Might be hard-wired but I'm in general bothered by people who are indecisive. I can take charge but I'd rather someone else did. It's perceived as "weak" because you'd then allow yourself to be persuade by someone else. It's also part of how I was raised. Around this house, you make up your mind and don't do wish-washy.
It's a form of confidence. I know what I want, I'll tell you how I feel and if I want something done, it will get done. I'm attracted to the same in a guy. It's like a dance, if a man lets me lead, he's out automatically. I don't care how amazing he is but if I can move him and he doesn't resist, I'm walking away.
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I don't see taking charge as a masculine quality let alone a necessity in my partner. I find it quite a turn off as I don't like being in the weaker or secondary role in any relationship.
I know exactly what I want and I am perfectly capable of taking charge and making that happen for myself; as for my partner, it is his life and he can live it as he pleases but if he wants to be with me then he will have to learn to let me be the one in charge.
I don't think it is a question of women being "hard wired" to seek a dominant male, more like gender roles that some women are comfortable with and some are not.
Blame men for this problem. Women have been cut out of so many decision making , take charge roles and confined to bump their head on the glass ceiling--that many women simply expect a man to take charge. I don't know really know if women are "hard-wired" to follow or want a take charge man, so much as she is shaped into a mold where men control and take charge of the world in which she lives.
My advice: Provoke a fight with as many take charge men as you can. Fight tirelessly for women's rights. Marry a feminist and become a stay at home dad.
Indicates dominance which equates to status. Status is highly preferable among the animal kingdom and may be the only trait that can trump physical attraction. A woman sees such a man you describe, her instincts think that her babies with him will grow up to be dominating, rather than dominated. And no woman wants babies that are dominated.
i guess it's an Alpha Male thing
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it's a biological thing so that she will be sure that she and her children won't starve or be left wanting for anything because the male gets it for them. it's how the animal kingdom is, the woman bears and rears the children as well as some other work and the man provides for him and his family. the man does this so that he will attract a strong female and have healthy offspring i.e. his genes will be carried on after he dies. it's hardwired.
if you seem weak she won't think you can protect her
everyone likes to follow someone who can take charge and some people want to be that one who takes charge. If you were going to war, would you rather be led by someone who is confident or someone who is so demoralized and thinks they are going to lose before the battle even begins?You don't have to "take charge". Well, not all the time. Sometimes its nice if the girl is in charge too. But for other things, its better for the guy to be "in charge". Its not a " turn on" but it is attractive. For me it shows masculinity.
Meh. If men are 'supposed' to be the hunters, than women are supposed to cook, clean, and wash my cloths for me.
Any takers?
I thought not." logically how does it make a guy weak?"
Well, there's your problem.
Women are not(usually) logical beings. Attraction is not a logical 'process'.
If you try to think about it logically there is no way you will understand it. However, you can use logic to take advantage of it.yeah I know, just because a guy is shy, afraid, timid to approach a girl and ask her out does not mean he will be afraid to protect her, those are 2 different issues
i like it because it makes me feel protected somehow and kind of like a hero I guess
I heard they're hard wired maybe it has something to due with society's streotypical roles
Making them seem manly.
So we can sit back and do nothing
i hate the cards I was dealt with for this
tell me about it, pisses me off!
Well I'm submissive so what can I say
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