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I would be a retired millionaire by now if I had never let women get to me.
I have always lived by the 80/20 rule. 80% of your life should be about your passion and your purpose. 20% should be about friends, family, dating, etc etc. Many times people have it flipped. They put 80% into someone and 20% into themselves, purpose and passion and when it doesn't work out they are crushed to the point they feel like they have nothing. A balanced life is a good life. If a relationship doesn't work out and you are living the 80/20 correctly you still have so many great things to look forward to on a daily basis. You are not curled up in a ball for 3 months crying and asking why.
I think that seems pretty realistic, especially with how difficult dating can be these days.
I think insecurity and low self-esteem distract us from success. If you feel anxious & sad you're going to want more reassurance and to spend more time with your partner, this partner may also limit friends/contacts by being clingy & overly jealous or positions at work from wanting them home more often for longer.
But see if the person has a more healthy view & be happy for them to try new things, hang out with new people & to take time for themselves. A balance of work, relationship and play/friends.
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No. Love is not the problem. Being involved with the wrong people who hold you back from growing does. Love helps you to grow and succeed. But people think getting into relationships are a means to success, just like they think marriage is going to change their bad lifestyle when it doesn't. Marriage is not life like relationships aren't life. It's just one of the few parts of life.
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That really isn't a good question. Especially for us who actually suffer through that. I've been struggling with that. A few months now because my body is cleaning out a lot of garbage and it's been making me lose a lot of weight unintentionally. I really do not want to be reminded of it.
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It's possible if you are not focused on what you are working towards. I didn't date for a long time and one of the biggest reasons was that I didn't want any distractions from graduating college.
It can if you are not organized and focused.
Yes and no.
You can look at it from one standpoint where anything that takes you away from doing what you need to do, in order to improve your business directly is "distracting" or taking away from your individual success in business.
You can also look at it like, a man needs to have that area fulfilled at somepoint and not having it fulfilled is taking away from his capacity. So he can't truly focus on his business goal to full capacity, because that burning desire that is being left unfulfilled.
There's a book called The Laws of Success in 16 Lessons where they discuss universal principles of success and this was THE book that spawned all self help books that exist today. And something they mentioned was that every single man who was the most successful in his field had a raging sex life. Whether that be with his wife or with several women. All of them had a wild sex life.
To me that suggests it's not that love is a distraction, but having that burning desired going unfulfilled is correlated with being unable to meet your full capacity. If you have frequent sex in your downtime you can truly focus on your craft above all else, because you're working with your sexdrive. You're not drifting off in fantasy about what you wish you had. You know what you want, you go after what you want, you know you're going to get what you want and you succeed in getting it on a regular basis. You feel like a boss and that hard driving confidence carries over into everything you do. It's kind of hard to argue against that having regular sex makes you feel like more of a man and that it effects how a many comes at the world.
Another common theme is when a man has kids his productivity skyrockets regardless of his level of success at that time. Because he's in the role of provider and he has a kid now. He could be a millionaire and having a kid would likely have him end up being a multi millionaire in a short period of time.
I'll tell you from my experience. I'm a lover in everything I do. So if I'm in love with a person that would mean another "loving act" yet It would demand a lot from me, considering my own expectations on how would a relationship would be.
I'm in a phase of life in which I work full time while attend grad school. Time is very precious for me, since the little available one is weather to have personal space and self care routines along visiting family and friends. I'd love to have a loving partner that respects this time of life. Yet from my experience guys around my age whom have already have jobs find it "too much" when a woman is a bi a go getter. So maybe this is just not the timing for me or the "guys" aren't just prepared to handle it.
I think success means a lot of things, yet if you ask from the relational aspect I will all depend in how your mate signifies your growth as a human being acting for your goals. Those who love you, will want you to be successful and grown to become the best version of yourself.
*End of note: Love in the best of the times would be a positive distraction and add to your life, not a "stressful" aspect.
Love has helped me become a better person. Or at least grow as a person. I was very insecure and shy and was afraid of even touching other people until I met my current boyfriend.
I am very sensitive to when people are close to me and all up in my face (I might have some hints of aspergers according to some) but my boyfriend has helped me feel secure in his arms and not as scared of people touching me. And thanks to his love I have gone from the shy girl who never speaks, to a much more confident and outgoing person who has more friends than ever and is on my way to reaching my goal and dream.
Of course it's not just because of him, but I'd say he's a huge part of it. And since we live far away from each other, travelling so far for his love has helped me be more independant even when I'm all alone and stuck for hours at a train station. He has automatically merged with my dream and since my dream is in the same direction as he is, things are working out perfectly
Nah bro. The right person will want to see you succeed and will instinctively do everything they can to help you achieve your goals and dreams.
Sometimes loving the wrong person can have consequences such as they try to slow down your progress due to jealousy, selfishness or something insecure.
I’ve been in a relationship with a woman who did everything to help me achieve a goal despite her own personal biases against it but it never stopped her from being supportive.
Then I’ve been with a woman who tried to slow down my progress out of fear of “losing “ me if I was successful.
It just depends on the person you choose.
It can, if you get into a relationship with the wrong person. But it is easy to determine if its the right or wrong person for you, by checking if you have similar life values.
If you and your partner both value personal growth, self-development, trying new things, and have goals that you both want to achieve in the future. Then it would be hard to distract one another because both of you should be heading in the same direction and will be able to support and help each other grow to be better people.
You two might not even have the same goal, like she could want to work for NASA and you could want to run your own business. But the drive and the passion to pursue your dreams is what will keep you connected and will make the two of you the greatest teammates and allies towards getting what is important. Both of you would understand how much hard work needs to be put in and will be able to push one another towards greatness.
While love CAN distract, however, the right love won't. Your dreams are part of you, and if the person loves you they'll encourage and support you in your endeavors, but there are some people who only care about what THEY can get from a relationship, not how they can help the other.
I think it all depends on a persons self control and management skills. If you want to be successful, focus on yourself! What you do now, we'll reward you in the future.
Plus, you're only 18!! You have a lot to live for. Mistakes will be made and lessons wil be learnt, don't overthink or stress out too much.
Relax and go with the flow of life. Most important of all, focus on your journey to success... money, relationship and everything else will follow. Good luck man!!
i've only been in one relationship and from my experience as a uni student, it can be a huge distraction, especially if you're very focused on your career and shaping your future. This is why i've decided to dedicate my time and energy to my career goals, and once I have things figured out i'll get back to dating
It's more likely to be a motivator to be successful than to distract you. I get lazy when I'm by myself, because it only affects me and I get by with it. When there is someone else I have more motivation to be a better person.
Couples can motivate each other. That's why you have couples quit smoking together, go on diets together, join the gym together, etc. Each persons doesn't want to let the other down.
It can when you are young and studying hard for a career or whatever. I was skittish about getting into relationships while I was in college because I was studying hard and I was worried it would be a distraction. I did have a few girlfriends but with limited involvement.
depends on your goals and desire. it does take energy and distract because it isn't just love, but meeting the needs of another. Bible talks about this.
But in Love, there is great other stuff that helps you to rise to a new level you didn't kow possible. support. Love is what is in play... embrace it.
It depends on how each person views success. To some, getting a loving partner and building a family together is being successful and actually that's a life goal for many people.
If you're a career oriented person, maybe, love may be a distraction for you.
It definitely does. But there’s a twist. If successful on its own, then love can create a more powerful thing than material wealth ever could.
Growing together with someone you care about can lead to magnificent life experiences that can be treasured for a lifetime. And in that way, it has potential to make anything else irrelevant.
I've spent my entire life until now not pursuing relationships for fear of this being true, and I've come up short of a lot of my goals regardless. Lol. What this tells me is that I'm most likely bad at life, and people who aren't can handle both just fine.
Absolutely, but it has some rationale.
I have 30 years without a girlfriend, and they way I handled girls proved to be unsuccessful.
So there's a risk I could stay without a good partner if I don't do something about it.
They question is what is missing. I'm quite good at attracting girls, but not on turning the interaction into a partnership.
Your statement that "People spend more time looking for a partner than working for their dreams. (tbh thats me)" is based on what information? That applies to you by your own admission, but that's all you know. It seems to me that there's an "either / or " conception going on about it, and that's incorrect when it comes to REAL love. Real love doesn't get in the way, it accentuates.
It can, but it depends on what you're claiming success as. If you mean a successful career, that can happen if the partner expects a lot of attention, or wants them to take on a more traditional role, and doesn't encourage them to meet their goals or find a way to make it work. This is why having a life outside of the relationship is important.
Some people can't manage a nice balance between work and personal relationships. I see these types of people all the time: in college they got D's and F's because they were hanging out with friends instead of studying. At work they don't get a promotion/raise because they have a girlfriend/boyfriend.
I’ve been noticing is that I’m so busy pursuing my dream as a photographer and trying to get abs, that when a girl found me cute and we would text I texted her maybe once a week because I’m very busy and my last relationship I texted too much. She thought I didn’t care about her but the fact of the matter was that I was so busy that I had no time for her.
Actual love is necessary for success. Love brings strength, balance, perspective, and support.
Videl's love for Gohan supports him in everything he does and wish for him to be the best he can be in any endeavor and that he happy. Same as Gohan's love videl and pan give Gohan's successes purposes.
I just wish his dad's wife was like that!😂
As Nicola Tesla has been quoted as saying...
"I do not think you can name many great inventions that have been made by married men. Be alone, that is the secret of invention."
- Nikola Tesla (1856-1943)
Men don't generally become successful while with a woman, women generally stifle male ideas and plans. They want the after effect but don't want the risk.
It does get in the way since you're adding another goal or simply an activity to share with everything else. It can hurt you physically and emotionally which will impact your performance at work and everywhere else.
Yes. I don't care what anyone says.
that why most first loves don't last.
we have a strong need for self prevalence and it can not be ignored and it a walk that we are supposed to do alone. Not hand in hand
Damn Gohan, should have been a god but then he got hit by the juice lol
Yeah lol
Not at all. People keep blaming everything else.
What REALLY distracts you from being successful are 1) bad time management and 2) lack of discipline
I’ve been more motivated when I’m in love. So no lol
It definitely can. You start devoting yourself fully to that other person and just end up forgetting about yourself. Or you start relying on them too much.
It very much can.
But I think that it can also help you a lot.
In the end, it depends on yourself, the person you are with and the relationship the two of you share.
It depends on your life goal. It doesn't distract you from making a loving family and home, but it will distract you from being self sacrificing career person.
Yes it does usually and it can. However in healthy relationships success can still be had while being in love to your partner.
No, if anything it should actually give you a boost in wanting to do and achieve better
But, it also kinda depends on how the relationship is though, so yeah there`s also that
Only if u let it. Find the balance between the two & get that bag!
There are its restrictions however the loved individual can act as a motivator. That is of course the relationship you have is an actual good one.
It is only by both giving and receiving love that we have any hope of becoming a successful person through perfecting our humanity.
Lol at the difference between men and women... can't speak for all women but love is half of what I need for success... so it can't distract me...
Idts
I had seen many who distract from love and achieve success 😂
But
Also seen some, love distracted them from their main destiny...😅
So I think it depends on understandings with your true love...☺️
No because you are not really successful in much of a meaningful, satisfying way if your needs are not fulfilled. One of those needs is to love and be loved. Most people's life goals and achievements are absolutely laughable anyway.
It distracts us as much as we let it. It can require practice of willpower, but never has to distract us from anything else.
It would actually help motivate me to become a better person. (Just saiyan. lol)
Love usually makes people happy and want to do better. It’s a pretty powerful thing tbh.
It definitely can but it depends on the person’s discretion to prioritize their love life with other obligations so neither can interfere.
If the “love” you have distracts and prevents you from doing something great, it isn't love. True love nurtures.
Yes, in most cases. In my case, I'm motivated to become awesome regardless. I just need to figure out how to show that aspect of me in a more attractive way.
Heartbreak actually helps. It’s helped me immensely.
Love is blind sometimes and can do wonderful and bad things
It surely can. Especially at your age.
Love is about GIVING, not getting. So you really need to reach your place of success FIRST.
If that person loves you back they would help you reach your goals not stop you from attaining them
No, not if you prioritize your time properly.
Besides, being a successful person quickly becomes quite lonely when you have no one to share it with.
Like everything, it can. It depends how you can control it and place it in your life.
Love usually changes what you want to be successful at. For instance, being a successful husband and father instead of a successful amateur golfer.
As usual, classic Simpsons has it covered:
Maybe love helps define what success means to some people
Yes and no. Yes if you were already on your way to being successful. No because meeting someone amazing makes you wanna be amazing for them.
No. Love should do the opposite thing. People just don't know how to set their priorities and manager their time.
It can become a problem but everything in moderation
No, but then again, I never 'chase' love. I just approach it or it has approached me.
Love makes one successful, both in health and wealth.
Yes love can be a curse sometimes and destroy us instead of helping us to raise up
If you can't be successful because you're in love. Either its too toxic or you have no sense of responsibility
Only if you're obsessive about love.
Love can often give you the motivation to want to do better in life.
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