Girls why do you like guys that control you?

[Finchie40]

I notice this a lot and I am not saying every girl but a large amount of. girls fall for. guys that treat them like shit. Why is that? Guy tells you what you can wear, or what you can eat, who you can talk to , Not to fart near him etc.. And you Girls fall for. this shit why? I dated girls that didn't give me sex until i was frustrated and mad and was saying demanding stuff like get away from me , stop looking at me , Go clean the dishes or something , and that's the shit that got me laid from these Girls , it was like i had this power over them, back of my mind i was thinking this is insane but it's working lol but why not be with someone that Lets you be you and doesn't control you? Only time I like to be somewhat dominate is in bed cuz i like being submissive as well but way do u Girls tolerate abuse like this from guys?

[MotionlessStorm]

I think there's a thrill for a lot of girls to "win" the guy, to change him in some way. Plus, usually I hear "you don't know him like I do, he's sweet sometimes" and girls will cling on to the sweet moments as some kind of justification for the bad.
I think a lot of guys also think that having control will make the girl want them more. I'm currently in a dating situation where the guy started out sweet as a button, but now he's turned into a bit of an ass and I've backed off. He'll say things like "I'll have you eating out of the palm of my hand" and "You've been mine since the day we met whether you admit it or not, I have all the control here." and that terrifies me. However, it does keep him on my mind frequently, because it's unnerving that someone I liked so much could get under my skin like this and think he has this power over me. I find myself wanting to prove him wrong, but have to remind myself I'm worth more and I'm above playing this game.
There's a level of intrigue. These guys are keeping themselves out of reach and humans want what they can't have so by being manipulative these guys are making their women crave them more and more by treating them like shit.

[Finchie40]

I hear ya and it's sad that people let themselves be walked on like that , i dated a girl that told me her ex would tell her what she could wear what she could eat etc.. I looked at her like she is the one that is nuts to allow a guy tontreat her that way. When i get into a relationship the only thing I expect is the girl to value the relationship , we didn't commit to be single and I didn't. commit to be told what to do but she will be my priority when it comes down to making decisions , most people r very selfish and only really think of themselves , thats where a relationship Fall apart. If you can't wear your partners shoes like they wear yours then it won't last The only time i would be controlling to her is in bed if she liked being submissive as for me I like both lol

[Anonymous]

What people don't seem to get is it's one of 2 things. Either they like being submissive. They feel they can fix that person.
Or like the situation I was in, knowing the guy for years as my best friend then once making things official turning completely controlling so by that point you lovee them and are willing to make excuses for their behaviour on the basis you feel like if they were nice before then that's how they really are. Rather than the fact they were hidi g it at the begining

[DizzyDesii]

I like if the guy is dominant in bed and i do like being told what other guys i can/cant talk to. The rest is a no go 🤷‍♀️

[ambarlee25]

I didn't see at first. I was on cloud nine for awhile I guess.

It just got to a point where I felt I had changed myself so much just to keep him happy and he still asked for more, I just gave up. I'm too tired now.

[Finchie40]

Yea when we give ourselves to someone with all our heart we. tend to overlook the negatives of that person thinking we can change them. But the reality. of it is we. can't change them , way it's important to focus on yourself more and love the way u want to be loved , we can't force someone to love us all. we. can do is guide them , if they choose to walk away or to be controlling or mean all we can do. for ourselves is to walk away , never per someone manipulate u. Love is and equal bond , for love to grow removing selfishness is the key

[Ola1234]

It shows he value u

[Finchie40]

He values you if he controls you? Dont you consider that abuse?

[Ola1234]

That control emphasise care in it

[Finchie40]

That 'to me sounds like room for disaster , u give someone to much control they take advantage of. ypu and end up cheating.