feels like I am settling. If I commit then I want to commit because 1) I am in a place where I want to stop looking and 2) i found someone who makes me a better person. it sounds simple, but timing is a bitch which is why it is always best to treat people with kindness, even for a short time, because i think in long term relationships where "people settle and get comfortable" people forget this.
I don't see why these two aspects should be exclusive. It's not a real relationship if it's not somewhat stable and breaks aways under the first signs of stress.
Sorry to burst your bubble kiddo.
A real relationship brings both stability and excitement. Sure after 10-15 years the excitement fades somewhat but I don't think you have been there yet.
You can be stable and not be boring, knitting in a corner scheduling sex for once every full moon.
I don’t care for relationships at all and even I know the difference between stable and snooze. Stable doesn’t mean “toned down”. You both can live your lives, make your money and still be spontaneous.
That's normal not just as you age but as the relationship ages. You get more comfortable and yearn for more comfort than fun. I go through stages where I want excitement for a bit but then default back to comfort. It keeps my relationship exciting lol
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Stability is more important, but the two aren't necessarily mutually exclusive.
Stability for me. Sometimes, I imagine myself going on adventures, sneaking into parks late at night, etc. with a woman, but at the end of the day, I just want a stable relationship with children. I want the “normal” relationship and marriage you see on tv, where the husband and wife set up dinner for the kids, go to work and kiss each other goodbye, etc. Perhaps because my family is that way and I also grew to be like that, maybe.
Stability is what everyone wants when it comes to a relationship , you get to a point in life that u just want to feel secure with your partner and not worry about whether they are going to stick by your side or not but these days , its hard to find considering out society turned selfish and people tend to only really care about themselves
Ever since I started understanding what relationships are (13), I’ve always said I won’t get into one unless I myself am stable, and also find a stable partner. I care more about the future. To me, relationships lead to marriage and a family, I’m never there just for a ‘good time.’ Hence why I’m 20, and never been in a relationship 😊
I think stability can be exciting too. There should be balance between doing something exciting together and having some type of routine. I know for myself I wouldn't want to be on one of the extremes, I want it to be balanced.
well I got to be honest I want to balance it out I want a little bit of both you have to have that balance you can't have too much of either cuz if you have more stability than it tends to get boring if you have too much excitement chances are you're not going to have too much to bility so you need a little of both
Girl = excitement
Women = stability
I think this would be a good question to ask in dates or when you wanna know about people what they like in their love life. Thanks a lot.
I want stability in a relationship, because I'm already pursuing a lucrative career and living an unconventional lifestyle--so I need a constant in my life.
There need to be stability, the foundation, a strong ground. And there also needs to be fun and excitement on top.
Stability. i can handle depressive relationships in the end excitement can come and go and come again,
mixture of both cause you know you don't want your relationship getting stale, you want go out together and do something fun.
Stability. Excitement is fun, but in the end I want someone I know loves me back and is in this with me.
I am going to go with stability, excitement is what got me in the position I am now
Stability for sure. I'm not an excitable person so there's no point in wanting something I'm generally incapable of having and a woman is incapable of giving me.
I prefer a stable relationship over an exciting one if its going to be a long term thing. But if Im just casually dating, I prefer excitement.
I think excitement is fun in the beginning but as I get older, I want stability.
Stability for sure. The most exciting thing me and my boyfriend do is work and go to the store lol.
Can't we have a balance of both? Do these two have to be mutally exclusive?
Stability... we can go adventuring sometimes, but I like atable.
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