Personality or Appearance? Which is more attractive?

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  • Both but personality is weighs more heavily on the success of a relationship.

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    • I had to learn that lesson the hard way.

    • Are you hot with a bad personality or was she?

      Appearance is somewhat necessary for physical attraction but I’d much rather be valued for my character and personality. But man I hope he finds me attractive too LOL

  • I dated a body-builder and marine for a short period of time. Super hot... then I began to realize how annoying it was to date someone who literally set an alarm clock through the night so that they could get up and eat a can of tuna etc. I lifted myself, not that extreme, so I said meh, it's his lifestyle.. no biggie. Overtime, I became more aware of how obsessed he was with his appearance, how full of himself he was... he was playing too behind my bag. Obviously, my eyes seen past the player, user, narcissist, and I could no longer view him as anything but ugly.

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    • Oooh boo! Cry me a river a bish!

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      Whatever. Now I’ll report you.

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  • it's ALWAYS going to come down to personality, if we're talking about relationships. Because as we all age, our looks will always fade. And all we're left with is someone we enjoy being around, or someone we don't.

    So choose wisely.

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  • Although I voted B, I think both played a role in a successful relationship.

    Most knows is appearance. Seeing an attractive opposite gender creates the "first spark" to start a friendship.

    Some even say there is "love at first sight". This is obviously appearance.

    As the friendship strengthens, personality is that which foster the couple into entering a relationship.

    After marriage, beauty will fade but love will prevail at old age.

    The attractive individuals now fade into wrinkled greys. But if their personalities are compatible, they will remain in union until death do them part.

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What Girls Said 47

  • Personality.
    I need both but that one will always be more important to me.

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  • You can't just do that. You can't just choose one or another. The mixture of both is what draws and keeps people. Attraction to appearance is key in the first stages of the relationship, it what draws you to them, then they need a good personality in order for you to remain attracted.

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  • You only catch a person's attention with good looks, but you actually attract a person and keep them around with an attractive personality.

    Personality is held as a higher standard for me, personally.

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  • Appearance is more attractive to me, but a terrible personality can ruin even the most attractive appearance.

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  • They’re both attractive and no one can deny this.

    Women notice a guy by seeing how handsome/fit he looks. Once they get to know him they assess his personality and based on that, he becomes more OR less attractive.

    It’s the same for guys too. They notice a woman who’s physically attractive and they get to know her. Based on that they assess whether she really is attractive or not.

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  • Personality. An attractive person with a bad attitude (or that makes it obvious that they're interested in sex or desperately trying to find someone to settle down with as soon as they meet me) automatically becomes repulsive to me, while anyone who is actually nice and friendly to me becomes attractive to me.

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  • Both honestly. Appearance normally will attract you to the person but personality will keep you coming back for more. Yes it’s nice to be with someone very attractive but if they’re personality is crappy then what’s the point of sticking around? Yes some personalities are better than looks but at that point your view on that person changes because you see the beauty within them.

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  • Personality. No matter how good looking you are, if you have a bad personality, I find that ruins your outer appearance.

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  • My boyfriend isn’t the most attractive guy, but his heart of gold and the amount he makes me laugh is great. He makes me so happy and beauty is only skin deep.

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    • How’s you sex life if you don’t mind me asking? Not being a pervert but I ask this because my fiancé is beautiful and the guys she’s been with in the past, were pretty unattractive. I guess it was because of their personality but I always wonder if that hinders sex life.

    • It’s amazing. He definitely is a giver and wants to make sure he’s doing everything he needs to do to satisfy me. I couldn’t ask for a better partner

  • I did appearance because that's the initial attraction before you get to know their personality.

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  • Where the gold diggers atttt? with the answer ‘money’ 😂😂

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    • I don't blame gold diggers for their effort. I blame the dorks that allow it to happen to them. lol

  • A beautiful looking person with a bad personality is not attractive at all but conversely a person appearing less attractive with a great personality is always going to be more attractive/appealing

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    • Personality or Appearance? Which is more attractive?
      You knocked that one out of the ball park.

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    • Don't thank me. You earned it.

    • The other dork blocked me, because I asked her why she wasn't capable of answering a two-option poll question. How hard is that? lol
      Personality will always win in my book. Of course both matter. No shit, Sherlock Holmes. lol

  • The combo is attractive. Iyou're basically asking which i would rather have? Sugar or coffee. The answer is both, i need a minimal quantity of both and the right ratio

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  • Personality- looks might be good but the heart and their actions might not be so good... also... appeareance changes over the time but personality.. is hard to change.
    But... you have to be attracted by someone by both their looks and personality so you can say they are good match...

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  • That comparison makes zero sense to me. It's a false dichotomy. Why do people believe that these two things are somehow competing against eahc other in a person? I just don't get it.

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    • It's called a "poll" question. You either have the ability to answer or you don't. You don't. Cool beans.

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    • @ChetAtkins You’re 27 and probably American. I’m 22 and I’m from Latin America and I still know what the hell a false dichotomy is. Both of these options are important, it’s not a “A or B” competition.

    • @latinabutterfly96 I think he just wanted to be smug.

  • someone could be the best looking person and be boring af... or u can have someone who is less attractive and be the most interesting, fun person u've ever met...

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  • There’s times where someone’s so hot but their personality is boring, there’s times someone’s hot and their personality is really nice, but the personality just doesn’t fit their appearance. There’s times someone is very unattractive but their personality is hot and confident. There’s times someone’s unattractive and heir personality’s isnsorta boring and serious, yet fits their appearance and makes them hot. Depends on their rising, sun and moon signs tbh

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  • Somebody could have a cute face, but if they're attitude stinks then that would end my chances with them.

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  • At first sight appearance as I can't really know their personalities. However would add that even at first sight would imagine the personality.

    I don't really like to use numbers, but... would be like having I front of you a guy/girl who is a 7 and another who is an 8. I do know the 8 is phisically more attractive. However, if the 7 makes me feel he/she would have the weird type of personality I'm into, while the 8 doesn't make me fantasize that way, the 7 would look as appealing or more than the 8.

    Personality can change everything. Even if that personality is just a fantasy your brain has created 🤷

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  • When I first meet someone it’s looks but if they are a prick and they have a bad personality then it automatically makes them ugly if they ain’t a nice person.

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  • Appearance will go away, one day you will be ugly and old or lokk artificial. personnality is way more important

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  • Personality is the most important. There are too many objectively attractive assholes out there. It has ruined good looks.

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  • Personality. Both are important, but once you get through their appearance and start getting to know that person, personality is what will make you stay.

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  • You come for appearance, you stay for personality.

    But as you get older you realize how much appearances fade.

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  • If you have a shitty personality appearance doesn't matter.

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    • That't not necessarily true. But, if you have a 1/10 personality, even if you are attractive, a relationship probably won't work out. Just like how if you are ugly or average looking with a great personality, you are going nowhere with hot women or men

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    • There we go. Proved my point that just like men, women also value looks over personality

    • But you didn't prove anything... hot people don't go for unattractive people in general no matter male or female.

      What she is saying is that those type of men are ONLY interested in looks and think that they are entitled to hot model looking Megan Fox women. Even when they're nothing close to hot themselves.

      That's like being fat and thinking you're entitled to bodybuilders or men with abs.

      And to be honest it's not their look that make women turn them down, it's their personality. Men like that always have a misogynistic personality and an abusive vibe to them.

      And what do you really expect? If you're unattractive how can you be mad when extremely attractive people turn you down? Hot people are generally vain from knowing and being told constantly that they're attractive. So why would they go for a normie or an unattractive person when they know that they can have just about anyone they want?

  • Personality without a doubt. My ex was very attractive and he could be a sweetheart sometimes but most of the time he was a complete asshole.

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  • An attractive man can appeal to the eye, but so can the sight of an amazing man regardless of how he looks especially when he is smiling. 😊😇

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  • Here we go again, everyone is going to say personality when in really most people care about looks.

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    • After the second broken heart looks become almost meaningless😅

  • To me it’s both, but really personality takes over the appearance part. It makes up for what that person may lack appearance wise and that’s fine.

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  • Appearance is what initially gets me. But its a guys personality that will keep me around

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What Guys Said 105

  • Personality 100 times out of 100. She could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if we don't have a connection, it's a no-go for me. Outer beauty certainly serves a purpose, but it is her inner beauty that attracts me ultimately. The heart measures the spirit of a person.

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  • While looks play a roll in the game of life, personality wins out every time.

    If no physical attraction exists, then you won’t wast time speaking to them outside of social politeness.

    If you find them attractive, then effort is placed in getting to know the person. If their personality sucks, then it doesn’t matter how good looking they are.

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  • I'd say both, but in a specific order. If I am not interested in her appearance I will never get to know her personality. I look at appearance first. If I'm not attracted to her appearance, I cannot have a romantic relationship with her. So step one is she has to pass the appearance test. If she passes that, THEN she has to also pass the personality test.

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  • Both.

    Physical appearance = sexual attraction.
    Personality = attractive for a long term relationship.

    Appearance without good personality = at best people will only be interested in casual sex with you.
    Good personality without appearance = at best people will settle for you when they have no other attractive options, or they'll only see you as a friend.

    The good news is that you can have both, and it doesn't have to be an either/or thing.

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  • Personality or Appearance? Which is more attractive?

    Let's just say, most women are willing to compromise. Meaning, They'd rather get slapped by Chris Hemsworth than get flowers from you.

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  • Both are important but it could be argued that you won’t see a personality as readily as you’d find someone sexually attractive. I’ve had experience of those I’m attracted to until they open their mouth and those I’m not really attracted to that I bond with. The way I see it mostly is that looks will eventually fade so if your in it for the long game.. choose wisely :)

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  • The honest to God truth is, from what I see 1,000 times daily from both genders... is that appearance is the first attraction-and personality is 1(of a few) traits that can make it last. Meaning, if they don't have the appearance, there won't be any approach, period.

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  • I think it has a lot to do with how long you expect to be with that person. Good looks fade over the years but a great personality can last a lifetime.

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    • Of course, there are extremes. I would not have casual sex with a woman who was a terrible person even if her looks were 10 out of 10. And I dont think I could marry a woman who looked like she just walked out of an abstract art painting, even if she had the nicest personality ever.

  • Our first impression is always based on appearance (on the subconscious level), then we learn the personality. Some can say that there needs to be a balance of both and I, probably, agree with that. However, when we age getting old, our beauty is "passing away" and everything left is personality we've once loved. The way a person behaves, speak, smiles, walk, snores... All these things become more important than a beautiful face.

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  • Both. It doesn't need to be one or the other. But the one that matters most is personality. When we're both old and our looks are long gone all that will matter is our personalities.

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  • Obviously appearance grabs your attention at first. Personalities is the onething that's going to hold your attention the longest.
    Maybe it's more like the best looking Apple in the bunch isn't the sweetest or the brightest orange isn't the one that's going to taist the best.

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  • I'd say they are 50/50.

    For things to go anywhere you have to have some things in common and enjoy each other's company.

    For things to be romantic I have to be attracted to her.

    They are equally important.

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  • I believe, by personality, you mean the "inner personality". If that is the case, it's a no brainer. "Attractive" is something "visible". You only start liking the personality after you get to know is a person. However, appearance is visible from a 100 feet away.

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  • Both is #1 for me, But I only picked Appearance because it's kinda like that saying love at first sight & I truly believe that.. I think the right one will have both... But you have to love that person inside & out.. 💯

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  • I mean of course appearance is important too to some degree. I also need to have some sort of physical attraction that fits my standards. But personality is a must for me. If I were to divide it, it would be 20% appearance / 80% personality.

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  • No contest. A guy can have the greatest personality but it won't matter if he isn't attractive because women will never talk to him to find that out.

    Attractive guys can have shitty personalities but get loads of women anyway proven by all of the stories women tell about how bad their exes were.

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  • Personality has more staying power as a source of attraction
    Appearance is usually the first attraction but if the personality is not there that attraction won't last long and personality can create attraction even if the appearance is not there

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  • Appearance gets the attention, personality keeps it, and therefore is more important in the long run.

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  • Definitely personality, as anyone who has had an attractive SO with a lousy personality can confirm.

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  • I voted personality over appearance, but appearance must be within reason. For instance, if a woman has a great personality but looks like a man, I would reject her.

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  • I am calling bull. Sorry ladies but I have spent 10 years online dating and met with constant shallow women. However personality comes through if you have good looks and photos are a guide to judge people before knowing them as people.

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  • I go more by personality. Looks are important too though.

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  • Appearance is like a shiny stuff. You may be heard off this saying that "all that glitter is not gold". But Personality is real beauty.

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  • Of course people will SAY personality... but from my personal experience most girls definitely care about appearance more.

    I even did an experiment before, where I talked to some girls on social media over two profiles... one based on a shirtless model who'd treat them like trash, and one based on an average looking guy who would actually try to get to know them and respect them rather than just use them for sex.

    And guess what? Literally none of them payed attention to the average guy. They all went for the shirtless model. Even the ones that said they wanted a nice guy who treats them well went for him.

    Wonderful world we live in, huh? Nothing is superficial.

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  • Appearance first, then personality takes over and becomes the main attraction. But both is the ideal.

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  • Personality can easily be more attractive,(wether or not it is depends on who), and is always more important.

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  • All these girls saying personality LOL, what a bunch of liars. I work with a girls only team at a coffeeshop. I know how girls think.

    It's all about looks with our customers.

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  • Appearance will attract someone to you, but their personality will make you stay and build a relationship.

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  • Both are important to me. Dating is about finding "the right one". To me that just means finding someone who is perfect for you in both aspects.

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  • Personality is the most important, but of course if I'm not attractive to her by her looks l than It won't work.

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