Personality or Appearance? Which is more attractive?

[Anonymous]

Appearance

Personality

[partydelights]

Although I voted B, I think both played a role in a successful relationship.

Most knows is appearance. Seeing an attractive opposite gender creates the "first spark" to start a friendship.

Some even say there is "love at first sight". This is obviously appearance.

As the friendship strengthens, personality is that which foster the couple into entering a relationship.

After marriage, beauty will fade but love will prevail at old age.

The attractive individuals now fade into wrinkled greys. But if their personalities are compatible, they will remain in union until death do them part.

[bobair]

it's ALWAYS going to come down to personality, if we're talking about relationships. Because as we all age, our looks will always fade. And all we're left with is someone we enjoy being around, or someone we don't.

So choose wisely.

[chopper1977]

I dated a body-builder and marine for a short period of time. Super hot... then I began to realize how annoying it was to date someone who literally set an alarm clock through the night so that they could get up and eat a can of tuna etc. I lifted myself, not that extreme, so I said meh, it's his lifestyle.. no biggie. Overtime, I became more aware of how obsessed he was with his appearance, how full of himself he was... he was playing too behind my bag. Obviously, my eyes seen past the player, user, narcissist, and I could no longer view him as anything but ugly.

[AnOxymoron]

Oooh boo! Cry me a river a bish!

[chopper1977]

@AnOxymoron Uh yeah, I shed zero tears about it. It was also like 15 years ago. Go play with your puppy and x box.

[AnOxymoron]

Don't make assumptions. I'd rather play with a pussy... My pet pussy. You old fart.

[chopper1977]

@AnOxymoron Your comment was short and nasty, so I returned the favor. Not sure how the young generation in your country is, but my 'old fart' ass looks around and sees a sea of overweight, unhealthy young people. The new muffin top norm. So yeah, my boobs might not be as perky as they once were, I have some gray hairs that I cover up with dye, but I run, lift, and have curves created by being female, not from having consumed a big-mack and fries.

[AnOxymoron]

So you are a milf.

[Knighted2170]

Just report him Chopper he’s a troll.

[AnOxymoron]

@Knighted2170 No I am not. And you look like a serial killer.

[Knighted2170]

@AnOxymoron
Whatever. Now I’ll report you.

[AnOxymoron]

@Knighted2170 Loooool. :D

[StingRayxoxo]

Both but personality is weighs more heavily on the success of a relationship.

[ChetAtkins]

I had to learn that lesson the hard way.

[StingRayxoxo]

Are you hot with a bad personality or was she?

Appearance is somewhat necessary for physical attraction but I’d much rather be valued for my character and personality. But man I hope he finds me attractive too LOL

[PrincessPie]

Personality.
I need both but that one will always be more important to me.

[Logorithim]

Definitely personality, as anyone who has had an attractive SO with a lousy personality can confirm.

[AlienParasite]

At first sight appearance as I can't really know their personalities. However would add that even at first sight would imagine the personality.

I don't really like to use numbers, but... would be like having I front of you a guy/girl who is a 7 and another who is an 8. I do know the 8 is phisically more attractive. However, if the 7 makes me feel he/she would have the weird type of personality I'm into, while the 8 doesn't make me fantasize that way, the 7 would look as appealing or more than the 8.

Personality can change everything. Even if that personality is just a fantasy your brain has created 🤷

[TheMainManeMan]

Of course people will SAY personality... but from my personal experience most girls definitely care about appearance more.

I even did an experiment before, where I talked to some girls on social media over two profiles... one based on a shirtless model who'd treat them like trash, and one based on an average looking guy who would actually try to get to know them and respect them rather than just use them for sex.

And guess what? Literally none of them payed attention to the average guy. They all went for the shirtless model. Even the ones that said they wanted a nice guy who treats them well went for him.

Wonderful world we live in, huh? Nothing is superficial.

[hahahmm]

Imagine that personality is the car engine and appearance is the car body & interior. You’re going to find people who think it’s all about looks. And people who think it’s all about that engine. But it’s really always a combination and based on one’s past experiences the ‘engine’ becomes a very important thing. But just because the engine is important to a person does not mean they will settle for a rust bucket.

That said, while a guy may be super interested in women being fit (ish) to very fit women can be more forgiving of a guy’s looks on average. Or actually grossed out by the body builder look.

I’ve seen women with very average looks who were dressing down yet had every guy in the room wanting her just based on her personality. But few women (I’ve seen) have a personality that powerful.

[rjroy3]

Appearance.

Obviously both matter, but It's like a 3:2 ratio with appearance mattering a bit more in the sense that I won't even consider her unless she's at a certain level of physical attractiveness. Depending on how good her personality that will affect how attractive she needs to be, but it still has to meet a minimum standard. Otherwise I (and most men who are honest with themselves) wouldn't even bother. I think that's more true for guys than girls. Girls tend to care more about how you make them feel and looks are less important (still matter), but for guys a girl can make them feel amazing but if she's not attractive "enough" he won't bother in any serious respect. I think for guys the ration is like 3:2 and for girls the ratio is 1:1 or 2:3 favoring personality more or less.

[loveslongnails]

Funny how 60% of guys say personality, but I've been out with a group of guys and heard one of them say... ever... "You can go for the good looking one, I like the one who seems to have more personality". I've never heard that! Every time this question gets asked, I point out that you can change your shape if its bad, your appearance, and some physical things --- but you really can't change a bad personality once you've got one! Give me a "pretty" woman with a great personality, rather than a drop dead gorgeous woman with a mediocre one.

[blackbird11]

Personality- looks might be good but the heart and their actions might not be so good... also... appeareance changes over the time but personality.. is hard to change.
But... you have to be attracted by someone by both their looks and personality so you can say they are good match...

[Moss777]

You can't just do that. You can't just choose one or another. The mixture of both is what draws and keeps people. Attraction to appearance is key in the first stages of the relationship, it what draws you to them, then they need a good personality in order for you to remain attracted.

[BlueWalker]

Personality 100 times out of 100. She could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if we don't have a connection, it's a no-go for me. Outer beauty certainly serves a purpose, but it is her inner beauty that attracts me ultimately. The heart measures the spirit of a person.

[AshA94]

Both honestly. Appearance normally will attract you to the person but personality will keep you coming back for more. Yes it’s nice to be with someone very attractive but if they’re personality is crappy then what’s the point of sticking around? Yes some personalities are better than looks but at that point your view on that person changes because you see the beauty within them.

[englisc]

Both.

Physical appearance = sexual attraction.
Personality = attractive for a long term relationship.

Appearance without good personality = at best people will only be interested in casual sex with you.
Good personality without appearance = at best people will settle for you when they have no other attractive options, or they'll only see you as a friend.

The good news is that you can have both, and it doesn't have to be an either/or thing.

[Purpleronnie]

Both are important but it could be argued that you won’t see a personality as readily as you’d find someone sexually attractive. I’ve had experience of those I’m attracted to until they open their mouth and those I’m not really attracted to that I bond with. The way I see it mostly is that looks will eventually fade so if your in it for the long game.. choose wisely :)

[Knighted2170]

While looks play a roll in the game of life, personality wins out every time.

If no physical attraction exists, then you won’t wast time speaking to them outside of social politeness.

If you find them attractive, then effort is placed in getting to know the person. If their personality sucks, then it doesn’t matter how good looking they are.

[Anonymous]

People who say "personality" are full of shit!

This guy can have the best personality in the world, women are not going to flock to him.

But assholes garbage who look like this still get women creaming themselves to be with him even though he is blatantly a prick.

Same goes for this female

Vs

This one...

[Anonymous]

I took my mom's hard earned lesson. My dad was really hot. But he had such a rotten personality that we eventually ran away from him and kicked him out of our lives. I married someone with way below average looks, but the sweetest most beautiful personality. I'm very happy and everyone envies me.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. But it's easier to judge looks than personality. A lot of times people are afraid they will judge a personality wrong and end up losing both. While good looks are just obvious at first.

[MementoMori_]

I'd say both, but in a specific order. If I am not interested in her appearance I will never get to know her personality. I look at appearance first. If I'm not attracted to her appearance, I cannot have a romantic relationship with her. So step one is she has to pass the appearance test. If she passes that, THEN she has to also pass the personality test.

[Bananaman177]

Let's just say, most women are willing to compromise. Meaning, They'd rather get slapped by Chris Hemsworth than get flowers from you.

[latinabutterfly96]

They’re both attractive and no one can deny this.

Women notice a guy by seeing how handsome/fit he looks. Once they get to know him they assess his personality and based on that, he becomes more OR less attractive.

It’s the same for guys too. They notice a woman who’s physically attractive and they get to know her. Based on that they assess whether she really is attractive or not.

[Shygirl666]

Personality. An attractive person with a bad attitude (or that makes it obvious that they're interested in sex or desperately trying to find someone to settle down with as soon as they meet me) automatically becomes repulsive to me, while anyone who is actually nice and friendly to me becomes attractive to me.