I don't think my boyfriend is the one?

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I do not think that he is the one for me, the one I am going to marry, the one I want to have children with, but I love him. We started dating when I was 18 and he was 19 now I am 20 and he is 21. Back then I knew that he was not the one for me when we started dating but I liked him and thought that it did not matter since we were so young. But now our friends are starting getting married, they are moving in together and this is not what I want with my boyfriend. I want to date him, be with him, but deep down I know he is not the one. He is the kindest and most loving person but I can not imagine spending our lives together. Should we keep dating?

WhatTheHellAmy2 · Accepted Answer

It’s like hearing my thoughts. I was like you.

You see. My husband and I are different. He’s tidy I’m messy. He’s careful with words I’m full mouthed, he’s religious I’m just crazy, he works out and eats healthy I’m just happy I can eat pizza and stay thin, he’s quiet and i love to party.

I didn’t want him. He was “boring”. But darling... those with my personality just used me. But this man committed to me forever. He’s my husband now and I married him when I was 19. Am i young? Yes. Do I want him forever? Yes.

We’ve had problems and we almost decided to leave each other but man, no. We’ll work on this and this man is the one I’ve chosen and he has chosen me. I’m not leaving him.

Darling. One day you simply wake up and realize that there are more important things than having the partner you dream about. When you fall in love with that one who loves you truly and without conditions, that person becomes your dream guy.

SabinaV · Accepted Answer

I know this is a very big decision and huge circumstance to consider.

It might even be difficult for you to open up to him after everything that gas gone by both of you. Eventually you must find a moment & time to openly tell him about this.

I know it may feel difficult since you may not want to hurt him, but he does deserve to hear your honest opinion than to prolong this further enough, which may hurt even more if you take it even longer.

For now if you still do not know how to go about this, reflect and find time to think about what is best. Make sure you will be happy with your decision. Never settle.

You will be the only person who can determine what is best but do be honest with him and yourself.

Find time eventually for the matter at hand.

Drumlin2001 · Accepted Answer

If you have an exit plan then sure. If you hust dating for the sake of it then no.
So, if you want to do that month in Australia or travel the world, then do it with him but always have in mind that you'll need to end it sometime. And dont lie to him. If he asks you about the long term prospects, you have to be honest

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Just know no matter who the ONE is... people change over time. When you are 22 you are not the same person at 32. So if deep down you know he is not the one then don't settle... and don't keep dating someone to only leave at a later date. The good news is YOU KNOW. So do something about it.

Desconhecida · Answer

If the guy isn't the one I can only assume the sex is too good to dump a douche who you can't see yourself loving in the present or future.

Damn.
The sex must be EPIC. or he must be super damn rich - then again, enjoy and nice shopping spree! 🤣🤣🙏😊

Hannah591 · Answer

What about him makes you think he's not the one for you? What would make him or anyone be the one for you?
I wouldn't want you to chuck away a perfectly good relationship because you're buying into the notion of 'the one'. Why date someone and pursue a relationship with them if you didn't ever feel like spending your life with them? I've been with my partner a month but on the first date, I could see us moving out together one day.

SongBird3 · Answer

Your still SUPER YOUNG, this is the time you have fun and not be so serious with people. But its also good to keep your priorities straight. If you knew then and know now he's not the one, than you should break up with him and find someone else. You dont wanna string him along for 5 more years till he proposes.
Their are plenty other men for you.

capncool · Answer

Then why are you wasting your time with him? You might not want to hurt him now but you're doing nobody any favours by staying with him. If you do marry him then eventually it'll come out in one way or another and he'll probably resent you for wasting his time. You're both still very young, and you both have plenty of time to move on.

PressOn · Answer

You lead anybody to answer to let him go. I also ask what makes him not husband material? You should make sure you're not telling yourself years down the road, he was the one that got away. Perhaps the grass isn't greener on the other side.

CindyRuns · Answer

Personally, I'd cut him loose. You're tying yourself down to a dead end relationship and might actually be missing out on finding the love of your life !!

GreyEyedZayah12 · Answer

Ninety-nine percent of people dating, flirting, crushing and even marry, turn out to not be the one. Thank God I found my one and didn’t need  to travel to the Matrix to find her. 🖥⌨️

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

Then you probably shouldn't stay with him any longer. Let him find his the one and you find yours. Although you're 20 and that's a bit too early to get married. So don't try to race your friends. You're on a different journey than them

Alistayr · Answer

If that's the way you feel, don't lead him on. Deal with it now, rather than causing a lot of heartache later.

WhoDatGuy · Answer

Another example. Marriage before 25 is always a bad idea

OfDeath · Answer

Give it another shot and if it doesn't work out, dump him

Anonymous · Answer

Why’re you worried about getting married right now?  Focus on your future and success And cut him loose

pooper89 · Answer

End it because you are wasting your time at this point

Saurav11 · Answer

Lol at least u are clear about ur thoughts. Dump him asap.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Have fun dumping him. It's all good though.. He sounds like enough of a pussy to take you back after your "exploratory campaign"

Anonymous · Answer

So basically you wasted two years of this guys life because you were an indecisive cunt who couldn't make up her mind sooner. Way to go bitch. Fucking rot

Ninakaran · Answer

No. No point in this. Break up

LuWe22 · Answer

No. It would not be fair to him

Dionigi · Answer

Do you have any reasons to say he's not the one?

Mayar_Bashar · Answer

WHy do you think that?

agentleman90 · Answer

Nooooo. Find another man

Sabretooth · Answer

Stop wasting time

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