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I would be a retired millionaire by now if I had never let women get to me.
I have always lived by the 80/20 rule. 80% of your life should be about your passion and your purpose. 20% should be about friends, family, dating, etc etc. Many times people have it flipped. They put 80% into someone and 20% into themselves, purpose and passion and when it doesn't work out they are crushed to the point they feel like they have nothing. A balanced life is a good life. If a relationship doesn't work out and you are living the 80/20 correctly you still have so many great things to look forward to on a daily basis. You are not curled up in a ball for 3 months crying and asking why.
I think insecurity and low self-esteem distract us from success. If you feel anxious & sad you're going to want more reassurance and to spend more time with your partner, this partner may also limit friends/contacts by being clingy & overly jealous or positions at work from wanting them home more often for longer.
But see if the person has a more healthy view & be happy for them to try new things, hang out with new people & to take time for themselves. A balance of work, relationship and play/friends.
No. Love is not the problem. Being involved with the wrong people who hold you back from growing does. Love helps you to grow and succeed. But people think getting into relationships are a means to success, just like they think marriage is going to change their bad lifestyle when it doesn't. Marriage is not life like relationships aren't life. It's just one of the few parts of life.
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It's possible if you are not focused on what you are working towards. I didn't date for a long time and one of the biggest reasons was that I didn't want any distractions from graduating college.
It can if you are not organized and focused.
Yes and no.
You can look at it from one standpoint where anything that takes you away from doing what you need to do, in order to improve your business directly is "distracting" or taking away from your individual success in business.
You can also look at it like, a man needs to have that area fulfilled at somepoint and not having it fulfilled is taking away from his capacity. So he can't truly focus on his business goal to full capacity, because that burning desire that is being left unfulfilled.
There's a book called The Laws of Success in 16 Lessons where they discuss universal principles of success and this was THE book that spawned all self help books that exist today. And something they mentioned was that every single man who was the most successful in his field had a raging sex life. Whether that be with his wife or with several women. All of them had a wild sex life.
To me that suggests it's not that love is a distraction, but having that burning desired going unfulfilled is correlated with being unable to meet your full capacity. If you have frequent sex in your downtime you can truly focus on your craft above all else, because you're working with your sexdrive. You're not drifting off in fantasy about what you wish you had. You know what you want, you go after what you want, you know you're going to get what you want and you succeed in getting it on a regular basis. You feel like a boss and that hard driving confidence carries over into everything you do. It's kind of hard to argue against that having regular sex makes you feel like more of a man and that it effects how a many comes at the world.
Another common theme is when a man has kids his productivity skyrockets regardless of his level of success at that time. Because he's in the role of provider and he has a kid now. He could be a millionaire and having a kid would likely have him end up being a multi millionaire in a short period of time.
I'll tell you from my experience. I'm a lover in everything I do. So if I'm in love with a person that would mean another "loving act" yet It would demand a lot from me, considering my own expectations on how would a relationship would be.
I'm in a phase of life in which I work full time while attend grad school. Time is very precious for me, since the little available one is weather to have personal space and self care routines along visiting family and friends. I'd love to have a loving partner that respects this time of life. Yet from my experience guys around my age whom have already have jobs find it "too much" when a woman is a bi a go getter. So maybe this is just not the timing for me or the "guys" aren't just prepared to handle it.
I think success means a lot of things, yet if you ask from the relational aspect I will all depend in how your mate signifies your growth as a human being acting for your goals. Those who love you, will want you to be successful and grown to become the best version of yourself.
Love has helped me become a better person. Or at least grow as a person. I was very insecure and shy and was afraid of even touching other people until I met my current boyfriend.
I am very sensitive to when people are close to me and all up in my face (I might have some hints of aspergers according to some) but my boyfriend has helped me feel secure in his arms and not as scared of people touching me. And thanks to his love I have gone from the shy girl who never speaks, to a much more confident and outgoing person who has more friends than ever and is on my way to reaching my goal and dream.
Of course it's not just because of him, but I'd say he's a huge part of it. And since we live far away from each other, travelling so far for his love has helped me be more independant even when I'm all alone and stuck for hours at a train station. He has automatically merged with my dream and since my dream is in the same direction as he is, things are working out perfectly
Nah bro. The right person will want to see you succeed and will instinctively do everything they can to help you achieve your goals and dreams.
Sometimes loving the wrong person can have consequences such as they try to slow down your progress due to jealousy, selfishness or something insecure.
I’ve been in a relationship with a woman who did everything to help me achieve a goal despite her own personal biases against it but it never stopped her from being supportive.
Then I’ve been with a woman who tried to slow down my progress out of fear of “losing “ me if I was successful.
It just depends on the person you choose.
It can, if you get into a relationship with the wrong person. But it is easy to determine if its the right or wrong person for you, by checking if you have similar life values.
If you and your partner both value personal growth, self-development, trying new things, and have goals that you both want to achieve in the future. Then it would be hard to distract one another because both of you should be heading in the same direction and will be able to support and help each other grow to be better people.
You two might not even have the same goal, like she could want to work for NASA and you could want to run your own business. But the drive and the passion to pursue your dreams is what will keep you connected and will make the two of you the greatest teammates and allies towards getting what is important. Both of you would understand how much hard work needs to be put in and will be able to push one another towards greatness.
While love CAN distract, however, the right love won't. Your dreams are part of you, and if the person loves you they'll encourage and support you in your endeavors, but there are some people who only care about what THEY can get from a relationship, not how they can help the other.
I think it all depends on a persons self control and management skills. If you want to be successful, focus on yourself! What you do now, we'll reward you in the future.
Plus, you're only 18!! You have a lot to live for. Mistakes will be made and lessons wil be learnt, don't overthink or stress out too much.
Relax and go with the flow of life. Most important of all, focus on your journey to success... money, relationship and everything else will follow. Good luck man!!
i've only been in one relationship and from my experience as a uni student, it can be a huge distraction, especially if you're very focused on your career and shaping your future. This is why i've decided to dedicate my time and energy to my career goals, and once I have things figured out i'll get back to dating
It's more likely to be a motivator to be successful than to distract you. I get lazy when I'm by myself, because it only affects me and I get by with it. When there is someone else I have more motivation to be a better person.
Couples can motivate each other. That's why you have couples quit smoking together, go on diets together, join the gym together, etc. Each persons doesn't want to let the other down.
It can when you are young and studying hard for a career or whatever. I was skittish about getting into relationships while I was in college because I was studying hard and I was worried it would be a distraction. I did have a few girlfriends but with limited involvement.
depends on your goals and desire. it does take energy and distract because it isn't just love, but meeting the needs of another. Bible talks about this.
But in Love, there is great other stuff that helps you to rise to a new level you didn't kow possible. support. Love is what is in play... embrace it.
It depends on how each person views success. To some, getting a loving partner and building a family together is being successful and actually that's a life goal for many people.
If you're a career oriented person, maybe, love may be a distraction for you.
It definitely does. But there’s a twist. If successful on its own, then love can create a more powerful thing than material wealth ever could.
Growing together with someone you care about can lead to magnificent life experiences that can be treasured for a lifetime. And in that way, it has potential to make anything else irrelevant.
I've spent my entire life until now not pursuing relationships for fear of this being true, and I've come up short of a lot of my goals regardless. Lol. What this tells me is that I'm most likely bad at life, and people who aren't can handle both just fine.
Absolutely, but it has some rationale.
I have 30 years without a girlfriend, and they way I handled girls proved to be unsuccessful.
So there's a risk I could stay without a good partner if I don't do something about it.
They question is what is missing. I'm quite good at attracting girls, but not on turning the interaction into a partnership.
It can, but it depends on what you're claiming success as. If you mean a successful career, that can happen if the partner expects a lot of attention, or wants them to take on a more traditional role, and doesn't encourage them to meet their goals or find a way to make it work. This is why having a life outside of the relationship is important.
Some people can't manage a nice balance between work and personal relationships. I see these types of people all the time: in college they got D's and F's because they were hanging out with friends instead of studying. At work they don't get a promotion/raise because they have a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Your statement that "People spend more time looking for a partner than working for their dreams. (tbh thats me)" is based on what information? That applies to you by your own admission, but that's all you know. It seems to me that there's an "either / or " conception going on about it, and that's incorrect when it comes to REAL love. Real love doesn't get in the way, it accentuates.
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