Personality or Appearance? Which is more attractive?

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partydelights · Accepted Answer

Although I voted B, I think both played a role in a successful relationship.

Most knows is appearance. Seeing an attractive opposite gender creates the "first spark" to start a friendship.

Some even say there is "love at first sight". This is obviously appearance.

As the friendship strengthens, personality is that which foster the couple into entering a relationship.

After marriage, beauty will fade but love will prevail at old age.

The attractive individuals now fade into wrinkled greys. But if their personalities are compatible, they will remain in union until death do them part.

bobair · Accepted Answer

it's ALWAYS going to come down to personality, if we're talking about relationships. Because as we all age, our looks will always fade. And all we're left with is someone we enjoy being around, or someone we don't.

So choose wisely.

chopper1977 · Accepted Answer

I dated a body-builder and marine for a short period of time. Super hot... then I began to realize how annoying it was to date someone who literally set an alarm clock through the night so that they could get up and eat a can of tuna etc. I lifted myself, not that extreme, so I said meh, it's his lifestyle.. no biggie. Overtime, I became more aware of how obsessed he was with his appearance, how full of himself he was... he was playing too behind my bag. Obviously, my eyes seen past the player, user, narcissist, and I could no longer view him as anything but ugly.

StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

Both but personality is weighs more heavily on the success of a relationship.

PrincessPie · Answer

Personality. I need both but that one will always be more important to me.

Logorithim · Answer

Definitely personality, as anyone who has had an attractive SO with a lousy personality can confirm.

AlienParasite · Answer

At first sight appearance as I can't really know their personalities. However would add that even at first sight would imagine the personality.

I don't really like to use numbers, but... would be like having I front of you a guy/girl who is a 7 and another who is an 8. I do know the 8 is phisically more attractive. However, if the 7 makes me feel he/she would have the weird type of personality I'm into, while the 8 doesn't make me fantasize that way, the 7 would look as appealing or more than the 8.

Personality can change everything. Even if that personality is just a fantasy your brain has created 🤷

TheMainManeMan · Answer

Of course people will SAY personality... but from my personal experience most girls definitely care about appearance more.

I even did an experiment before, where I talked to some girls on social media over two profiles... one based on a shirtless model who'd treat them like trash, and one based on an average looking guy who would actually try to get to know them and respect them rather than just use them for sex.

And guess what? Literally none of them payed attention to the average guy. They all went for the shirtless model. Even the ones that said they wanted a nice guy who treats them well went for him.

Wonderful world we live in, huh? Nothing is superficial.

hahahmm · Answer

Imagine that personality is the car engine and appearance is the car body & interior. You’re going to find people who think it’s all about looks. And people who think it’s all about that engine. But it’s really always a combination and based on one’s past experiences the ‘engine’ becomes a very important thing. But just because the engine is important to a person does not mean they will settle for a rust bucket.

That said, while a guy may be super interested in women being fit (ish) to very fit women can be more forgiving of a guy’s looks on average. Or actually grossed out by the body builder look.

I’ve seen women with very average looks who were dressing down yet had every guy in the room wanting her just based on her personality. But few women (I’ve seen) have a personality that powerful.

rjroy3 · Answer

Appearance.

Obviously both matter, but It's like a 3:2 ratio with appearance mattering a bit more in the sense that I won't even consider her unless she's at a certain level of physical attractiveness. Depending on how good her personality that will affect how attractive she needs to be, but it still has to meet a minimum standard. Otherwise I (and most men who are honest with themselves) wouldn't even bother. I think that's more true for guys than girls. Girls tend to care more about how you make them feel and looks are less important (still matter), but for guys a girl can make them feel amazing but if she's not attractive "enough" he won't bother in any serious respect. I think for guys the ration is like 3:2 and for girls the ratio is 1:1 or 2:3 favoring personality more or less.

loveslongnails · Answer

Funny how 60% of guys say personality, but I've been out with a group of guys and heard one of them say... ever... "You can go for the good looking one, I like the one who seems to have more personality". I've never heard that! Every time this question gets asked, I point out that you can change your shape if its bad, your appearance, and some physical things --- but you really can't change a bad personality once you've got one! Give me a "pretty" woman with a great personality, rather than a drop dead gorgeous woman with a mediocre one.

blackbird11 · Answer

Personality- looks might be good but the heart and their actions might not be so good... also... appeareance changes over the time but personality.. is hard to change.
But... you have to be attracted by someone by both their looks and personality so you can say they are good match...

Moss777 · Answer

You can't just do that. You can't just choose one or another. The mixture of both is what draws and keeps people. Attraction to appearance is key in the first stages of the relationship, it what draws you to them, then they need a good personality in order for you to remain attracted.

BlueWalker · Answer

Personality 100 times out of 100. She could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if we don't have a connection, it's a no-go for me. Outer beauty certainly serves a purpose, but it is her inner beauty that attracts me ultimately. The heart measures the spirit of a person.

AshA94 · Answer

Both honestly. Appearance normally will attract you to the person but personality will keep you coming back for more. Yes it’s nice to be with someone very attractive but if they’re personality is crappy then what’s the point of sticking around? Yes some personalities are better than looks but at that point your view on that person changes because you see the beauty within them.

englisc · Answer

Both.

Physical appearance = sexual attraction.
Personality = attractive for a long term relationship.

Appearance without good personality = at best people will only be interested in casual sex with you.
Good personality without appearance = at best people will settle for you when they have no other attractive options, or they'll only see you as a friend.

The good news is that you can have both, and it doesn't have to be an either/or thing.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Both are important but it could be argued that you won’t see a personality as readily as you’d find someone sexually attractive. I’ve had experience of those I’m attracted to until they open their mouth and those I’m not really attracted to that I bond with. The way I see it mostly is that looks will eventually fade so if your in it for the long game.. choose wisely :)

Knighted2170 · Answer

While looks play a roll in the game of life, personality wins out every time.

If no physical attraction exists, then you won’t wast time speaking to them outside of social politeness.

If you find them attractive, then effort is placed in getting to know the person. If their personality sucks, then it doesn’t matter how good looking they are.

Anonymous · Answer

People who say "personality" are full of shit!

This guy can have the best personality in the world, women are not going to flock to him.

Personality or Appearance? Which is more attractive?

But assholes garbage who look like this still get women creaming themselves to be with him even though he is blatantly a prick.

Same goes for this female

Vs

This one...

Anonymous · Answer

I took my mom's hard earned lesson. My dad was really hot. But he had such a rotten personality that we eventually ran away from him and kicked him out of our lives. I married someone with way below average looks, but the sweetest most beautiful personality. I'm very happy and everyone envies me.

MementoMori_ · Answer

I'd say both, but in a specific order. If I am not interested in her appearance I will never get to know her personality. I look at appearance first. If I'm not attracted to her appearance, I cannot have a romantic relationship with her. So step one is she has to pass the appearance test. If she passes that, THEN she has to also pass the personality test.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Let's just say, most women are willing to compromise. Meaning, They'd rather get slapped by Chris Hemsworth than get flowers from you.

latinabutterfly96 · Answer

They’re both attractive and no one can deny this.

Women notice a guy by seeing how handsome/fit he looks. Once they get to know him they assess his personality and based on that, he becomes more OR less attractive.

It’s the same for guys too. They notice a woman who’s physically attractive and they get to know her. Based on that they assess whether she really is attractive or not.

Shygirl666 · Answer

Personality. An attractive person with a bad attitude (or that makes it obvious that they're interested in sex or desperately trying to find someone to settle down with as soon as they meet me) automatically becomes repulsive to me, while anyone who is actually nice and friendly to me becomes attractive to me.

BigToeJohn420 · Answer

Obviously appearance grabs your attention at first. Personalities is the onething that's going to hold your attention the longest.
Maybe it's more like the best looking Apple in the bunch isn't the sweetest or the brightest orange isn't the one that's going to taist the best.

watsons15 · Answer

The honest to God truth is, from what I see 1,000 times daily from both genders... is that appearance is the first attraction-and personality is 1(of a few) traits that can make it last. Meaning, if they don't have the appearance, there won't be any approach, period.

HaveNoName · Answer

I believe, by personality, you mean the "inner personality". If that is the case, it's a no brainer. "Attractive" is something "visible". You only start liking the personality after you get to know is a person. However, appearance is visible from a 100 feet away.

ThanushPoulsen · Answer

Our first impression is always based on appearance (on the subconscious level), then we learn the personality. Some can say that there needs to be a balance of both and I, probably, agree with that. However, when we age getting old, our beauty is "passing away" and everything left is personality we've once loved. The way a person behaves, speak, smiles, walk, snores... All these things become more important than a beautiful face.

Num1boxer1919 · Answer

Both is #1 for me, But I only picked Appearance because it's kinda like that saying love at first sight & I truly believe that.. I think the right one will have both... But you have to love that person inside & out.. 💯

aicarg · Answer

You only catch a person's attention with good looks, but you actually attract a person and keep them around with an attractive personality.

Personality is held as a higher standard for me, personally.

witherwing · Answer

Appearance is more attractive to me, but a terrible personality can ruin even the most attractive appearance.

Helpfulgirl · Answer

someone could be the best looking person and be boring af... or u can have someone who is less attractive and be the most interesting, fun person u've ever met...

SarahsSummer · Answer

A beautiful looking person with a bad personality is not attractive at all but conversely a person appearing less attractive with a great personality is always going to be more attractive/appealing

WalterBlack · Answer

I think it has a lot to do with how long you expect to be with that person. Good looks fade over the years but a great personality can last a lifetime.

JustWorthlessMe · Answer

No contest. A guy can have the greatest personality but it won't matter if he isn't attractive because women will never talk to him to find that out.

Attractive guys can have shitty personalities but get loads of women anyway proven by all of the stories women tell about how bad their exes were.

BlackCatxD · Answer

I mean of course appearance is important too to some degree. I also need to have some sort of physical attraction that fits my standards. But personality is a must for me. If I were to divide it, it would be 20% appearance / 80% personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone says personality when they are exposed and being judged for their answer. When they're actually selecting a potential partner and know there is no reprecussions it's 100% looks. Go out in public and look at who's being successful and who's not. Talk is cheap peoples actions speak the truth.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

Somebody could have a cute face, but if they're attitude stinks then that would end my chances with them.

Pamina · Answer

That comparison makes zero sense to me. It's a false dichotomy. Why do people believe that these two things are somehow competing against eahc other in a person? I just don't get it.

Miristheiss · Answer

I'd say they are 50/50.

For things to go anywhere you have to have some things in common and enjoy each other's company.

For things to be romantic I have to be attracted to her.

They are equally important.

Anonymous · Answer

People like to say Personality but no one actually means it. Don't get me wrong when you find someone attractive you want them to have the personality to match. But i don't care how winning their personality is. if they're ugly you're not going to even talk to them.

emmily2396 · Answer

The combo is attractive. Iyou're basically asking which i would rather have? Sugar or coffee. The answer is both, i need a minimal quantity of both and the right ratio

Clo917 · Answer

Personality. No matter how good looking you are, if you have a bad personality, I find that ruins your outer appearance.

NoxWriter22 · Answer

Both. It doesn't need to be one or the other. But the one that matters most is personality. When we're both old and our looks are long gone all that will matter is our personalities.

Brittanymaexoxo · Answer

My boyfriend isn’t the most attractive guy, but his heart of gold and the amount he makes me laugh is great. He makes me so happy and beauty is only skin deep.

Phanta · Answer

I voted personality over appearance, but appearance must be within reason. For instance, if a woman has a great personality but looks like a man, I would reject her.

Majp6 · Answer

There’s times where someone’s so hot but their personality is boring, there’s times someone’s hot and their personality is really nice, but the personality just doesn’t fit their appearance. There’s times someone is very unattractive but their personality is hot and confident. There’s times someone’s unattractive and heir personality’s isnsorta boring and serious, yet fits their appearance and makes them hot. Depends on their rising, sun and moon signs tbh

SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ · Answer

I did appearance because that's the initial attraction before you get to know their personality.

MissChasityL · Answer

Where the gold diggers atttt? with the answer ‘money’ 😂😂

Kendyrocks · Answer

Appearance will go away, one day you will be ugly and old or lokk artificial. personnality is way more important

AlgaeEater · Answer

All these girls saying personality LOL, what a bunch of liars. I work with a girls only team at a coffeeshop. I know how girls think. It's all about looks with our customers.

DivaMonae · Answer

Personality without a doubt. My ex was very attractive and he could be a sweetheart sometimes but most of the time he was a complete asshole.

POTAYTOPOTAHTO · Answer

Personality is the most important. There are too many objectively attractive assholes out there. It has ruined good looks.

CubsterShura · Answer

An attractive man can appeal to the eye, but so can the sight of an amazing man regardless of how he looks especially when he is smiling. 😊😇

Aynsof · Answer

Personality has more staying power as a source of attraction
Appearance is usually the first attraction but if the personality is not there that attraction won't last long and personality can create attraction even if the appearance is not there

AskSufi · Answer

Appearance is like a shiny stuff. You may be heard off this saying that "all that glitter is not gold". But Personality is real beauty.

BCA6010 · Answer

Appearance gets the attention, personality keeps it, and therefore is more important in the long run.

Hal2002 · Answer

Appearance will attract someone to you, but their personality will make you stay and build a relationship.

Syatesxo · Answer

When I first meet someone it’s looks but if they are a prick and they have a bad personality then it automatically makes them ugly if they ain’t a nice person.

Bry_3199 · Answer

Personality is the most important, but of course if I'm not attractive to her by her looks l than It won't work.

Johnjohnny · Answer

We're are attracted to looks but personality wins out ever time in end: looks Will surly faide; but personality may live till yea die!

wankiam · Answer

appearance is what draws ones interest but really we all want to actually like the person too so i have to say its 50/50

FenderMustango · Answer

I am calling bull. Sorry ladies but I have spent 10 years online dating and met with constant shallow women. However personality comes through if you have good looks and photos are a guide to judge people before knowing them as people.

The_FallenOne · Answer

If you have a shitty personality appearance doesn't matter.

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