Too many women want an exciting and fun guy who is unstable and definitely lacks loyalty. I have seen it time and time again. Women go after the fun and exciting guy, hoping that they can make him into a loyal and stable companion (tame him basically) and failing miserably. Those guys whole game is being unattainable, I've been there and done that. Women who go for the "bad boys" got it all wrong and that is why you see so many single mothers out there, scorned by their fun and exciting lovers who left because they never wanted to settle down in the first place.
Really, loyalty and stability should come first when looking for a long term mate, because you can always add fun and excitement to a stable relationship. But we all have to learn things in our own time and on our own terms, right.
So, I see women who go for the fun and exciting guys getting their feelings hurt over and over again until finally they decide to change their values and get themselves a nice guy who will always be there when they come home. It's all about where you are in your life at the time. We need balance in life, and if you have too much of one thing you're going to be longing for the other, the grass is always greener, etc...
Ideally you would want a stable and loyal guy who can keep you on your toes, and f*** the living daylights out of you when needed. Having common goals or mutual aspirations helps to keep things interesting.
Don't waste your time with the bad boys unless you only want to get D***ed down or else you're just going to get your feelings hurt.
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As a female I'll be honest with you we both but on OUR TERMS
At 22 I'm young with a lot of pint up energy I'd rather be thrown against a wall and f***ed really hard then come home to the nice guy everyday...
thts why the girl from the twilight movies did what she did her relationship probably got SAFE, STABLE, AND BORING it didn't matter what she had at home..yes she was wrong for cheating but to be honest she is a platform for how we think whether we'll admit it or not
WE WANT OUR FUTURE HUSBANDS TO BE THE SAFE STABLE ONES IN OUR YOUTH THO, GUYS I'M SORRY TO TELL YOU GIRLS THINK EXACTLY LIKE YOU DO! We just suppress a lot because of social restrictions...
I believe young people looking for fun and excitement but as they grow they have more responsibilities and even if they want to do crazy things either they are tired from work or for the housekeeping or they think that other people will say that they are lunatics(although I've seen men that act crazy and I like it cause its nice times to times to show the child that you hide inside)
so grown people are looking for stability and loyalty because they don't want to have an other thing to worry about they want to return home and relax.
I'm young, I'm 18 years old, I've had the fun and excitement without the stability and loyalty. It's not fun in the end. There's hurt feelings, mixed emotions, and no closure. So I prefer stability and loyalty, because I always bring fun and excitement to my relationship. But if there is no loyalty, there is nothing. If there is no stability there's barely a relationship.
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Why just one ? It is very much possible to have all of them in one relationship. I've never been in one that didn't have all 4.
It depends on what phase you're in. I was all for fun and excitement but I got tired of it and need someone who I can trust and be with exclusively. So even chosing loyalty can't we have fun too?! LOL but I see what you mean.
Stability and Loyalty for sure! I have never understood woman who complain about a guy being "too safe" or "boring" when in reality, they are the kindest, and most gentle, sensible men who always are respectful and treat their woman right.
stability and loyalty for sure. Because if we're in a stable relationship and he's loyal, I"ll make sure we have tons of fun and I"m sure if those things are present we will be happy.
If I can only have one without the other, I won't choose either of them. Stability and loyality are necessary, but if there's no fun and excitement, there's no happiness either. And having fun and excitement only feel great sol long until you realize you can't trust each other. That's no fun anymore then.
Fun and excitement are an important part of a relationship, but loyalty trumps all.
I wouldn't be in either relationship :P One without the other is no good.
However, an "exciting" relationship with someone who cheats is much more miserable than a "boring" relationship, to me personally.I would be totally good with my boyfriend and I watching a movie at home every day and taking a nap. I'd be good with that. Ideally, I'd like excitement too but if push came to shove, I'd rather be able to trust him.
What girls say and what they do are two different things. No surprise more voted for A.
i don't see why you can't have both? none of these things contradict each other ...
I'm pretty sure both are very important to women. Lack of B will get you friend zoned instantly.
I prefer being with someone who is stable and loyal to me.
I would like to reference the widely known and hit classic, "Girls just want to have fun."
Stability and loyalty from the guy at home. Fun and excitement from the guy on the side. lol!
I chose fun and excitement, but there also has to be stability and loyalty in a relationship.
Why does it have to be two over the other two? It's possible to incorporate all of those things into a relationship.
They claim A, but they always go for B.
Loyalty and respect trumps everything.
Obviously B...
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