Should you stay in a relationship that brings stability but lacks passion?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[TheRealPepperPotts]

So... no and yes. :) This one is hard. Initially, I think that the sooner things end, the better, if that's the case. I absolutely hate the idea of "settling". I think it's one of the most selfish things someone can do to someone else, honestly. It's like, "Well, I'm tired of looking. You'll do." It's setting people up for so much pain and disappointment. Marriage is difficult enough; it's a terrible idea to do it with someone we are not 100% all in with.

However, I know there are times when the passion isn't really there in marriage. That's when I'd scrutinize the situation a bit more, and I would really encourage some soul-searching before ending it because that's a big deal. If there has never been any passion or chemistry and it's only been because "she'll do" or "he's a good guy", that's where possibly a mutual and honest conversation should be had. I don't envy anyone in that situation. :(

But, if there was chemistry and passion and the couple is together for a lot of great reasons, I think that it's probably time for some dedicated investment in rebuilding that connection. I know from experience that hormones can really mess with a woman and totally destroy her drive, especially after kids. It can be a tricky thing to fix, although it's doable. In that case, that's where some compassion and commitment really kicks in to get through that tough spot.

[HawkPerception]

This is perfectly said again. Ya never miss a beat.

[PeachyPie93]

If there is no passion it kills the whole relationship the longer it goes on. Stability is the most important but you also need passion so it doesn't get boring and so your needs get met.

[Finchie40]

Stability is important just as well as passion , if the passion is no longer there , try to reignite the passion before it completely fades away , if you tried every which way to spark up the passion and you have no luck whatsoever , then you are probably best to go your separate ways if your sexual wants aren’t being met and the relationship is one sided.

[WowGIrl4ever]

Passion can be taught

[HawkPerception]

Just my opinion, but some relationships don't have the chemistry to begin with and sometimes it's not worth the effort to try and change your partner.

When you settle for someone because they bring one aspect (in this case stability), then you might sacrifice the other.

My point here is that in many cases, passion cannot be taught.

[WowGIrl4ever]

Got ya

[Dongie]

Nope!