Stability always prioritizes excitement in my opinion. It's nice to be in a relationship where excitement will rarely/never cease to die but in the long run, finding a significant other who's very faithful, loyal, caring, supportive and loving of you is something pretty much everyone who is wanting to be in a relationship/are in a relationship would be looking for. The attention and affection that people lack come from people who really care about you, love you and want the best of you! If you could have excitement and stability at the same time, that's a major plus for sure! Makes me think when you're young, you'll be craving excitement more because you want to share the joys and curiosities that come in newer relationships while older people prefer to find a stable significant other to spend the rest of their days with! Lacking either one can really take a toll on the relationship without a doubt.
As with many things it is a balance. One of the best parts of being in a relationship is celebrating when you or your SO achieves a goal or is recognized for good work, that is exciting and you can both celebrate. In addition when you are feeling a bit blah having an SO there to bring a joyful distraction and liven things up is generally welcomed. Stability comes with maturity and isn't as much as keeping things even keel but has more to do with how people react to life's challenges. We all want a partner who is strong enough to support us when life goes haywire and can step up and carry the entire load for a while if we need to recover.
i meant it more in a way that someone really excites you (not meaning neccesarily sexually) vs when you like someone for some clear rational reasons but excitment is just ok
In those terms my expectation is that someone who I would feel a connection with is a mature adult so they are stable as a baseline. If they are not then I don't even consider them a contender. That means I will choose excitement because that is what is left to weed out the contenders down to a few. I like my life and can continue living it without a SO, but having a partner just adds to my joy and is a bonus. Having excitement and planning things to look forward to a major way to motivate me and helps me want to be a better person. If I am going to have very strong feelings in life, I want those feelings to be positive/joyful/exciting/orgasmic.
What if u r more excited about one person and less about other; with more excitable one u do not seem to have much in common or know the real reason why there is an attraction there but she is loyal n stabile person; but with the second u exactly know why. Which one would you choose?
Since I am young, I usually choose excitement. Sure its bitten me in the ass, and i've had a greater number of shorter relationships than say that couple that stuck it out for 2 years and complained about it before breaking up. I try to grow from each of my relationships, and the idea of staying with someone purely because they are stable feels like I am settling. If I commit then I want to commit because 1) I am in a place where I want to stop looking and 2) i found someone who makes me a better person. it sounds simple, but timing is a bitch which is why it is always best to treat people with kindness, even for a short time, because i think in long term relationships where "people settle and get comfortable" people forget this.
I don't see why these two aspects should be exclusive. It's not a real relationship if it's not somewhat stable and breaks aways under the first signs of stress.
Sorry to burst your bubble kiddo.
A real relationship brings both stability and excitement. Sure after 10-15 years the excitement fades somewhat but I don't think you have been there yet.
I meant more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
and you should really work on your patronazing tone kiddo 😂
Actually, I wasn't trying to be patronizing. I don't understand why you think that. I was just wording my opinion but somehow it had an old person vibe to it so I put sorry to burst your bubble kiddo there to be extra ironic.
okay well then what woul you choose between more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
You can be stable and not be boring, knitting in a corner scheduling sex for once every full moon.
I don’t care for relationships at all and even I know the difference between stable and snooze. Stable doesn’t mean “toned down”. You both can live your lives, make your money and still be spontaneous.
That's normal not just as you age but as the relationship ages. You get more comfortable and yearn for more comfort than fun. I go through stages where I want excitement for a bit but then default back to comfort. It keeps my relationship exciting lol
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Stability is more important, but the two aren't necessarily mutually exclusive.
i meant more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
Ah, OK, definitely the latter.
What if u r more excited about one person and less about other; with more excitable one u do not seem to have much in common or know the real reason why there is an attraction there but she is loyal n stabile person; but with the second u exactly know why. So which one would you choose?
At my age, stability is more important because it's harder to find a good woman than when I was in my 20s. In your scenario, the person with whom I understand why I am attracted to her would be better if compatibility is similar.
i completely understand, I've been starting to feel the same
Stability for me. Sometimes, I imagine myself going on adventures, sneaking into parks late at night, etc. with a woman, but at the end of the day, I just want a stable relationship with children. I want the “normal” relationship and marriage you see on tv, where the husband and wife set up dinner for the kids, go to work and kiss each other goodbye, etc. Perhaps because my family is that way and I also grew to be like that, maybe.
Stability is what everyone wants when it comes to a relationship , you get to a point in life that u just want to feel secure with your partner and not worry about whether they are going to stick by your side or not but these days , its hard to find considering out society turned selfish and people tend to only really care about themselves
Ever since I started understanding what relationships are (13), I’ve always said I won’t get into one unless I myself am stable, and also find a stable partner. I care more about the future. To me, relationships lead to marriage and a family, I’m never there just for a ‘good time.’ Hence why I’m 20, and never been in a relationship 😊
You’re doing the right thing and you won’t regret it 👍🏼❤️
I think stability can be exciting too. There should be balance between doing something exciting together and having some type of routine. I know for myself I wouldn't want to be on one of the extremes, I want it to be balanced.
well I got to be honest I want to balance it out I want a little bit of both you have to have that balance you can't have too much of either cuz if you have more stability than it tends to get boring if you have too much excitement chances are you're not going to have too much to bility so you need a little of both
Girl = excitement
Women = stability
I think this would be a good question to ask in dates or when you wanna know about people what they like in their love life. Thanks a lot.
so what is your preference?
Currently it is excitement.
I want stability in a relationship, because I'm already pursuing a lucrative career and living an unconventional lifestyle--so I need a constant in my life.
There need to be stability, the foundation, a strong ground. And there also needs to be fun and excitement on top.
I meant more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
I understand that but still stability lays the foundation and then the excitement is the sprinkle. So stability first but we atill need excitement and to have fun. Can’t be with just one of the two.
Stability. i can handle depressive relationships in the end excitement can come and go and come again,
mixture of both cause you know you don't want your relationship getting stale, you want go out together and do something fun.
Stability. Excitement is fun, but in the end I want someone I know loves me back and is in this with me.
I am going to go with stability, excitement is what got me in the position I am now
yeah speel the tea 😂
give us rough edges
I will only tell you that right now I am feel more aerodynamic than an airplane and I an very very sore, and even my silk robe hurts
And I never want to see the hospital again now
tha tdoesnt sound bad, why choose stability?
Eh, to each their own, I just feel violated and not in a good way
well sex ain't the only excitement and both stability and excitement have bad sides to it
Stability for sure. I'm not an excitable person so there's no point in wanting something I'm generally incapable of having and a woman is incapable of giving me.
I prefer a stable relationship over an exciting one if its going to be a long term thing. But if Im just casually dating, I prefer excitement.
I think excitement is fun in the beginning but as I get older, I want stability.
Stability for sure. The most exciting thing me and my boyfriend do is work and go to the store lol.
Can't we have a balance of both? Do these two have to be mutally exclusive?
yeah i meant in a way full on excitment over some one vs stabile yet not boring, excitable but just not majorly
Stability... we can go adventuring sometimes, but I like atable.
Stable person and exciting life. I want my partner to be a stable person but I also want to go on fun and exciting dates together.
@iskg679 only hard till they grow up a bit.
i need stability... you crave excitement when you don't want something too serious... i like long term relationships that's why i need to feel like things are stable
Excitement when you are younger, stability when you are older but life should be a balance between the two.
Stability. Excitement is much more appreciated when your foundation is stabilized
I definitely want stability and I have always wanted stability.
Definitely it might be an age thing as I much prefer stability
I prefer stability and peace and quiet.
Excitement tends to run its course and fade away, especially as you age.
Excitement is always extra (nice to have, but not necessary -- life isn't always fun and games). Most of the people you'll ever going to meet won't care about you (especially those you have contact with on social media). Invest in those relationships you need (Care for those who care about you).
like u said, it definitely depends on our age hahaha.
mostly stable with bursts of excitement sprinkled in here & there
Stability. Excitement can be had once things are stabile underneath it.
Stability, with the excitement of enjoying each other exclusively.
At the moment I would prefer stability, only because I'm engaged and not just in relationship.
@samoht89 Is there a problem with that?
@samoht89 Well, some of us want and are interested in getting married young for your information, if you don't want to do it yourself then good for you.
Stability because there are much more creative ways to make it exciting when loyalty and faithfulness are included in a relationship.
Past 28 i dont think you can crave that same excitement you get from a toxic relationship.
I want more stability and taking time to share many things.
Twenty years ago maybe, but now I like it nice and easy !!!
Not applicable because I wish to remain single for life.
Why?
@devilish-cutie
That is because I have high standards, very specific standards for the kind of woman I would want in my life and plus if at all love/relationships is possible in my life that can and should happen only within the framework of my morals, values, thinking.
Another point is the woman should be an almost opposite gender version of me. There are lot of other reasons as to why I wish to remain single for life, I won't share them here though.
Stable value vs temporary thrill Stable long term growth
I find stability attractive and exciting because I know I'm coming home to comfort and love.
Stability, that's what kids need, that's what a family needs.
I don't crave any of those things, I'm responsible for providing them. To crave something mrans you don't have it. Anything I want I just go get.
I crave both stability and excitement
I meant more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
As someone who is still young and stupid, I can say stability isn't really a priority to me in comparison to excitement.
Stability and excitement
I meant more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
I want both. Excitement and adventure with stability. I think of it as experiencing new things based on a foundation of commitment, love and loyalty.
In some of my friendships, I wish we could hang out more. You know how it is everyone is so busy with life these days.
Just more respect and more pussy. The recipe for a long lasting relationship 👍🏻
Excitement always. Then when you come back from adventures you curl up and relax together
both (?). i mean these are not incrementaply opposites to choose from, right?
I meant more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
its maybe just me but for me real love requires stability. and once trust is estabilished through that (means she loves me in hard times and support whatever happens) then can i fully become insane and love lust adventures can come, doing stupid thunts spending insanely if needed, enourmous sexathons etc. i know, im too old with my mindsets 🙄😅
i dont believe in that too old/young thing, everyone is the way they are
agreed. lets call me either classic or selectively conservative 😁
haha better !
Like what? Hitchhiking, mountain biking or climbing or more than that then no. I don't like to exhaust myself like that before having good sex.
Stability is key to any relationship, but you can still have a lot of excitement in any relationship. So, why not both
Stability is always be my thing.
I’m 26yrs old so I prefer stability.
Believe me I’m not boring
I'm confused.. why cang there be both?
Its more excitable less stabile vs less excitable more stabile
Then I choose stable..
Because he asking what you'd rather have. not fantasize about.
women become less physically appealing the older they get therefore their options decrease as time increases.
Stability is way more important to me.
Stability all the way.
Why not both, it can be done
i meant in a way full on excitment over some one vs stabile yet not boring, excitable but just not majorly
Stability and that has always been the case.
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