Married, yes. About to be married, also yes because we are clearing debt together for the marriage to happen. No plan to be married, no.
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Well, yes and no. Yes because I did, and no because I'll never do it again. I helped a girlfriend pay off a little under $6,000 in credit card debt because she was paying a very high interest rate and wasn't making any progress toward paying down the principal. She ended up breaking up with me shortly after that. She was a fucking gold digger and I was a fucking idiot.
And this is the reason why everyone should be responsible for their own debt. Credit card debts (and any other debts) can be consolidated into debt loans. These loans or repayment agreements can easily be arranged to suit your income/repayment abilities.
Well, I could help her by letting her live at my place with no cost and pay for day to days grocerystuff, so she can use her own money to get rid of her debt.
But I would not share my money to pay of her debts, no.
I will do it but it depends upon the status of relationship and her ranking. If She is really worth it I will do it otherwise, I will only small portion as charity for poor people.
If we are not married, I'd help them consolidate their debt and help them with their budget. If they really want to get out of debt, I'll help them start a low overhead business.
What happened before me (good or bad) is their problem. I don't expect him to share lottery winnings he got from before marriage, he shouldn't expect me to help with debts. I am happy living on a budget till he pays them off but they're on him.
At two years, we'd know if we're going to marry each other or not, even if we're not officially engaged yet. Assuming we haven't broken up, then yes, I would if I could.
Well depends if they done a lot for me in those years which I assume they had. I mean if they pay you back when they can it’s good but if not they will pay you back in one or another way. Depends also what amount.
Yes if we where married because I feel since we are a married couple it's family. But I don't wish to be fully committed so I'm free haha. If we are just dating that's your money to deal with.
If we were married I would, but not being married I wouldn't, I would be willing to pay a larger portion or all of the expenses of going on dates, but I'm not helping them with their loans unless we're married or at least engaged.
While I’d like to get married, reasons like these are why I’m afraid of it at the same time. I have bills of my own and now I have to be responsible of your liabilities too?
If married or live-in partners I would without hesitation, if just a girlfriend I might hand them some money once in a while but not rmake payments on their loan.
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Married, yes. About to be married, also yes because we are clearing debt together for the marriage to happen. No plan to be married, no.
Well, yes and no. Yes because I did, and no because I'll never do it again. I helped a girlfriend pay off a little under $6,000 in credit card debt because she was paying a very high interest rate and wasn't making any progress toward paying down the principal. She ended up breaking up with me shortly after that. She was a fucking gold digger and I was a fucking idiot.
And this is the reason why everyone should be responsible for their own debt. Credit card debts (and any other debts) can be consolidated into debt loans. These loans or repayment agreements can easily be arranged to suit your income/repayment abilities.
If not married?
Well, I could help her by letting her live at my place with no cost and pay for day to days grocerystuff, so she can use her own money to get rid of her debt.
But I would not share my money to pay of her debts, no.
I will do it but it depends upon the status of relationship and her ranking. If She is really worth it I will do it otherwise, I will only small portion as charity for poor people.
If we are not married, I'd help them consolidate their debt and help them with their budget. If they really want to get out of debt, I'll help them start a low overhead business.
What happened before me (good or bad) is their problem. I don't expect him to share lottery winnings he got from before marriage, he shouldn't expect me to help with debts. I am happy living on a budget till he pays them off but they're on him.
At two years, we'd know if we're going to marry each other or not, even if we're not officially engaged yet. Assuming we haven't broken up, then yes, I would if I could.
Well depends if they done a lot for me in those years which I assume they had. I mean if they pay you back when they can it’s good but if not they will pay you back in one or another way. Depends also what amount.
Yes if we where married because I feel since we are a married couple it's family. But I don't wish to be fully committed so I'm free haha. If we are just dating that's your money to deal with.
Yes I would help to pay off my husband’s debts because it would benefit us both as a married couple in the future.
I help my partner pay off his debt, with part of his loan he bought a Ute I pay off him weekly. Plus he has his credit card which we bought pay off
And he's in the tens of thousands of debt, but we both see a future between us so I find it like both of our debt🤷🏻♀️
If we were married I would, but not being married I wouldn't, I would be willing to pay a larger portion or all of the expenses of going on dates, but I'm not helping them with their loans unless we're married or at least engaged.
Absolutely. I paid a credit card debt he had ($250 ish I believe) and would do it again if need be.
I would say no, but depends on how long we have been together.
I wouldn't even date someone who has debt.
Don't buy things you can't afford, it's that simple.
What about student loans? That doesn't apply to your rule.
No way. It is too common for women to use men for money. If she even asked I'd just figure she was trying to use me and I'd want to leave her.
If we're in long relationship, like a couple of years or so, I probably would.
While I’d like to get married, reasons like these are why I’m afraid of it at the same time. I have bills of my own and now I have to be responsible of your liabilities too?
If married or live-in partners I would without hesitation, if just a girlfriend I might hand them some money once in a while but not rmake payments on their loan.
Only if she is my wife and the mother of my children